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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 14 years, 19 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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Diana Brown Burney # 38723707 & Major James Burney # 38723708
Doug & Marilyn - Once again, many thanks for your excellent photographs. You've helped answer a question I had about Major James Burney - I haven't found a record that explains the "Major" part of his name. Someone else in the tree had a first name "Majer", so it's still a bit of a mystery.

I confess I just returned home from Modesto a couple days ago, but spent all my time at cemeteries out of town. My first visit to Stent, Columbia, Altaville Protestant and Coulterville. Boy, no short of graves needing tending, is there?

I keep meaning to call my Find A Grave friends and treat them to a cup of coffee or lunch when I'm in town, but the week goes by sooooo fast! Hope to be back in a couple months and will try again. Thanks again, you're the best! ~ Nancy
Added by personna on Apr 01, 2015 12:31 AM
Sauerwein Photo
Thank you so much for the picture!!
Added by mmbari on Mar 28, 2015 11:20 AM
Lena and Benjamin Smart
What a wonderful volunteer service you do for us that a looking for family and friends. It so good of you to post the nice headstone photos.
Can't thank you enough!
Added by BLV on Mar 27, 2015 10:36 AM
Carl LeRoy Brown
I want to thankyou for getting the photo of Carl LeRoy Brown's marker. I really appreciate your time and effort to do this. Thank you again, Jack Brown
Added by jack on Mar 20, 2015 9:26 AM
Nancy Harris
Photo for Harvey Sauls
The photo for Harvey's memorial looks just great! Thank you so much for taking the time take it.
Added by Nancy Harris on Mar 19, 2015 10:44 PM
Patricia Farley
Grover Taylor
Thank you so much for the picture of great-uncle Grover's grave marker!!!
Added by Patricia Farley on Mar 19, 2015 10:13 PM
Sharon Thiessen
Charles, Emma, Harold Vine
Wow, same day service. Thank you so much. I've been looking for these for a long time! Very much appreciated.
Added by Sharon Thiessen on Mar 19, 2015 9:09 PM
R Passmore
Asa Bacon
Thank you for taking the time to get this photo. I appreciate it very much.
Added by R Passmore on Mar 13, 2015 5:39 AM
Jessie Brown
I want to thank you very much for the photo of Jessie Brown's marker. Really appreciate your time and effort. Jack
Added by jack on Mar 12, 2015 7:00 PM
Bev Bailey
RE: Julia E Smyth Frainer
Yes, you may use my photo. Happy to share. Thank you for asking.
Added by Bev Bailey on Mar 09, 2015 10:34 AM
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