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Carol Page Tilson (#46543875)
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Bio Photo As a former newspaper reporter/photographer, high school journalism teacher, old-fashioned genealogical researcher and long-time Find A Grave member, I believe the best memorial is correct, as complete as possible and linked to parents, spouse and children. It should memorialize a person, not just a name.

Most of my memorials are for my own or my husband's ancestors and collateral kin, some close relatives, some distant, some in-laws, with info from vital records, deeds, probate and miscellaneous other, sometimes obscure, legal documents. Censuses and obituaries provide secondary support.

Fair warning: Find A Grave memorials are not primary documentation. Only the minority are created by relatives, surname researchers or locals who consider it a service to record burials and photograph markers in nearby cemeteries. Most memorials are submitted by folks who know nothing about the people or places. Their sources and motives vary.

Some insist Find A Grave is strictly a "graves registry; exactly what's on a stone [or online cemetery list] should be sufficient. That may have been true in the beginning, but the site has evolved over the years with family links and more personal options added. To deny F-A-G has a genealogical purpose is folly, especially now since it's owned by

From experience I've learned that just because something's "engraved in stone" doesn't mean it's true. Names and dates on grave markers are often wrong. Birth information found in marriage and/or death seldom is 100% right.

Info on the dead is provided by the living -- what they know, think they know, found in the Family Bible, what they were told or what a little leaf suggested. Whether or not a memorial is factual depends on the reliability of everyone from whoever decided what would be inscribed on a marker and the stone cutter, to whoever kept cemetery records and/or "read" the marker or typed up the online burial list.

I make no claim of being perfect. If my memorials consisted of merely a name and a couple of dates I'd make fewer mistakes. I've made my share of typing errors and definitely have a problem with drop-down option lists. However, as a family researcher, I want to know if I've misinterpreted evidence, entered something incorrectly or flat-out wrong.

Before the introduction and widespread acceptance of F-A-G's "do-it-yourself" edit process, I asked for evidence of changes. To me, making changes without proof is counter-productive. I'd appreciate knowing your source for any major alteration.

Unfortunately, not all folks asking for changes are researchers. Thus, this "convenient" edit option cannot help but affect the overall credibility of the site.

Edits which disagree with documentation will be declined. And if I can't contact a person to ask for source of info, his/her edit will be declined. If you opt to post under an anonymous screen name and not take messages, don't even waste your time.

Use the final option on the edit menu to send specific explanation for a "decline" or would like evidence for one of my suggestions if I haven't already sent it.

I'll gladly transfer memorials to any researcher more closely connected to the individual than I -- fourth cousin beats fifth cousin twice removed. I like to reunite in-laws whom I've not researched in-depth with their direct kin. Please, just write and ask.

When it comes to Find A Grave, I consider family and FACTS more important than FAQs.


27 Mar 2015

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Jo Peterson
RE: Mary Loezar Colvin
As I am looking for people in my family tree, if I see a problem I suggest correction. The biggest problem is duplicates or near-duplicates. I wish there was a easier way to remove duplicates. I have written Find A Grave without an answer from them. I tried to suggest correct when the same person has made the duplicate (one person had duplicated one page 5 times).
There are a lot of Colvins in my sister-in-law's branches of the tree, mostly from western NY and western PA.
Added by Jo Peterson on Mar 27, 2015 7:34 AM
Kathy and Jim Schutt
RE: Mary Ann Colvin Update
Hi Carol, So sorry about your fur baby. We have a special dog ourselves who is nine years old and know what it is like losing them. Thanks so much for your reply. Kathy
Added by Kathy and Jim Schutt on Mar 15, 2015 2:42 PM
Janet Muff
Corbin's memorial
Hello Carol,

Corbin's memorial is beautiful (How could you create something like that? It doesn't look like any other find-a-grave memorial. Is it a separate website? or web page?)

I know the teary and bleary-eyed condition all too well and send my deepest condolences together with a big hug for you and Bob.

Added by Janet Muff on Mar 14, 2015 4:08 PM
RE: Robert Henry Eddy
This one is tough for birth year. 1881 or 1882. The Eddy Family in America, 1930 edition has 1882 however they have an error that has death the same as birth. If you feel more comfortable with 1881 based on other records then go for it. I don't wish to have the transfers as these are very distant cousins. But thank you for the offer.
Added by Addie on Mar 12, 2015 12:31 PM
Suzanne Thayne
I added the information to the memorials.
Thank you for the info.
Added by Suzanne Thayne on Mar 10, 2015 10:03 PM
Delaine Shirley-Noyer
Simon & Maria Stone
Thanks for the corrections, I edited their memorials with the new info.
Added by Delaine Shirley-Noyer on Mar 09, 2015 10:29 PM
Janet Muff
Davenport family
Hi Carol,

I just got back from India yesterday and am trying to upload a few photos. I'm working on the Elijah Davenport family in the New Mechanicsville Cemetery in Belmont, Rutland, VT. (Your memorials).

Added by Janet Muff on Mar 08, 2015 2:58 PM
Suzanne Thayne
John Emory Bovee
Thank you for the corrections and additions. I have added them to the Memorial.
Added by Suzanne Thayne on Mar 06, 2015 9:31 PM
Kaye (Wickline) Rogers-Wells
Sidney Williams
Thank you for the correction, which has been updated.
Added by Kaye (Wickline) Rogers-We... on Feb 21, 2015 6:23 PM
Caroline M. Bailey Colvin

I have added the bio. to the memorial for Caroline M. Bailey Colvin #97226833. If you are tracing the Colvin's and Bailey's I have taken a number of photos of the Colvin's and Bailey's in the Shoemaker Cemetery in Dalton PA. If you would like I can E-Mail them to you.

Added by 263lhr on Feb 15, 2015 10:14 PM
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