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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 13 years, 1 month, 10 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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RE: Thomas & Bertha Gatzman
Yes, thank you for offering ((#46638792). I'll have to make a note in my file about the lack of grave markers. The first time I tackled Modesto Pioneer, I must have spent an hour going over the same section, row by row -- and it turned out there wasn't a grave marker. Did start a good friendship with the manager, so now I pester him first. Thanks again ~ Nancy
Added by personna on Apr 15, 2014 7:49 PM
thank you
Thank you sooo much for the photos of family!
Added by BlowingBubbles on Mar 31, 2014 9:08 PM
derrell barnett
Chester B Barnett
Thank you for updating Chester's memorial. Derrell Barnett
Added by derrell barnett on Mar 31, 2014 7:05 PM
Marie Ann Dubus Garrett
Thank you so much for the pictures of the memorials for the Buschmann's. Beautiful job!

Added by Marie Ann Dubus Garrett on Mar 30, 2014 8:20 PM
Phenia Sue(Moore) Reynolds
Rhoda Beal
Another thank you,because I forgot to tell you:: because of Rhoda being a triplet people in their ancestry searches,some had one triplet Emily there and some had the other triplet Mary there.So your getting the headstone photo ,helped me prove to people who had this wrong who was buried in Calif...thank you so much
Added by Phenia Sue(Moore) Reynold... on Mar 27, 2014 9:44 PM
Phenia Sue(Moore) Reynolds
Rhoda MORRE Beal
Thank you so much for the headstone picture.Rhoda was my great grandpa's half sister.
Added by Phenia Sue(Moore) Reynold... on Mar 27, 2014 6:05 PM
Donna Johnson Newell
Holland photos
Thank you very much for the pictures of David and Mary Holland's grave stones. I am delighted with them. Thank you for going out of your way to obtain them for the web site.

Donna Johnson Newell
Ardmore, Oklahoma
Added by Donna Johnson Newell on Mar 27, 2014 6:01 PM
Robert Staud
Thank you with your help in making Seabee Robert Staud's Rememberance page more complete, his page may be viewed here at:!i=1712880957&k=PVJDK36
Added by dh on Mar 18, 2014 10:53 AM
Ms Martie Martin
Michael Rowe; 126203836
LOVELY Headstone photo! THANK YOU SO MUCH!
Added by Ms Martie Martin on Mar 14, 2014 12:16 PM
Paula Ali
Frank Lafayette Butler
Thank you.
Added by Paula Ali on Mar 14, 2014 10:12 AM
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