"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." --George Santayana
Requests and Transfers Please see below my bio:
I've loved history, research and have been fascinated with the Old West/Victorian times, since I can remember. So when I was introduced to genealogy it just fit! It began for me in 1991 when I was asked by a sweet, elderly neighbor to help her with her family history, as she was legally blind and "afraid to learn how to do this stuff alone, and I sense you love well and learn well." I gave it a try, was quickly hooked and later, became a Genealogist. My first realization that history was a passion for me began in childhood and came through the freakish looks my friends would give me as I'd stand motionless and stare at the dilapidated remains of old cabins, sheds and homesteads; wishing that for just a few seconds I could go back in time to see and feel what they did. I wanted to know what life was like for those that lived there, built their lives literally by the sweat of their brow and sacrificed so much in search of truth, freedoms and a new way. I'm grateful for and to them.
I was born in 1962, happily married since 1983, have three sons, one daughter, three stepsons and many grandchildren. I grew up in Utah County, mostly Provo, but have lived in Montana since 1996. I love: my family, music, learning, truth, teaching, humor, words, reading, research, singing, children, history, psychology, horses and dogs, mountains, four seasons, sewing, creating, designing, color, being trusted, defending people, organizing, quilts, observing people, serving, volunteering, and the many opportunities I've been given to help people find the best in themselves... their gifts. I love my Savior, Jesus Christ, and His simple truths He shares. I don't love: making mistakes, my weaknesses, condescension, injustice, when power is more important than people, abuse of any kind, especially of the innocent; the use of "so called" truth and religion to gain control over people (ignoring the gift of free will), and when fear stops people from doing the right thing, especially when I notice it in myself.
Pursuing my family history has provided me with much more than I ever anticipated. I am the oldest of six children, as well as, three half brothers and a stepsister. I grew up fast in an incestuous, abusive, negligent, sadistic, chronically traumatic and controlled; yet deeply religious home. I lied to hide it, protect, relate and survive. I felt (and was expected to be) responsible to the extreme, for the well-being of my younger siblings and saw clearly, at a young age, that my parents had been harmed, also. I had many questions, feelings and needs I wasn't allowed to express. The effects caused four disabilities, but I am healing. I've had much to heal in terms of trust in anything or anyone, identity, hope, and just how far back this multi-generational hell goes. Why are the meek, shy, honest and loving in my family devoured by the rest? The ultimate examples are the murder of my paternal grandfather (one of two adults I ever felt unconditional love from in my family) by his own wife, when I was nine years old; as well as, the suicide of one brother. I could not accept that to be loving, sensitive and truthful meant you'd be abused/destroyed and it contradicted the Gospel I was "taught" in the same family and home. I've found some answers, learned much and continue to. The Gospel of Jesus Christ will ALWAYS be true.
I've learned that my heritage also has much greatness besides horrendous abuses and suffering. I see now why I was so compelled to be the first in at least four generations (that I know of) to speak the ugly truth out loud...at age 15. I've been denied, persecuted, threatened, abandoned and alienated by the same people I dedicated my life to. Blamed for "ruining the family" by not keeping the secrets, but still used as their servant, confidant and the only one they could turn to when they needed to be loved, a place to live, to speak their truth and be understood. I see and feel intensely, as I move through my healing and the discovery of each ancestor; that they are grateful the truth is out. They're sorry for the destruction they either passed down or concealed (denied) and they feel freedom as I find and slowly forgive them. They want and need the truth more than ever, since leaving this life. They are grateful that they matter, that their lives did, and that even though much denial still exists in their posterity...the opportunity to face the truth has been offered because it has been spoken out loud and brought out of the shadows, lies, secrets and denial that have enabled it to infect each new generation. They know me...I know them. They can progress from where they are and so can I. We help each other. They matter and have great worth... and they help me finally know that I do too. ______________
Requests Please use edit function on memorial. I'm happy to add/correct info if requested with respect, kindness and your source. You may use my headstone/cemetery photos for non-commercial use.
Transfers I love this work, this website and volunteer a lot of my time here. However, transfers have become a real issue, many Find A Grave friends are noticing the same thing. Most people are great when negotiating transfers, but too many are toxic. Due to demanding and disrespectful correspondence I now adhere strictly to Find A Grave transfer rules. Also, a transfer will not happen if you: Fail to state relationship: spouse, parent, sibling, grandparent, great-grandparent, children, grandchildren or great-grandchildren | are a collector (harvesting with few contributions) | make demands | request on my public profile - please use edit function | create duplicate claiming you'll delete after transfer | or have been abusive in the past. You can add memorial to your virtual cemetery instead. Abuses will be reported with screenshot as proof. No exceptions. I'm sorry some create the need for these rules to exist. I'm grateful to those that know how to conduct themselves in an appropriate, kind and adult way. Let's keep in mind why and how this website exists.
Please remember I have 30 days to respond to requests, rarely taking longer than 24 hours. I've been entrusted with almost 2500 memorials from inactive, photo-only or fallen gravers, besides memorials I've added; so it takes time to maintain them all. Please be patient. Enjoy Find A Grave! ______________
RE: Gregory Guidice's mother's maiden name You are welcome, Annie. Greg was a dear friend of mine in our high school days. I think that Miss Joyce is still alive, and while I was reading your message, I was wondering who I could call and find out the true maiden name. Greg's first wife, Laurie, and I were best of friends in high school. Thank you so much for being so diligent in checking facts. That is why I sent you the info from the marriage license. Just reading Greg's bio, I knew that you were great in making certain that the info is correct. I went to the cemetery to specifically take pictures of Greg's grave ... and Mr. Al's. He died way too young. Thank you again ... God bless.
Melinda Chouquette Wren Memorial No. 150854974, Melinda Chouquette Wren is buried at Saint Michael Cemetery, Browning, Glacier County, Montana USA. The Old Browning Cemetery is Saint Michael Cemetery. Can you please move the Memorial. Thanks.
RE: Find A Grave PC problems I ran two malware repair programs an IT friend in North Carolina sent me-And all of a sudden everything is perfect.
I went Gravin at Lindquist Garden of the Wasatch on Friday. My thighs are throbbing now. Haven't went Gravin since mid December due to all the snow in this cemetery.
I only shot 85 stones, all were covered with chaff (dead grass) and some were quite muddy from burials this winter. I used 7 gallons of water that day. On a normal photo run, I usually shoot 200-400 photos.