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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Tom Denardo
RE: Re: William Harrison H Rutt
thank you
Added by Tom Denardo on Jun 15, 2016 4:35 AM
Luella Hinrichsen
DeWitt Rutt
Thank you so much Cheryl for setting this young fellows record straight, I love that he is now linked to family! You sure went the extra mile for him, thanks again! Luella
Added by Luella Hinrichsen on Jun 14, 2016 7:23 PM
Tom Denardo
RE: Re: William Rutt
Thank you for your info. Im glad you did research on them. I meant not all census records are correct, I know from lots of research.

I would like help on where my wm rutt died.
Added by Tom Denardo on Jun 14, 2016 10:16 AM
Tom Denardo
gravestone clearly shows william and lucy buried where i found them
Added by Tom Denardo on Jun 14, 2016 4:40 AM
Tom Denardo
wm rutt
census records are wrong alot. ny or ohio..we dont know which one is right
Added by Tom Denardo on Jun 14, 2016 4:39 AM
4ever Nanny
Margaret Loux- Loucks
Thank you for the transfer. Am working on the duplicates of spouse. Again, Thank you.
Added by 4ever Nanny on Jun 13, 2016 10:50 AM
RE: Re: Cyrus Stauffer
I get that his death cert could be wrong. I've had that flagged in my research trying to verify which name is correct. On Cyrus' death cert you're right that his wife was the informanat but on Susanna and Margaret's it was a grandchild, even further removed. What I don't get is where you got Margaret Huntsberger # 132463945 as the mother. Where did that Huntsberger name come from?
Cyrus is my husband's great grandfather.
Added by Becki on Jun 13, 2016 7:31 AM
Margaret Huntsberger # 132463945
Could you please tell me what your source is for the fact the Margaret Huntsberger is the mother of Cyrus Stuaffer # 54343727, (his death cert lists his mother as Margaret Wise) and his sister Nancy Stauffer Bidle # 104708218 (her death cert lists her mother as Peggy Wesley).Their sister, Susannah Stauffer Musselman's (# 38444633)death cert show Margaret Wesley as her mother.
Of course Peggy would be a nickname for Margaret but there is a discrepancy in the last name.
Thanks. I'd like to clarify the information.
Added by Becki on Jun 12, 2016 5:17 PM
Sheryl Deringer Londerville
RE: Re: Robert & Margaret DeRinger
Sure, if you want to transfer the pages that'd be great.
How do I request a picture other than through the person who created the page?
Added by Sheryl Deringer Londervil... on Jun 07, 2016 12:27 AM
Sheryl Deringer Londerville
Robert Wilson and Margaret Milloy Deringer
I want to request that you take a photo of Bob and Margaret Deringer's gravesite for me. Robert W is my father's brother and Mararet his wife.
Added by Sheryl Deringer Londervil... on Jun 06, 2016 9:05 PM
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