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Thats My Cuz (#48113240)
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•Reminder to people that when their loved ones that had served in the US Military die they are entitled to a •••FREE••• goverment issued cemetery marker ("footer"). All you need is their DD214 (discharge paperwork) as proof of their service and discharge (honorable) and a location of burial/entombment and yes they are still due one even if their resting place is in a mausoleum (although the marker is smaller). If you know of their service but you are unable to find their DD214 but do know their service number (social security number can also helpful) your local VA may be able to help you get the paperwork you need. Many times the funeral home can help you with this at the time funeral arrangments happen after death and if they do not then contact your local VA office or even a Veterans group (VFW - American Legion) may be able to give you directions. Please also make sure that the paperwork submitted for the marker has it filled-out exactly as you want it to be made (like having full middle name or middle initial or Sr. Jr. etc). I point this out because I see so many people who are due this honor for their resting place and do not ever have it happen. Also, you can get ONE FREE (and only one free) cemetery flag holder, flag and flag case from your local VA office. If you have a loved one due this honor and they are already buried but do not have the marker it is NOT too late contact your local VA and also: •The national phone number of for VA Benefits including death benefits: 1-800-827-1000•

LAWS (such as copyright laws for photos and obituaries) supercede all opinions of ALL others and those that violate such HAVE NO BUSINESS telling me OR ANYBODY about other site rules, suggestions, guidelines and the like when THEY BREAK ACTUAL LAWS (which is ALSO a violation of site rules etc) or the privacy of those left behind and I do not care how long you have been here (1 day, 6+ years or even up to being here from day 1 of this site) OR how many memorials you have (none or 6 digits worth; but only say 4 digits worth of flowers; so making it seem that accumulating a large amount of memorials appears to be the driving force and not the people for whom the memorials are for) than stop doing it to me AND OTHERS because I know that certain members do this to multiple other members!

If I send an edit to have an obituary truncated to at least remove the names of the living or have a photo removed •••and that edit is ignored or rejected I will then ask the site to remove the WHOLE obituary or photo from that memorial•••. In general, I will usually only (there may be exceptions) do this for memorials that are linked to or related to memorials that I have made because there is no point in me following the copyright laws and respecting the privacy of the surviving family members and friends named in the obituaries if memorials linked or related to mine violate those same laws and privacy and post the names. •••I do not want to be connected to breaking the law and this includes other members sneaking in obituaries in photo postings or flowers onto my memorials.•••

Please, Please, Please people do not assume that the locations you find on the Social Security Death Index listed with the date of death is where they actually died;

Those locations are only where the person was last listed with the SSA as living/getting their checks sent to in that zip code when they died and is not given by the SSDI as to where the person actually died so to use those locations as if that is where they actually died is factually incorrect many times not just a matter of style of creating a memorial; also a "mailing address" is NOT ALWAYS the same as the acutal physical address so just because a "place" has the (for example) mailing zip code of 26003 does NOT automatically mean they were born/died WITHIN the corporation limits of Wheeling - they may have been born in/died in Elm Grove, Warwood, in an un-incorporated area etc and many of those other places are available on the location drop menu, so please use them (like Elm Grove) - or they died in a rural area not inside the bounds of any particular place listed on the drop menu so please just use the county in the date fields and place in the bio something like (for example) "died NEAR Wheeling".

Members, who as a matter of course, post copyrighted obituaries and or photos onto memorials (in violation of copyright laws and or privacy) should not presume to tell me how to do my memorials for their creditability is tarnished and to push me on it would only result in me not accepting any edits for any part of a memorial (from top to bottom) from those types of people unless another member with untarnished creditability tells me the same edit.

Please do not post copyrighted photos (specifically, BUT NOT ONLY, those that are photos taken by professional studios-professional photographers) on my memorials UNLESS YOU are the copyright holder (YOU took the photo OR you purchased rights to it OR were given DIRECT PERMISSION from the person that really took the photo). The site forbids such postings due to copyright laws. IF NEED BE, I will ask the site to remove them. •••I do not want to be a party to copyright infringement.••• Using information found in obituaries to help you make a memorial is not a copyright violation but to copy and paste or "print-screen" a copy and post it as a photograph is a violation.

For those that I do/do not send an edit about the obituary please people if you are going to be lazy enough to just copy and paste the obituary in the bio field please do not be even more lazy and not fill-in the locations in the date fields and I see certain members habitually violate copyright laws and site rules with obituaries in bio fields and then are also habitually too lazy to fill in the location fields or even post a flower! To me, that just implies that they are a "Numbers" member and or are lazy.

Just lke other members have, I do claim complete copyright of any memorial I make and the information formatted therein and it is not to be moved word by word onto a different memorial number unless my memorial from which it was taken from it is still here and identified by memorial number and that I researched it AND posted it here 1st.

There are no rules restricting what goes into the nickname field.
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