|Carol Page Tilson (#46543875)|
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As a former newspaper reporter/photographer, high school journalism teacher, a long-time genealogical researcher and a Family Find A Graver for 11+ years, I believe the best memorial is correct, as complete as possible and linked to parents, spouse and children. It should memorialize a person, not just a name.|
Over time I've realized "engraved in stone" is not synonymous with fact. Names often are misspelled, birth and death dates are wrong -- especially when a marker was set years [or decades] after the death or replaces one which time has destroyed.
What's engraved on a stone depends on how much whoever provided the inscription actually knew. The credibility of online cemetery lists also is dependent on whoever "read" the cemeteries and whoever entered that reading on the web.
And an individual's name on a monument might not mark that individual's grave. It could just be a memorial centograph for a family member who lived, died and was buried far, far away.
This puts me at odds with those who espouse the old low- or no-maintenance style of Graves Registry: record what's on the marker or online cemetery list -- period. Of what value are memorials if names of the deceased and/or dates are wrong?
While many of these original Find A Gravers have evolved along with the site and are willing to make changes, I have little respect for "Name Collectors" who "own" cemeteries and tens or hundreds of thousands of names but absolutely refuse to correct, complete, connect, add a maiden name to or transfer a single one.
And I don't much like "Obituary Hunters" who submit pre-funeral memorials on the day obits are printed -- especially those who just say "unknown burial" if a cemetery isn't named in the story. The last time I checked, this site still was Find A Grave, NOT Find An Obit.
And, fair warning, just because a person is memorialized on Find A Grave does not automatically mean that person is deceased. For this you can thank the very worst of the collect-a-name lot; I call them the "Cemetery Scroungers."
Scroungers don't know or care whether the people for whom they submit memorials are dead or alive. They're not hindered by the absence of death dates on stones. I recently found a memorial posted for a cousin ten years before he died.
Although "pre-need" funeral planning, the purchase of burial plots and grave markers, is common these days, if your name is on a stone, you're fair game for the Scroungers. How many of their "pre-death" memorials pollute Find A Grave is unknown.
Unless you fall into one of the above categories, I'm easy to get along with.
Feel free to request changes in memorials I've submitted. Please use the edit menu but don't just tell me -- show me. That means SENDING PROOF of your info. A vital record transcription or, at least, a census listing, usually will do. Sorry, but undocumented requests from folks disguised by anonymous screen names have little credence with me.
I gladly transfer maintenance of memorials to anyone more closely related to the individual than I [fourth cousin beats fifth cousin twice removed]. And I'd like to reunite all parents- and sibs-in-law, especially those "inherited" but not personally researched, with blood relatives. Please ask but include PROOF of your relationship.
While I never demand and have requested very few transfers myself, I seldom turn them down.
Not obsessively possessive, I don't keep checking to make certain someone hasn't later duplicated one of my memorials; of course, this has happened. While not in favor of duplications, I haven't insisted on any of them being deleted. I don't play "gotcha" games and typically ignore those who do.
While not a nitpicker, if I have a record with info that helps complete your memorial, I'll probably send it. It's your choice whether to use it or not. I don't, however, waste time with those whom obviously don't care what they post.
Each Find A Graver decides whether her/his ultimate goal is memorializing the deceased or "owning" names.
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|priscilla ross-fox||John Griggs burial|
I was looking for a different family member and came across John Griggs by accident! http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GSsr=481&GScid=89469&GRid=120869705&df=p&
He was the husband of my Caroline Ketchum....this is really cool to find. I can now attach her to her husband. Thanks a bunch!
|George and Terrie||RE: Elmina Colvin|
Thanks for the suggestion. I added her maiden name.
|George and Terrie||Colvin's|
PS I see that you have photo requests for several Colvin's. Colvin in my maiden name. We might be related.
|George and Terrie||Elmina Colvin|
Thank you for adding the death certificate for Elmina Colvin. It has provided more accurate information for my family tree.
|Spirit Baker||Theodore Prince Keller|
Burial: Cushing Cemetery, Mattapoisett, Plymouth, Massachusetts
Thank you for the updated info. I have corrected it, give him a birth place and gave you credit.
May I ask what drew you to this cemetery? Are you looking for anyone else within the area?
I have a couple of people that are following me, pretty creepy. They now have some 15,000 names in 2 years and they will go to the same cemetery within 2 days of me being there to try to finish it before I do and they only take names and dates. With their family they do a little more work. It can take me an hour to decipher a 1700's headstone due to wear. They have never written down an inscription, which I think it just as important. I have found a young boy who has a headstone in Mass. and in New Hampshire with a different middle initial. And my distant linage has a family buried close to me and all three, husband, wife and daughter, have their last name spelled differently. I have slowly been learning and doing better as time goes by. I don't have anyone to assist me.
Hope you have a wonderful week,
|Sandra Franklin||Sarah Taylor|
I met my husband in California. Now I find that a Cousin of mine, Sarah Taylor married into my husbands Franklin line oh so many years ago in Rhode Island. It truly is a "Small World." Sandy Taylor Franklin
|Julie Nathanson||RE: Earl Colvin Family|
Always happy to help. I will look for the requests in WB when the weather improves. Keep the requests coming...
|Julie Nathanson||RE: Salisbury Pix|
I live in the area, so if you find some Salisburys you are interested just post and if I don't have them I can get them. Just remember the season, it might take a little while. Right now the weather is good, but it can change very quickly.
|Julie Nathanson||RE: Salisbury Lot|
I wish they would take into account that the requests have been fullfilled. I understand they don't want folks requesting thousands at a time, but there must be some way to reach a happy medium.
|Julie Nathanson||RE: Salisbury Lot|
I also added a photo of the cemetery. You won't be able to see that until findagrave approves it.
Sarah L. has a daughter named Ruth for which there is no memorial (or I might have missed it).
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