I have had people e-mail me a few times asking me to remove tokens I have left for their loved ones, because they didn't want me to increase my 'count' at their expense. If I've left a flower for someone you loved, please take a moment to read this.
I DO NOT keep count, Find-a-Grave does that. If you think that way, look how long I've been a member, look how many tokens I've left, and do the math. I'm not able to be on here very often but when I do, I try to send a silent message to at least one person that they were acknowledged that day, even if by a stranger.
If I left something, it's because you left something on one of my memorials, and I'm reciprocating; because I know someone who knew your loved one, and am leaving a remembrance; or - in the case of the people who have written to me - I try to leave flowers for people who have none. It hurts my heart to see a grave with no flowers in life, and I hate the thought of someone having a memorial on here but not being remembered any other way.
I usually don't leave a message with tokens, because I don't really know what to say, and because I don't want to sound trite. The saying is "A picture is worth a thousand words" and another, "It's the thought that counts."
Born and raised in Summerville Georgia, maiden name Padgett, I married and moved to Rome in 2006. My husband and I have one furbaby, Fancy. I am a homemaker now, "medically retired" from the workforce due to Fibromyalgia and a few other problems.
I always loved looking at old tombstones, and that developed into a general love of cemeteries.
I believe everyone deserves to be remembered, and I get especially sad seeing memorials that have no flowers. Those are the people I search out, so I can let them know that they aren't forgotten.
Thanks to everyone who leaves a remembrance on my memorials. Your thoughtfulness is much appreciated.
Please also visit the pages I have sponsored, to let the family and friends know that their loved ones are remembered and honored.
Oct. 20, 2012: Thank you to everyone who has left positive messages for me about leaving tokens for people I don't know. I'm the kind of person who cries over obviously forgotten graves, I can't afford to place flowers on the real graves that break my heart, so I try to make up for it by leaving tokens here. I appreciate all the encouragement, and apologize for not answering everyone directly. May God shine blessings down upon you all!
************* January 12, 2013
So apparently somebody joined Find a Grave in October and has decided to become the memorial police, looking for duplicate listings and reporting them to TPTB. I've gotten one e-mail so far telling me that my listing of Manuel Padilla is a duplicate and that FaG might want to "Memorials * and * are duplicates. They should be merged and the newer memorial deleted. You might also want to consider making this one a "Famous Person""
Wow, they've been online less than 4 months, have added almost 1400 memorials and manage a few more than they've added, and they're taking the time to police the site to find memorials they don't agree with. And DUH - wow, it never dawned on me to submit a memorial of a famous person as FAMOUS. WOW! Why didn't I think of that?!?! Of COURSE I can do that on my own, just by waving my magic wand! TPTB at FaG have nothing to do with it of course.
Yeah, I'm a little ill right now, people like this just really irk me. So anyway, for those who have left tokens for Manuel Padilla on the memorial I created, just wanted to let you know that if you try to return to leave others, you might be redirected to a different listing. If you have it in a Virtual Cemetery, you might need to change it soon. Since the e-mail that was sent to FaG was sent to me and the manager of the other memorial (a month newer than the one I listed, with no bio and only 6 tokens) it's out of my hands. Just a heads-up on the situation.
I am a new member here but have visited his site several times looking up old family member Grave sites. I just wanted to say thank you for the the picture you left on the page for my Father SFC Russell R Brunni who is buried with my mother Syble Jane in Summerville Ga. We grew up in Plainville Ga. after my father retired from the Army. He was my hero and several of my brothers and a sister followed in his footsteps and joined the Military, I was medically retired from the Army in 2013 after 30 years. I just want to say it touched my heart when I seen the picture that you left on his page. We still have family in the Rome area and I come to Rome often from my home in Piedmont Al. and if possible I would love to thank you in person sometime when I come to Rome.
Again thank you very much, I shared your picture with my sister and she was also touched by your heartfelt actions.
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RE: Pleasant Grove Baptist Church Kathy, I am not familiar with the area. I live in Florida. I went to the cemetery with my cousin who lives in Menlo and if I recall she said it was in Gore. I looked it up online and the address is 900 Farmersville Rd. The GPS is Latitude: 34.4600873 Longitude: -85.2413421. The little white house right across the street from the church is where our ancestors (Phillips) lived. Lynn Turner
RE: Find A Grave Memorial# 132777389q Kathy, when I transferred the memorial to you I lost the option to remove it. There is no place for me to click to remove it. You will have to contact F-A-G and have it removed.
Gracie Watson Hi Kathy, I hope you don't mind but I uploaded a couple photos. We visit Savannah each winter and it has become a tradition to leave an angel or toy on Gracie Watson's grave each year. Of course listening to all the stories is very interesting. I wish they would do more to preserve all the grand monuments in Bonaventure and Laurel Grove cemeteries. Especially Gracie's
I agree I totally agree with your comments regarding Find A Grave. There are a few that "deem it their duty" to tell everyone what they are doing wrong, while they, themselves, do whatever they choose. I commend you for also leaving flowers on memorials that have no flowers, as I try to do the same thing whenever I find the time.