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Thats My Cuz (#48113240)
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••There are no nickname field prohibitions in the "rules", period, I CHECKED/ASKED!

•Reminder to people that when their loved ones that had served in the US Military die they are entitled to a •••FREE••• goverment issued cemetery marker (a free-standing headstone OR a "footer"; not both); technically deaths prior to 9/11/2001 are only entitled to it IF they do NOT have their own privately purchased marker. The form for this is "VA 40-1330". All you need is their death certificate and their DD214 (discharge paperwork) as proof of their service and discharge (honorable/medical) and a location of burial/entombment and yes they are still due 1 even if their resting place is in a mausoleum (although the marker is smaller). If you know of their service but you are unable to find their DD214 but know their service number (social security number can also helpful) your local VA may be able to help you. Many times the funeral home can help you with this at the time funeral arrangments happen after death and if they do not then contact your local VA office/Veterans group (VFW - American Legion) may be able to help you. Please also make sure that the paperwork submitted for the marker is filled-out exactly as you want it to be made (like having full middle name/middle initial or Sr. Jr. etc). I point this out because I see so many people who are due this honor for their resting place and do not ever have it happen. Also, you can get ONE FREE (and only 1 free) cemetery flag holder, flag and flag case from your local VA office. If you have a loved one due this honor and they are already buried but do not have the marker it is NOT too late contact your local VA and also: •The national phone number of for VA Benefits including death benefits: 1-800-827-1000•

LAWS (such as copyright laws for photos and obituaries) supercede all opinions of ALL others and those that violate such HAVE NO BUSINESS telling me OR ANYBODY about other site rules, suggestions, guidelines and the like when THEY BREAK ACTUAL LAWS (which is ALSO a violation of site rules etc) or the privacy of those left behind and I do not care how long you have been here (1 day, 6+ years or even up to being here from day 1 of this site) OR how many memorials you have (none or 6 digits worth; but only say 4 digits worth of flowers or none at all; so making it seem that accumulating a large amount of memorials appears to be the driving force and not the people for whom the memorials are for) than stop doing it to me AND OTHERS because I know that certain members do this to multiple other members!

If I send an edit to have an obituary truncated to at least remove the names of the living or have a photo removed •••and that edit is ignored or rejected I will then ask the site to remove the WHOLE obituary or photo from that memorial•••. In general, I will usually only (there may be exceptions) do this for memorials that are linked to or related to memorials that I have made because there is no point in me following copyright laws and respecting the privacy of surviving people named in obituaries if memorials linked/related to mine violate those same laws and privacy and post the names. •••I do not want to be connected to breaking the law and this includes other members sneaking in obituaries in photo postings or flowers onto my memorials.•••

Copyright is mentioned in more than one place in the rules but the following is the most clear-cut explanation:
•••"Can I add a memorial from a newspaper or other 3rd party source?
Find A Grave does not discourage the legitimate indexing of the deceased through obituaries or other 3rd party accounts. Newspapers represent a very good source of information as a public record. What we ask is that those who index and memorialize the deceased from newspapers and other 3rd party accounts do so with full respect of copyright, refrain from adding information about living people"•••
This same applies to obituaries from funeral homes ("3rd party") especially since when a funeral home has a "terms of use" section on their site that they do NOT give permission for their obituaries to be republished publicly ANYWHERE, i.e. they claim COPYRIGHT (in addition to the family member who wrote it).

Please do not post copyrighted photos (specifically, BUT NOT ONLY, those that are photos taken by professional studios-professional photographers) on my memorials UNLESS YOU are the copyright holder (YOU took the photo OR you purchased rights to it OR were given DIRECT PERMISSION from the person that really took the photo). The site forbids such postings due to copyright. IF NEED BE, I will ask the site to remove them. ••I do not want to be a party to copyright infringement.•• Using data found in obituaries to help you make a memorial is not a copyright violation but to copy and paste or "print-screen" a copy and post it as a photograph is a violation.

For those that I do/do not send an edit about the obituary please people if you are going to just copy and paste the obituary in the bio field please do not be further lazy and not fill-in the locations in the date fields

Please, Please, Please do not assume the locations you find on the Social Security Death Index listed with the date of death is where they specifically died.

Those places are only THE ZIP where they were last listed as getting their SSA checks sent to and is not given as to where the person actually died so to use those locations as if that is where they actually died MAY BE factually incorrect; also a "mailing address zip" is NOT ALWAYS the same as the ACTUAL physical address so just because a "place" has say zip code 26003 does NOT automatically mean they were born/died WITHIN the limits of Wheeling-it may be that they really were born in/died in a more specific place within that zip that does not have it's own zip (now or in the past); if an unincorporated area of zip put say "died NEAR Wheeling" in the bio.

MARKER TREATMENT, From the site rules not mine:
"Never apply bleach, ammonia, shaving cream, chalk, flour, baking soda, cornstarch, firm pressure or use anything abrasive. Do not post photos of recently chalked or shaving-creamed headstones."

Just like other members have, I do claim copyright of all my memorials and info formatted therein and it is not to be moved/copied word by word to a different memorial (by other members) unless my memorial from which it was taken from is still here AND I give my direct permission and credit given to my memorial number and my member name and that I posted it here 1st; meaning ask me and if yes, give credit, Thanks.

BUT NOW I am NOT even going place much bio information in most of my future memorials because I do not want to do all the research/work then post is AND THEN have it usurped by deletion/merge due to a 'Johnny-Come-Lately' (including those that make their own version of a memorial the NEXT DAY or later with only a copy and paste job of say a copyrighted obituary); Sorry about this to those that could have benefited from the information. I will do the research but just keep the data 'on-file'.
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