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sheila (#48055042)
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Bio Photo We Are The Chosen

We are the chosen. In each family there is one who seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again, to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve. Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the storytellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us, "Tell our story!" So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family; you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say. It goes beyond just documenting facts. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes to seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying, "I can't let this happen." The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish, how they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family. It goes to deep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us. It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth. Without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might be born who we are. That we might remember them. So we do. With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place in the long line of family storytellers. That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Please be kind when asking for an edit or deletion to a memorial that has been created. Mistakes are made and can be corrected very easily, please be nice. After all this is done voluntarily to help others. It is not a job that we are paid to do. Thank you.

Also: If your loved one does not have a headstone, or the headstone is damaged, please try to save a little money here and there to purchase them one.


Stop by a CVS or Dollar Tree and pick up a $2 bucket, 4 or more gallons of distilled .59 cents water jugs, a very SOFT Scrub Brush and scrub lightly the growth and stains on the old tomstone. Go easy, you could easily cause damage. But PLEASE HELP. . Preserve and clean your family's tombstones. This will help another century of kin to find your family
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Tammy Miller
I have already responded one time, I have not seen the other memorial for Tammy, Do you have her #. Then I will be glad to delete if mine is a duplicate but after checking I do not see one.
Added by DSON1492 on Apr 25, 2016 6:36 AM
RE: 120629291
I have checked and I do not see that it is a duplicate so I do not want to delete.

You also sent this request by public message rather than using the Edit for your demand to delete the memorial for Tammy Miller
Added by DSON1492 on Apr 22, 2016 8:19 AM
Gone Gravin ★
RE: 120629291
If they "have one currently", they are unlikely to be in need of another. I have requested some, fulfilled some, and added even more.
Added by Gone Gravin ★ on Apr 21, 2016 9:23 PM
Gone Gravin ★
RE: 107355002
I am requesting a photo of the marker because I would like to see it. Anyone can request and anyone can post a photo for any memorial on the site.
Added by Gone Gravin ★ on Apr 21, 2016 6:42 AM
david ford
Find A Grave Memorial# 54152395
i got my hahn's names mixed up when i was takeing and looking. got home and saw i took the one you claimed and not the one i did lol. anyway go ahead and take this one the one you are looking for is in front second row sticker merry Christmas on it i will delete my pic. have a good one (=

Added by david ford on Jan 30, 2016 11:59 PM
Elizabeth Wright
Unkown Obsitnick
I was at the Arcadia Cemetery today and noticed you added an Unknown Obsitnick. I took a picture of the other side of the headstone with his info on it so it could be edited if you like. I would have edited it but couldn't since I wasn't the original person who posted it.
Added by Elizabeth Wright on Nov 10, 2015 11:44 AM
RE: memorial #115291129
thank you sheila! i'm curious how you happened to create my aunt's page-i know the information you put on the page was from my hometown's local newspaper (hamburg, ny)-are you from that area?
Added by suepea on Nov 08, 2015 3:23 PM
memorial #115291129
hi sheila-mary w. krause is/was my maternal aunt. i would like to manage her page if you are okay with transferring it to me. thanks suepea Find A Grave member #48412675
Added by suepea on Nov 06, 2015 4:45 PM
Benjamin and Josephine Steffy
Thanks so much for looking into my 2nd great grandparents. I was wondering since you have worked with the Cicero cemetery. Do you know how complete their records are since the grave plots are unmarked. I was just wondering before I made a trip to visit and my results would be fruitless. Any assistance would be appreciated.
Added by Ken on Apr 07, 2015 9:28 AM
Donald Ward
Carl Vaughn Abbott Sr.
Thank you very much for the excellent photo of Carl's headstone. What you do is much appreciated. The fact that there is no date of death for his spouse Lillian is the only clue I have that Lillian is still (probably) living. Thanks again.
Donald J. Ward
Arlington, Texas
Added by Donald Ward on Mar 09, 2015 9:31 AM
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