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Bonita Olmer (#46798970)
 member for 10 years, 11 months, 26 days
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Bio Photo When I was young, my mother had a shoe box and a shirt size gift box full of photos that she kept in the linen closet. Every so often, I would ask if we could get them out and go through them. We would sit at the kitchen table with the photos in a heap. My sisters and I would ask who the people were, and Mom would tell us about them. That was probably what first sparked my interest in genealogy.

I began actively digging for information to put my family tree together in 1981. My Aunt Frances Herbold had been at it for decades by that time. A lot of time and legwork was involved when she was doing her work. There was no Internet. She wrote scores of letters to people, asking for information. She must have spent hours and hours looking through old rolls of microfilm, which could easily cause a person to go blind or insane, or both. Aunt Frances, God bless her, furnished me with a bare bones genealogy to start with. When she passed away, my Uncle sent all of her genealogy materials to me.

Many years passed, and little by little my family tree grew. Then one day I was watching the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina on CNN. I was horrified to see the devastation, but what struck me most was that so many people had lost every picture, every slip and scrap of paper they ever had. I thought of all the family photos, letters and documents I had accumulated over the years. It was hard for me to imagine I could experience such a loss, but it got me started looking for a way to preserve and share these things with others who might be interested.

A short time later, I discovered findagrave. While I haven't posted everything, a large part of my family tree is here. Findagrave is a wonderful place to preserve and share information and photos and to honor those who came before us. That is the reason I do what I do here. I have also met a lot of new cousins here.

My husband and I live just north of Seattle, Washington. I have adopted Holyrood Catholic Cemetery as the one I work on almost exclusively now. I finished entering the names, burial dates and grave locations (from the Catholic Cemetery website) for all of the burials there in late February, 2012. Now I'm working on taking and posting grave photos. As of

May 21, 2013, 29%
August 29, 2013, 37%
September 14, 2013, 38%
October 2, 2013, 39%
October 18, 2013, 40%
November 9, 2013, 41%
December 1, 2013, 42%
January 8, 2013, 43%
January 25, 2014, 44%
February 10, 2014, 45%
February 28, 2014, 46%
March 10, 2014, 47%
March 21, 2014, 48%
March 31, 2014, 49%
April 10, 2014, 50%
April 20, 2014, 51%
April 28, 2014, 52%
May 8, 2014, 53%
May 16, 2014, 54%
May 26, 2014, 55%
June 6, 2014, 56%
June 22, 2014, 57%
July 7, 2014, 59%
July 23, 2014, 61%
July 27, 2014, 62%
August 4, 2014, 63%
August 11, 2014, 64%
August 21, 2014, 65%
August 30, 2014, 66%
September 5, 2014, 67%
September 14, 2014, 68%
September 25, 2014, 69%
October 3, 2014, 70%
October 12, 2014, 71%
October 19, 2014, 72%
October 27, 2014, 73%
November 4, 2014, 74%
November 13, 2014, 75%
November 21, 2014, 76%
November 29, 2014, 77%
December 7, 2014, 78%
December 24, 2014, 79%
January 3, 2015, 80%
January 15, 2015, 81%
January 30, 2015, 82%
February 11, 2015, 83%
February 19, 2015, 84%
February 28, 2015, 85% *
March 18, 2015, 86%
April 19, 2015, 87%
May 10, 2015, 88%
May 18, 2015, 89%
May 25, 2015, 90%
May 31, 2015, 91%
June 9, 2015, 92%
June 17, 2015, 93%
June 25, 2015, 94%
July 2, 2015, 95%
July 7, 2015, 96%
July 14, 2015, 97%
July 29, 2015, 99%

of the memorial pages at Holyrood include grave photos or, when there is no visible marker, an area photo.

If you have suggestions or requests for transfers, please contact me using the "Edit" tab toward the top right hand corner of the person's memorial page. Making your request this way gives me all the information I need to fulfill your request. Please keep in mind that I will add any information or corrections you send me, but I will also credit you as the contributor of that information. I do this because I don't have time to confirm all the information people send to me, and the question, "Where did you get your information?" is answered right there on the page. If you don't have a findagrave ID, I will use your email address when crediting you as contributor of information.

I love taking grave photos at Holyrood. You can contact me directly if you would like for me to get a grave photo, or you can make your photo request from a person's memorial page. If you see an inferior grave photo that I have taken, feel free to ask me to try to get a better one, and I will.

For me, this is not about collecting a huge number of memorials. It is about trying to help people find their loved ones. I hate to think anyone is forgotten. It is, as I said before, about memorializing and honoring those who have gone before us. I would like nothing more than to see all memorial pages in the loving care of family or friends.

If I'm being honest though, I have to say my least favorite transfer request is: "Please transfer my relative." I have transferred to people based on this kind of request, and the result is less than satisfying. No information or photos are added; no family connections made; they do not respond to edit requests, and I wonder why the person thought they wanted to maintain the memorial page in the first place.

My favorite transfer request goes something like this: "So-and-so was a family friend. We lived next door to her for many years. She was like a second mother to me. I remember when... Birth Date: xxx; Birth Place: xxx; Maiden Name: xxx, etc. I have also added a photo of her." Transfer requests like this will be made in a heartbeat. I love learning something about every person in Holyrood (my adopted cemetery). I smile every time I think about the feisty little lady in Holyrood who stabbed her abusive husband in the neck, and the photo on her memorial page is a mug shot (although you can't tell at first glance). And there are others... so many others.

Names I am working on:

~ Every Herbold group I can find ~
Berardi ~ Nigro ~ Zeek ~ Ellis ~ Edgerton ~
Lytle ~ Olmer ~ Vassar/Vasser ~ Dowell ~
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Joan Donnelly Ellis
RE: Francis & Elizabeth Green
I am not related so you can have them :)
Added by Joan Donnelly Ellis on Jul 23, 2016 3:10 PM
Memorial 85555778
Dear Bonita,

Could I ask that you allow me to be the maintainer on my maternal grandfather's memorial?

John Edward Mingo
daughter: Catherine Jane Mingo-Brown (living)
son: Thomas Brown (me)

Kind regards
Pelbro62 #49066169
Added by Pelbro62 on Jul 23, 2016 9:46 AM
I Updated & Moved 2 correct Cem. Thanks 4 the Info! John, San Diego, CA
Added by JKBXJKS on Jul 22, 2016 1:00 PM
Joan Donnelly Ellis
Francis Green
I transferred to you so you can keep it and delete yours or copy and paste the info to your memorial for him. Have a great day
Added by Joan Donnelly Ellis on Jul 22, 2016 8:21 AM
Joan Donnelly Ellis
Elizabeth Green
I transferred this memorial to you so you can copy & paste the detailed info from it to your memorial for her or delete yours and keep the transferred one-either way . :)
Added by Joan Donnelly Ellis on Jul 22, 2016 8:17 AM
Mr. Jean Coston
Ana (Medosh) Adams
Per Find A Grave, if a bio has the name of the newspaper
and it's date, the bio becomes an obituary and
obituaries are not allowed as parts of an
Please remove the name and date of the newspaper.
Thank you,
Added by Mr. Jean Coston on Jul 22, 2016 12:32 AM
RE: Transfer of Lois Jane Herbold
you betcha!
Added by Alice on Jul 16, 2016 2:22 PM
Kathy Riley
RE: John Arthur Vassar
Yes, it was a website you did of the Vassars on ancestry. I had it up the other day and then I. Couldn't find it again.
Added by Kathy Riley on Jul 12, 2016 7:08 PM
Kathy Riley
RE: John Arthur Vassar
I already had all that I needed on John Arthur. He was my 1st cousin once removed. He and my mother were first cousins and she lived at Green Lake. I can't exactly remember when he moved to Ohio.

His mother was Mexican. My uncle Johnny and Marie divorced after not too many years. It must have been before I was born as I don't remember ever meeting her. I do remember J.Arthur's sister Pearl, however. I do have pictures of her and a few of J. Arthur. As I remember he never used the John, always went by Art.

I can't seem to find your website with the Vassar information. If you would send the website direction to me I will work on all the other information that I have.
Added by Kathy Riley on Jul 11, 2016 5:30 PM
Kathy Riley
John Henry Vassar
This is my Uncle John who I knew very well and spent some time with him. My mother ended up having his house after he and my grandmother Ida passed away. I live with my mother there while I was 7th and 8th grade.

My subject is that I do know that the obituary was incorrect about the relationship to Matthew Vassar. My oldest brother always wanted that to be so, but I did extensive research in to this and we were not connected to Matthew. I am only mentioning this as you might want to put a note on the findagrave website about this matter so it doesn't mislead other people of this line.

I just sent you an email in reference to the Vassar's earlier today, completely forgetting that I could add it to this website.

I hope you are doing well.

I am still trying to clean up some things on the family. I have still not been able to find Uncle Johnnie's kids. John Arthur settled in Ohio. He and my two brothers were very close until they became adults and all scattered. My mother was very close with Pearl, but she moved to California and they lost contact.

I hope that I am not being to confusing.

Let me know if you have any questions on this and I hope that I can answer them.

Kathy Riley

Have a nice day.
Added by Kathy Riley on Jul 10, 2016 3:40 PM
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