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Doug & Marilyn Parman (#43900458)
 member for 14 years, 6 months, 28 days
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Bio Photo I have always been interested in cemeteries. As a teenager we would stop at old cemeteries and we would read the old headstones.

In 1981 while going through my mother-in-law's keepsakes I came across an obit for her uncle who had died young. I was taken by the wording and I want to find out more about him. I was hooked. We have traveled to many states looking in cemeteries and libraries.

My husband, Doug and I retired in 2008. We live in Modesto, California. We now have lots of time to work on our family research. We have a daughter, Jennifer and a son, Kevin. Kevin is married to Glena; they have a son, Shawn, he was born in 2004. Our grandson, Shawn is our reward after many years of long hours of work.

I registered years ago but just started using the site Feb 2009; I also volunteered to look up graves in our area. Shawn and I put on our detective's hats and went to investigate. It was very rewarding.

If I have added in any of your family I will be happy to transfer the memorial to you. You may use any photo that I have posted, that is what we are all about SHARING information and finding our loved ones final resting place. It would be nice if you gave us the credit for the photo or info, so we could learn more from others also.

Some of our family names are: Parman: Petty: Ervin: Wade: Harmon: Wilson: McCall: Lawler: Hodges: Mann: Stuart: Smyth: Waddle: Kelso: Maple:


Today we walked where others walked
On a lonely, windswept hill;
Today we talked where others cried
For loved ones whose lives are stilled.

Today our hearts were touched
By graves of tiny babies;
Snatched from the arms of loving kin,
In the heartbreak of the ages.

Today we saw where the grandparents lay
In the last sleep of their time;
Lying under the trees and clouds -
Their beds kissed by the sun and wind.

Today we wondered about an unmarked spot;
Who lies beneath this hollowed ground?
Was it a babe, child, young or old?
No indication could be found.

Today we saw where Mom and Dad lay.
We had been here once before
On a day we'd all like to forget,
But will remember forever more.

Today we recorded for kith and kin
The graves of ancestors past;
To be preserved for generations hence,
A record we hope will last.

Cherish it, my friend; preserve it, my friend,
For stones sometimes crumble to dust
And generations of folks yet to come
Will be grateful for your trust.

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Sharon Hurricks
Guy Johnston
Thank you so much for the photo. Even though he doesn't have a headstone, it does answer some things.
Added by Sharon Hurricks on Oct 09, 2015 9:49 AM
Berdine Cole
Thank for sending a picture of the headstone. Could you send a close up of the front of the Headstone? He is a relative of mine and I no longer live in California to obtain a picture of the front of the headstone.
Added by shirleyw55 on Oct 08, 2015 10:40 PM
Michelle McKenzie
Thank you
Thank you so much for the terrific photos from Modesto Citizens Cemetery of the Clarks and Esther De Spain that you took for me. I greatly appreciate it!
Added by Michelle McKenzie on Sep 24, 2015 6:40 AM
James Lash
Thank you for your memorial photo for James Lash. I appreciate your efforts. Kay
Added by granscrap on Sep 23, 2015 11:02 AM
Beverly Myers
Thank you for your time and willingness to assist other researchers in photographing tombstones. I certainly appreciate it and know others do as well.
May was a cousin on my Mother's Dad's side of the family. Again, thank you for answering my photo request.
Added by Beverly Myers on Sep 21, 2015 10:49 PM
Law-Miller Roots
Greenlee @ Acacia Memorial Park
Thanks very much for the photos for Roy and Hazel Greenlee. Will probably never have the chance to get to California, so appreciate your time spent getting these.
Added by Law-Miller Roots on Sep 21, 2015 3:17 PM
Nancy Harris
Photos for Slaght/Hughes
Dear Doug and Marilyn,

Thank you so much for the great work in documenting the Slaght/Hughes headstones for me (both the ones with and without, that is). Great work (and so fast, too!). My sincere appreciation.
Added by Nancy Harris on Sep 18, 2015 4:46 PM
Denise Beagley
George Bowles
Thank you!
Added by Denise Beagley on Sep 18, 2015 4:19 PM
Shirley Thacker Hartman
Sorry I thought it was one of the Bibins infants now see it is one of the Shirk's thank you for adding the headstone to the memorial.
Added by Shirley Thacker Hartman on Sep 10, 2015 8:31 AM
Shirley Thacker Hartman
Thank you for adding the photo to the memorial's of Fannie and one of the infants.
Added by Shirley Thacker Hartman on Sep 10, 2015 8:29 AM
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