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HJ (#46937296)
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Bio Photo 1. SEND SOURCE INFO!!! When sending info for inclusion on memorials I have entered, please include your source (where you found it, or how you know it). This is important. If I think the info is questionable, I might not add it, or will note who sent it to me. I decline to perpetuate errata and will NOT post anything from an unreliable source.

2. MANNERS COUNT. I appreciate POLITE requests and corrections. If you don't know how to use the words, "please," and "thank you," or can't be bothered, then please don't bother at all. If you send extremely rude, or threatening messages, no matter how subtle, I will forward them to the Find A Grave administrators, without exception.

3. I TRANSFER. Aside from my own family, and close friends, I do not hoard memorials. POLITE requests for your family (close, OR distant), and close friends will all be considered. If I am even remotely related, I will not transfer. I will keep my friends, unless your relationship is significantly closer. If you are prone to entering sloppy memorials with incorrect info, I will think twice about a transfer.

4. YOUR PHOTOS: Please don't add bad photos to memorials I have entered, i.e. photos where you can be seen reflected in the stone, your car is in the background, the stone is covered in bird poop, or leaves, or dirt, your dog, or kid can be seen, or photos taken at a carelessly crooked angle, or ones with more "white space," than gravestone (NO need to crop ALL the white space out, and photos of entire family plots are the exception). Please do not add photographs of new graves in their entirety, with no grass growing on the freshly up-turned dirt. Please do not add photos of the temporary plastic grave markers placed by the funeral home, or photos of the gravestone, prior to inscribing of the DOD for new burials--if you do, please anticipate that I will request a removal when a photo of a fully inscribed gravestone has been posted. I spend a lot of time to make attractive, respectful memorials. Your help with that is appreciated.

Note: If the persons grave has no marker, please at least add a photo of the area where the grave is located.

5. MY PHOTOS, those of gravestones and cemeteries, may be used without my permission, EXCEPT on, or any site which requires an exchange of money. There is no need to give me credit and in fact, I would prefer that you don't. However, please do not post one of my original photos to a Find A Grave memorial yourself. Politely make a request and I will gladly add, if appropriate.

6. CAUSES OF DEATH are a matter of public record. If you are related to an individual who has a cause of death posted in their memorial, and you are disturbed by the posting of that cause, I will remove it, upon polite request.

7. I VOLUNTEER. As another member has noted on their profile, I'm not getting paid to do this. Nope, not a penny. I sometimes get behind in doing corrections, updates, etc. Your patience is appreciated. Please remember that edits take time, no one is entitled to my time, and demands are wholly unappreciated (please refer to point #2 above). If you can't wait, you may send the edit request to Find A Grave.

8. LIVING PEOPLE: Please don't add memorials for them, especially, if you haven't yet entered a memorial for YOURSELF. Not only is it against policy, but it's just a horrendous thing to do to someone, without their consent.

9. LIVE & LET LIVE. I am all for receiving and sending updates, corrections, etc. I appreciate notification when I have added a duplicate and will notify others of duplicates. Beyond that, I do not consider myself to be on the Find A Grave police squad, and neither should you. Please allow me to tend to the memorials I have entered. If I add something you don't like to a memorial you have entered, or to that of a family member's, please point it out to me POLITELY. Vague references to Find A Grave policies are not helpful in specific instances--I have entered hundreds of memorials and manage hundreds more. Above all, please remember that Find A Grave IS NOT REAL. The internet is NOT TANGIBLE. What does that mean? In the grand scheme of life, this is small stuff and could go "poof" in an instant.

10. To those who are all about the numbers: THERE IS NO END TO DEAD PEOPLE. Just because I might enter a memorial you wanted to enter, doesn't mean you can't enter one for someone else. There are plenty for all.


In Honor of Our Fallen Brave . . .

In Flanders Fields, 1919, by John McCrae

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie,
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.


THANK YOU to everyone who sends info and corrections for memorials I have entered. Time does not permit me to thank everyone for each individual contribution, but please know that they are appreciated!

In case I have missed anyone, THANK YOU to the PHOTO VOLUNTEERS who have fulfilled my requests--much appreciated!

MANY THANKS to those MEMBERS who have entered memorials for members of my family and who have had the kindness to transfer them to me--you're the BEST!


PRIVATELY OWNED CEMETERIES & PHOTOGRAPHY Privately owned cemeteries may regulate the taking of photographs by persons physically within the boundaries of the cemetery property. Please refer to the laws of the relevant state. More discussion may be perused here: (Courtesy of Find A Grave Member Diehard, profile # 46809256)


Finally, when I die, please no one euphemistically assert that I have "passed." It sounds so impolite, as though a catastrophic gastric feux pas has occurred, and won't fool anyone into thinking I have done something other than dropping DEAD. Geesh, we all do it, so I don't think it is taboo to say it. Furthermore, I shall haunt anyone designating my date of death as an "angel day," or similar nonsense. How presumptuous it would be for anyone, except God, to make such an assumption.
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Philip Fletcher
RE: Eli O. Thorp, # 88975450
Thanks for your note. Eli, the husband of C.J. Thorp, was a direct ancestor of mine and I know lived long after 1861. My guess is that that Eli O. Thorp was probably a child of Eli (who is buried in Kansas with spouse C.J.). But there is confusion - which I'll try to clear up by going back into my primary and secondary sources over the next few days.

Thanks again

Philip (Thorp) Fletcher
Added by Philip Fletcher on Feb 08, 2016 6:57 AM
April Lund
RE: Mary.Mindock
BIRTH: Photocopy of the Martin Family Bible. Was a twin.
Illinois, Deaths and Stillbirths Index, 1916-1947
Name: Mary Mindock
[Mary Martin]
Birth Date: 23 Mar 1882
Birth Place: Bailey Falls, Illinois
Death Date: 24 May 1928
Death Place: La Salle, La Salle, Illinois
Burial Date: 28 May 1928
Burial Place: LaSalle, LaSalle, Illinois
Cemetery Name: Oakwood Cemetary
Death Age: 46
Occupation: Housewife
Race: White
Marital Status: M

1900 Census of LaSalle County, Illinois FHL film #1240315 Eden Twp. E.D. 48 page 277
1910 United States Federal Census of Portland Ward 1, La Salle, Illinois
1920 United States Federal Census of Vermilion, La Salle, Illinois

Added by April Lund on Feb 07, 2016 6:42 PM
K. Roberts
The sources you asked for is connected to obit you used on the record. Didn't do your own homework.

And I'm not willing to do the work you took on as part of the responsibilities of contributing.
Added by K. Roberts on Feb 07, 2016 2:24 PM
Ryan Henrie
RE: Isaac.Campbell
I found that on Family Search. Every Census Record (sources attached on Family Search) list him as Isaac R Campbell, using ID L71M-XDS on

His grandson, Isaac Richard Campbell (1967-1938) using ID MCTL-NZ8 on family search was named after his grandfather.
Added by Ryan Henrie on Feb 07, 2016 12:54 PM
Karen Ziege Bartelt
RE: Anna.Reddick
IL Deaths and Stillbirths Index 1916-1947:

Anna Mary Reddick
[Anna Mary Pfeiffer]
Birth Date: 23 Nov 1852
Birth Place: Bavaria, Germany
Death Date: 24 Feb 1932
Death Place: Hennepin, Putnam, Illinois
Burial Date: 27 Feb 1932
Burial Place: Granville, Putnam, Ill
Cemetery Name: Granville
Death Age: 79
Race: White
Marital Status: W
Gender: Female
Residence: Hennepin, Putnam, Illinois
Father Name: George Pfieffer
Father Birth Place: Germany
Mother Name: Mary Pfieffer
Mother Birth Place: Germany
Spouse Name: America Reddick
FHL Film Number: 1684328
Added by Karen Ziege Bartelt on Feb 07, 2016 12:42 PM
21908367 Jacob Planck's children
Thanks for letting me know that you found 3 of his children and sent edits. It's always great to have family linkage. And, btw, I enjoyed reading your bio! :)
Added by BjJ on Feb 06, 2016 9:26 AM
Barb Richmond Martin
RE: Memorial # 157444459
Thank you for your explanation. I will continue to follow your suggestion. Barb
Added by Barb Richmond Martin on Feb 03, 2016 6:50 AM
Carolina Cotton
RE: Memorial # 157508319
Thanks for posting the photo. He was a significant figure in Reconstruction-era politics in South Carolina, not to mention a well-known minister, and it's nice to have an image of him to go with his memorial.

Take care,

Added by Carolina Cotton on Feb 02, 2016 7:25 PM
Barb Richmond Martin
RE: Memorial # 157444459
I did as you requested with respect to Carmi's photo. I was not aware of this choice. Please explain to me the difference it makes for a grave vs person photo? Thank you, Barb
Added by Barb Richmond Martin on Feb 02, 2016 6:25 AM
Barb Richmond Martin
RE: Memorial # 157444459
Thank you for your support. I have made my corrections.
Added by Barb Richmond Martin on Feb 01, 2016 7:55 PM
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