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Russ Dodge (#309)
 member for 14 years, 5 months, 24 days
Keeper of the Stars
Dear Russ,I have been having a very difficult experience on Find A Grave. My # 47216601, S Ayer, "Keeper of the Stars." I have been a member for five years and truly appreciate what all of you are doing on this site. However,there is a person who goes by; "BE NOT FORGOT," (Shirley) who removes my memorials, photos etc. She tells me she has been SELECTED for this wonderful position by the staff of Find A Grave. Today as I went to flower my precious Aunt on her Angel Day, I see where SHIRLEY was at it again...her timing is cruel. I understand there can't be duplicates...and I have always checked to the best of my knowledge not to do that. That I can live with and do understand the rules. But, after flowering over 111,000 memorials, I have seen just about everything that no one seems to care about unless it has something to do with me. There is a double standard sadly. If you feel I need to be "watched closely," then perhaps it is time for me to leave.I would appreciate your response. Sincerely, Susan

Added by Keeper of the Stars on Feb 26, 2015 2:50 PM

12th NJ Infantry Burials
Hi Russ,
I have information on burials of two Civil War veterans of the 12th NJ Infantry and one veteran of the 2nd NJ Cavalry. These are their Find A Grave memorial #'s:

John C. Nensteal/Neusteal, Private, Co. H, 12th NJ Inf. - Find A Grave #22906478.

William H. B. Ward, Private, Co. K, 12th NJ Inf. - Find A Grave #34245452.

Henry Nenstiel/Neustiel, Private, Co. G, 2nd NJ Cavalry - Find A Grave #143042794.


Added by dyo on Feb 25, 2015 1:21 PM

I thank you very much for this site. I am a contributor and this is one of my favorite site. Is there anything we can do for our loved ones that are cremated? It would be great if we could do memorials form them also. What are your thoughts on this?


Added by dl on Feb 24, 2015 10:01 AM

Pamela Olschewski
Richard Gosline
Hi Russ,
I have been researching the Wildey family which includes Elizabeth who married Richard Gosline. I am glad you've posted this gravestone. I thought I'd let you know that you have put 1909 as the death date when it is actually 1902. Easy to do when you are entering so many of these. I am assuming a heads up would be welcome to you. I have had a few people react negatively if I point something out, but I know in my genealogy records, I appreciate it. So I'm hoping you are the same.
Again thanks for posting these.
Pam Olschewski

Added by Pamela Olschewski on Feb 21, 2015 6:47 PM

J McMenis
James Thomas Harvill
Please combine 124194208 with 121878050. Thank you for all you do.

Added by J McMenis on Feb 21, 2015 3:14 PM

Donna Fraser
Thank you

Added by Donna Fraser on Feb 15, 2015 10:19 AM

Donna Fraser
Michael Lambert Igoe
Is there any way to have a family member transferred as it is showing as a famous person but it is my Great Uncle?
Thanks Donna

Added by Donna Fraser on Feb 15, 2015 10:15 AM

J McMenis
James Thomas Harvill
Please combine 124194208 with 121878050. Thank you for all you do.

Added by J McMenis on Feb 14, 2015 8:12 PM

Jerry Coffman
Hi, I am wondering if it could be that when a person sets up a memorial that they have to give info as to where they got the information used to do the memorial so people looking for the person will know if it was from an obit in the paper or just where it came from. I ask this because I find some that the cemeteries say they do not have the person I am looking for so I have to go back to the person that set up the memorial to try and find out why.
Can something like this be added to the memorial set up????
Jerry Coffman
Find A Grave #47381729

Added by Jerry Coffman on Feb 09, 2015 9:00 AM

Pamela Thompson
Gravestone Photo Permission

I am happy to see that you photographed the gravestone of General Benjamin Alvord in Evergreen Cemetery, Vermont (Memorial# 22684).

I would like to add this gravestone photo to the (non-profit) Alford American Family Association's collection of District of Columbia Obituaries, where his obituary is included because he died there. You can see the current collection at

May I have your permission to include your gravestone photos? If so, I will add this to the photo caption:

Photo from [cemetery name, city, county, state]—
Permission granted by the photographer, Russ Dodge

And thanks so much for your gravestone photo work!

Best regards,
Pamela Alford Thompson (Find A Grave #47195155)
Obituaries Project Manager, Alford American Family Association

Added by Pamela Thompson on Feb 07, 2015 12:15 PM

Find A Grave Volunteer
Lucille Ball
Are you aware that Lucille Ball has two memorials?

Added by Find A Grave Volunteer on Feb 04, 2015 12:12 AM

Martin Douglas Packer
Lieut. David Edmonds, Madingley, UK
Russ, I have made a photograph request for your memorial with the following comment: "Can someone (anyone) try to get images for this memorial and all of which at Madingley which need photographs? Note: ONLY FOUR new memorials added in the last three months, and three of whose are ones which I added yesterday. If there are really "7 volunteers within ten miles" of this location, why are NO images being added to Cambridge American War Cemetery?" Look forward to hearing from you, Martin

Added by Martin Douglas Packer on Feb 01, 2015 12:18 PM

Martin Douglas Packer
Lieut. David Edmonds, Madingley, UK
Have you read "Wild Blue Yonder: Glory Days Of The US Eighth Air Force in England", by Martin W. Bowman (Cassell, published in 2003); I have! MDP

Added by Martin Douglas Packer on Feb 01, 2015 12:10 PM

Mt. Moriah Cemetery PA.
Thank you for posting photo of Mt Moriah to John Iannetti. Grateful for your time & help.

Added by Judith on Jan 26, 2015 10:59 AM

Allan C. Martin
Find A Grave duplicate account
Hi Russ, Allan Martin here i have a duplicate account i would like to delete one #47206434, i can't find any way to do this can you help ? Thank you.

Added by Allan C. Martin on Jan 21, 2015 11:39 AM

John Winterbotham
Transfer of Graves
Hi Russ-
Sorry to bother you but there are three graves that I would love to have transferred to me so I can properly maintain as they are my Uncle and Family.
III (#47426837) Contributor to me - John Winterbotham (#48166878)
They are - 124074548 Owen Sweeney; 124074538 Mary Patricia Sweeney and 124074553 Patrick Sweeney - all in Bundaberg Cemetery Qld.
I sent a request to III who has not got a profile
to transfer these graves in November but am still awaiting.
Can you please oblige me.
Thanks for your help
John Winterbotham.

Added by John Winterbotham on Dec 28, 2014 2:48 AM

james masker
find a grave
hi russ its james
I finally sent those pictures of the civil war soldiers over to mount Moriah office -- now that they got those pictures perhaps you can research their name back grounds -- I do not have that kind of talent where I can dig past the past --but I hope you can use those pictures I emailed in to mount Moriah-
this spring I want to explore more of that cemetery and send in more photos so your researchers can check back on their history
again thank you

Added by james masker on Dec 27, 2014 12:46 AM

22nd New Jersey
I'd appreciate it if you could add my gggrandfather, Robert D. Brower 11192274 to your NJ 22nd listing. Many thanks!

Added by whytehs on Dec 12, 2014 2:41 PM

Chris Porter
I didn't quite understand Find A Grave when I started and I did a few things wrong. This lady on Find A Grave is harassing me and I don't know what to do. Please help.

Added by Chris Porter on Dec 11, 2014 12:40 PM

Bernard Johnson
Bobby Bonds
In case you weren't aware, I placed a photo of the Bobby Bonds marker at his memorial.

Added by Bernard Johnson on Dec 07, 2014 10:24 AM

LeAnn R
Sorry for auto corrects
I'm on my cellphone

Added by LeAnn R on Dec 03, 2014 7:51 PM

LeAnn R
weirdest day
I have been doing some genealogy on ancestry today. But when I was checking indo between family members there and thierprofIles here some things didn't add up. So I sent edits and links to my findings at ancestry. But and toys is where it gets weird apparently same person was running a couple of these pages and she couldn't access the links then got weird about corrections. Please see emails sent to me today from find a grave and messages this person put on my member page. Complete over reaction, and I have no intention of dealing with her again, I'm truly sorry she is "ill" as she put it first time, then added what with last msg?? She is running several of my families memorials and not being professional at all.

Added by LeAnn R on Dec 03, 2014 7:50 PM

What email address do I use when I need to talk to someone at Find A Grave?

Added by Cadmus on Dec 02, 2014 4:33 PM

A Horan
Adm Alan Kirk at ANC
Hi, Russ,
Just thought I'd check to see if you gave permission for your headstone photo on memorial # 12932 (Adm Kirk at Arlington National) to be copied to memorial # 124984104 (Lydia Kirk, Adm Kirk's wife)?

Added by A Horan on Dec 01, 2014 4:35 PM

Carol Tessein
Wm. Bernhard Haeffner #22829714
Original msg. sent on May 29. Second request sent on 10/9/2014. Please add the following to his bio:

Major league baseball player 1915-1928. Catcher for the Philadelphia Athletics, the Pittsburgh Pirates and the New York Giants.

Head baseball coach at LaSalle University from 1947 to 1952.

Added by Carol Tessein on Nov 30, 2014 2:13 PM


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