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HJ (#46937296)
 member for 8 years, 8 months, 11 days
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Bio Photo 1. SEND SOURCE INFO!!! When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

2. MANNERS COUNT. I appreciate POLITE requests and corrections. If you don't know how to use the words, "please," and "thank you," or can't be bothered, then please don't bother at all. If you send extremely rude, or threatening messages, no matter how subtle, I will forward them to the Find A Grave administrators, without exception.

3. I TRANSFER. Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. POLITE requests for your family and friends will all be considered individually. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer. If you are prone to entering sloppy memorials with incorrect info, I will think twice about a transfer.

4. YOUR PHOTOS: Please don't add bad photos to memorials I have entered, i.e. photos where you can be seen reflected in the stone, your car is in the background, the stone is covered in bird poop, or leaves, or dirt, your dog, or kid can be seen, or photos taken at a carelessly crooked angle, or ones with more "white space," than gravestone (NO need to crop ALL the white space out, and photos of entire family plots are the exception). Please do not add photographs of new graves in their entirety, with no grass growing on the freshly up-turned dirt. Please do not add photos of the temporary plastic grave markers placed by the funeral home, or photos of the gravestone, prior to inscribing of the DOD for new burials--if you do, please anticipate that I will request a removal when a photo of a fully inscribed gravestone has been posted. I spend a lot of time to make attractive, respectful memorials. Your help with that is appreciated.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

5. MY PHOTOS, those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

6. CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

7. I VOLUNTEER. As another member has noted on their profile, I'm not getting paid to do this. Nope, not a penny. I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.

8. LIVING PEOPLE: Please don't add memorials for them, especially, if you haven't yet entered a memorial for YOURSELF. Not only is it against policy, but it's just a horrendous thing to do to someone, without their consent.

9. LIVE & LET LIVE. I am all for receiving and sending updates, corrections, etc. I appreciate notification when I have added a duplicate and will notify others of duplicates. Beyond that, I do not consider myself to be on the Find A Grave police squad, and neither should you. Please allow me to tend to the memorials I have entered. If I add something you don't like to a memorial you have entered, or to that of a family member's, please point it out to me POLITELY. Vague references to Find A Grave policies are not helpful in specific instances--I have entered hundreds of memorials and manage hundreds more. Above all, please remember that Find A Grave IS NOT REAL. The internet is NOT TANGIBLE. What does that mean? In the grand scheme of life, this is small stuff and could go "poof" in an instant.

10. To those who are all about the numbers: THERE IS NO END TO DEAD PEOPLE. Just because I might enter a memorial you wanted to enter, doesn't mean you can't enter one for someone else. There are plenty for all.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


THANK YOU to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, THANK YOU to the PHOTO VOLUNTEERS who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!


PRIVATELY OWNED CEMETERIES & PHOTOGRAPHY Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state. More discussion may be perused here: (Courtesy of Find A Grave Member Diehard, profile # 46809256)
Finally, when I die, please no one euphemistically assert that I have "passed." It sounds so impolite, as though a catastrophic gastric feux pas has occurred, and won't fool anyone into thinking I have done something other than dropping DEAD. Geesh, we all do it, so I don't think it is taboo to say it. Furthermore, I shall haunt anyone designating my date of death as an "angel day," or similar nonsense. How presumptuous it would be for anyone, except God, to make such an assumption.

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RE: Katy.Roeder
May I ask if you are related? My source is the family bible of her father. She died as a baby. And it is recorded in our 1869 bible. Her father Johann is my GG Grandfather.
Added by ROTC11 on May 25, 2016 3:09 PM
Neff Family Historical Society
NEFF Nellie your message
HJ, If you will send me an email will be glad to send a group sheet. Lots of primary sources. Bill Neff
Added by Neff Family Historical So... on May 25, 2016 2:46 PM
Zoiya Holland-Tate
Re: Issac Sprague and Emiley Hines
I just stumbled on this very fact today. I updated my tree but have not done the Find A Grave memorial. Thanks for reminding me
Added by Zoiya Holland-Tate on May 24, 2016 9:27 PM
Andrea Grega
Earl J. Keating
Your source is fine. That is not the way it appears on the Tablets of the Missing. Until I know how the family will put his name on his final resting place in St. Joseph Cemetery, I will leave it Pvt. Earl J. Keating. (by the way, I am the niece of the other soldier, Pvt. John Klopp, that Pvt. Keating was found with.)
Added by Andrea Grega on May 24, 2016 8:23 PM
Connie Ferris
Glenda Shurson #110090337
Thanks for following through on the duplicate photo!
Added by Connie Ferris on May 24, 2016 11:59 AM
Ann Parkinson
John Bradshaw
Thanks for catching my error! I have placed him in Earthman.
Added by Ann Parkinson on May 24, 2016 7:26 AM
Warren Eastright
David Parris
Morning, thank you for the correction on Mr. Parris.

I also connected him with his parents.

Added by Warren Eastright on May 24, 2016 5:15 AM
janet donner
joel whitaker 73578942
Hi I was going to take down my picture and you have not deleted the bad one you put up??
so pls dont forget to do that? thanks
Added by janet donner on May 23, 2016 7:51 AM
janet donner
joel whitaker 73578942
Hi I took your photo of Joel and straightened it up and it looks so much better. I hope that is ok with you and if so you might want to take down the one you did and I will give credit as your photo His wife was a school mate of mine.
thanks Janet
Added by janet donner on May 23, 2016 7:13 AM
Rosie Novitske Mortell
Picture on Memorial #1039381
I was checking out your info on the grave of Frank Novitske buried in the National Cemetery of Arizona and was quite surprised to find a wedding picture on the site. I was wondering where you might have gotten it and if you are related to him somehow? He's my father, the wedding picture is of my parents. Thanks for getting back to me.

Added by Rosie Novitske Mortell on May 20, 2016 1:42 AM
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