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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 15 years, 7 months, 9 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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Roger Willoams
Thanks so much for photgraphing this marker for me; and especially for the 2nd photo which shows the "bigger picture." You've actually contributed to the story of this very large family; we didn't know the wife's name til now. Much, much appreciated.
Added by muggah on Oct 19, 2016 2:37 AM
Cindy Shivers
Cecil & Adel Keller
Hi ! I am a gr gr grandaughter of Josie (Charlsey Josephine) Ford and John A Ford. I came across your wonderful pics, and I put them on my family tree, if that's okay with you. If not, I will remove promptly. I use MyHeritage site. thank you!
Cindy of Texas
Added by Cindy Shivers on Oct 11, 2016 2:57 PM
Don Harrison
Margaret Jennings
Thanks for the effort in getting me this picture. you've helped me add another leaf to our family tree.

Don Harrison
Added by Don Harrison on Oct 05, 2016 8:09 AM
Weaver Lester Salyers
thank you


Added by bosbunch440 on Sep 20, 2016 5:22 AM
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Dorothy East plot photo
thank you for your kindness in taking this photo. it is greatly appreciated.
Added by time out on Sep 20, 2016 1:25 AM
Minnie Hart Tombstone
Thank you so much for the wonderful Photo of Minnies Headstone! I really appreciate it!

Added by Connie on Sep 19, 2016 10:02 AM
Sarah A. Wood
Thank you Doug & Marilyn for the information on Sarah A. Wood. I suspect you are no doubt correct. It was just a long shot. I shall continue looking.
Thank you very much for your assistance.


(my Sarah was married to Leonard Washburn 1860 in N.H. They had 3 daughters [so far discovered] one born in N.H. and the other 2 in California)
Added by Bob on Sep 05, 2016 7:33 PM
Dorie S
FAG 57568743 - Daniel Hughes
THANK YOU for a very descriptive picture -- you are the BEST!
Added by Dorie S on Sep 02, 2016 3:18 AM
sophie bourbilleres-showalter
thomas chambers
thank you very much for the photo of the gravestone for thomas chambers
Added by sophie bourbilleres-showa... on Aug 29, 2016 12:30 PM
Mike L.
Frank Kane
Thanks for looking Marilyn.
Added by Mike L. on Aug 25, 2016 6:04 AM
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