My Son Ray was my second son. He was such a good baby. He was born in North Carolina so I always called him "My Little Tar Heel".

He grew into such a wonderful man and was so good and helpful. When his grandmother Smith needed help he was there to help her. He found her the day she had her stroke and it about killed him. He had such a tender loving heart. After my husband died, he called me every single night to make sure I had made it home from work and I was ok. Oh how I miss those nightly calls.

He loved antiques and collectibles and it was one of the things that we loved doing together on the weekend. And when the antique show would come to town, we would go spend several hours seeing what treasures it held. Then we would go out to lunch together. It has been hard for me to go to these shows without him.

Whenever I had things that needed done on my barn, yard or house he was there to help.

Then on December 4, 2011 I took him to the emergency room as he was in so much pain. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. The doctor tried to get him to go to the cancer hospital and he told him no that he had a job he needed to finish the next day. (He was a drywaller). Well he finished the job and worked a few more days and could no longer do it. He only lived 6 weeks and 1 day when this dreaded disease took him away from his family.

It is hard to express the pain and panic of not getting an answer from someone you know is ill, and when you go to check on your loved one you find that they have left this worldly life. I could not believe that my baby boy was gone.
I Loved him so much and will never get over the pain and loss.

Ray you will NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. We all love you so much. Love Mom and your family

UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN MY DEAR SWEET SON. Love Mom

DADDY I LOVE AND MISS YOU SO MUCH EVERY SINGLE DAY.
LOVE KAYLA

Raymond Dean Coley
July 25,1963 - January 16,2012

Raymond Dean Coley, Father,Son,Brother,Uncle passed away on January 16,2012 after a battle with pancreatic cancer.

Raymond was born on July 25,1963 in Sanford, North Carolina, the son of Clifton Ray and Esther Smith Coley.
Ray grew up in Salt Lake, Kearns and West Jordan. He attended Bingham high school.

He loved going fishing when he was a kid with his family. Ray married Debra Torgerson who had two small boys, Josh and Casey Lujan. Ray and Debbie had their beautiful daughter Kayla and they were a family unit for 10 years. This union ended in divorce. Ray loved the time spent with his daughter Kayla.

Ray was a godsend to his grandmother Smith and his Mother. He was always there to help if they needed help.

He worked for Lannie Wilkes Drywall for 28 years. Ray loved his antiques and collectibles and lived for the next treasure that he would find.

Ray is survived by his daughter Kayla Coley, Mother Esther S. Kinder, Sister Cathy Coley. Nephews Ben and Alex Doyle, Blayne and Draigh Coley. Sister in law Joy Coley and all extended family members. Preceeded in death by his grandparents, Father, Stepdad Don Kinder, and Brother James R. Coley.

Ray you left such an empty spot in our hearts and you will be loved and missed by everyone who knew you.

Funeral services will be held on Friday at 11 a.m. at the Broomhead Funeral Home. 12600 So. 2200 West Riverton where friends my call an hour prior. Interment in the Draper Cemetery.

Published in the Salt Lake Tribune on January 18,2012

A VERY SPECIAL THANK YOU TO MATTHEW JENKINS FOR SPONSORING MY SON'S MEMORIAL. BLESS YOU SIR

THANK YOU SO MUCH TO ALL WHO LEAVE
FLOWERS FOR MY BELOVED SON.
AND TO BELOVED EDIE WHO NEVER FORGETS.
IT MEANS SO MUCH TO MYSELF
AND OUR FAMILY...GOD BLESS YOU ALL......

I NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO SAY GOODBYE-

Wish I could go back to the day
When angels came and took you away.
I wanted to hold your hand so tight
Kiss you gently and say goodnight.
And then just before you had to go
I would tell you how much I love you so.
I didn't know how I don't know why
I never got the chance to say goodbye.

By John F Connor

We are connected, my child and I,
By an invisible cord not seen by the eye.
It's not like the cord that connects us at birth.
This cord can't be seen by any on earth.
This cord does not work right from the start,
It binds us together, attached to my heart.
I know that it's there though no one can see,
This invisible cord, from my child to me.
The strength of this cord, It's hard to describe.
It can't be destroyed, It can't be denied.
It's stronger then any cord man could create.
It withstands the test, can hold any weight.
And though you are gone and you're not here with me.
The cord is still there, but no one can see.
It pulls at my heart, I am bruised, I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline, as never before.
I'm thankful that God connects us this way,
A mother and child...Death can't take it away.
~Author Unknown