|Carol Page Tilson (#46543875)|
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As a former newspaper reporter/photographer, high school journalism teacher, a long-time genealogical researcher and a Family Find A Graver for 11+ years, I believe the best memorial is correct, as complete as possible and linked to parents, spouse and children. It should memorialize a person, not just a name.|
Over time I've realized "engraved in stone" is not synonymous with fact. Names often are misspelled, birth and death dates are wrong -- especially when a marker was set years [or decades] after the death or replaces one which time has destroyed.
What's engraved on a stone depends on how much whoever provided the inscription actually knew. The credibility of online cemetery lists also is dependent on whoever "read" the cemeteries and whoever entered that reading on the web.
And an individual's name on a monument might not mark that individual's grave. It could just be a memorial centograph for a family member who lived, died and was buried far, far away.
This puts me at odds with those who espouse the old low- or no-maintenance style of Graves Registry: record what's on the marker or online cemetery list -- period. Of what value are memorials if names of the deceased and/or dates are wrong?
Many of these original Find A Gravers have evolved along with the site and are willing to make changes. Unfortunately, many other "Name Collectors" who "own" cemeteries and tens or hundreds of thousands of names absolutely refuse to correct, complete, connect, add a maiden name to or transfer a single one.
And I don't much like "Obituary Hunters" who submit pre-funeral memorials on the day obits are published -- especially those who just say "unknown burial" if a cemetery isn't named in the story. The last time I checked, the site still was Find A Grave, NOT Find An Obit.
And, fair warning, just because a person is memorialized on Find A Grave does not automatically mean that person is deceased. For this, you can thank the very worst of the collect-a-name lot; I call them the "Cemetery Scroungers."
Scroungers don't know or care whether the people for whom they submit memorials are dead or alive. They're not hindered by the absence of death dates on stones. I recently found a memorial that was posted for a cousin ten years BEFORE he died.
Although "pre-need" funeral planning, the purchase of burial plots and grave markers, is common these days, if your name is on a stone, you're fair game for the Scroungers. How many of their "pre-death" memorials pollute Find A Grave is unknown.
If I've violated some Find A Grave "law" by being more concerned with FACTS than with FAQS, so be it. Nitpickers who love to cite procedural FAQS when targeting other folks' factual memorials [usually those created by family] need to get another hobby.
Unless you fall into one of the above categories, I'm easy to get along with.
Feel free to request changes in memorials I've submitted. Please use the edit menu but don't just tell me -- show me. That means SENDING PROOF of your info. The transcription of a vital record or, at least, of a census listing, usually will do.
I may or may not respond to undocumented requests from Find A Grave "visitors" or members disguised by anonymous screen names. If a link is important to you, please don't ask me to do the research to prove it.
I gladly transfer maintenance of memorials to anyone more closely related to the individual than I [fourth cousin beats fifth cousin twice removed]. And I'd like to reunite all parents- and sibs-in-law, especially those "inherited" but not personally researched, with blood relatives. Please ask but include PROOF of your relationship.
While I never demand and have requested very few transfers myself, I rarely turn them down.
Not obsessively possessive, I don't keep checking to make certain someone hasn't later duplicated one of my memorials; of course, this has happened. While not in favor of duplications, I haven't insisted on any of them being deleted. I don't play "gotcha" games and typically ignore those who do.
While not a nitpicker, if I have a record with info that helps complete your memorial, I'll probably send it. It's your choice whether to use it or not. I don't, however, waste time with those who obviously don't care what they post.
Each Find A Graver decides whether her/his ultimate goal is memorializing the deceased or "owning" names.
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|J.K.Erickson||Carol Page Tilson|
Just a FYI, Carol is off-line for at least a week and a half. She's having computer issues and the techie isn't available for a bit....or a byte!
Carol will respond to your queries as soon as she's back on-line.
|Spirit Baker||RE: Theodore Prince Keller|
I am very behind on mail and you wrote on Feb 17. I am glad I could assist you with the connection and now you know of Mattapoisett and Cushing Cemetery. It is a good size cemetery. Best of luck with your searches.
|Tom Denardo||surname colvin|
i see you have photo request for the name colvin.
i added eugene colvin and wife eliz @ forest hill cem kc, mo.
i also found another married couple Russell and marjorie colvin..(add these 2 if you like)
please request their photos if you want them and I will add them
|Janet Muff||RE: Long Time, No Bark|
I just added a paragraph to my bio. It's a stop-gap measure while I seriously consider whether or not to leave find-a-grave.
Hope you're doing well and please say hello to my pal, Carol.
|priscilla ross-fox||Griggs family|
Carol, while I would like to have the others buried there but there may be someone much more closely related to them. I haven't done much research on the family as I'm not well for some time now.
I do know someone who has a closer relationship but refuses to accept any information we have found about her family and will only accept what a very old relative tells her!
Life is strange sometimes isn't it?
|priscilla ross-fox||John Griggs burial|
I was looking for a different family member and came across John Griggs by accident! http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GSsr=481&GScid=89469&GRid=120869705&df=p&
He was the husband of my Caroline Ketchum....this is really cool to find. I can now attach her to her husband. Thanks a bunch!
|George and Terrie||RE: Elmina Colvin|
Thanks for the suggestion. I added her maiden name.
|George and Terrie||Colvin's|
PS I see that you have photo requests for several Colvin's. Colvin in my maiden name. We might be related.
|George and Terrie||Elmina Colvin|
Thank you for adding the death certificate for Elmina Colvin. It has provided more accurate information for my family tree.
|Spirit Baker||Theodore Prince Keller|
Burial: Cushing Cemetery, Mattapoisett, Plymouth, Massachusetts
Thank you for the updated info. I have corrected it, give him a birth place and gave you credit.
May I ask what drew you to this cemetery? Are you looking for anyone else within the area?
I have a couple of people that are following me, pretty creepy. They now have some 15,000 names in 2 years and they will go to the same cemetery within 2 days of me being there to try to finish it before I do and they only take names and dates. With their family they do a little more work. It can take me an hour to decipher a 1700's headstone due to wear. They have never written down an inscription, which I think it just as important. I have found a young boy who has a headstone in Mass. and in New Hampshire with a different middle initial. And my distant linage has a family buried close to me and all three, husband, wife and daughter, have their last name spelled differently. I have slowly been learning and doing better as time goes by. I don't have anyone to assist me.
Hope you have a wonderful week,
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