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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Bio Photo Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE will be added in the bio line of the memorials. I will not add rank to the name if they did not die in service to their country. All military gravestones when the person dies much later than there service does not have their rank in front of their name, it is after their name, therefore their rank will be in the bio line. I believe in memorializing their full life rather than the short time they served their country. They had lives other than serving their country & military service is but a small part of their lives but should be recognized for putting their lifes at risk to protect our country.

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Ken Buttry
RE: Re: Elizabeth Skelton Thompson
Thanks, Elizabeth was my 2nd-gr-grandmother. She died 09 Feb 1899 and was buried in an IOOF cemetery in Gibson county. Maria was my gr-grandmother. Augustus (Gus) moved to Montana after her death. He died in 1941 and was buried there.

Added by Ken Buttry on Sep 16, 2014 1:42 PM
Jerry Domi
Thank You
Hi Cheryl,
Got your message and I really appreciate all you do for people like me. Thank you for the information about the process. I am new to all this and I too will follow all the rules. Sabrina says a big thanks to you also. Take care and wishing you well. Jerry Domi

Added by Jerry Domi on Sep 15, 2014 12:40 PM
Jerry Domi
another request
HI Cheryl,
Can you please transfer this to me. This is another one of Sabrina's aunts. Thank you for all that you do. Memorial# 101353452
Jerry Domi
Added by Jerry Domi on Sep 15, 2014 6:41 AM
Ray Vick
RE: Re: Jacob Drook
And thanks to you for all your Find A Grave work.

Added by Ray Vick on Sep 14, 2014 9:24 AM
Jerry Domi
Thank You
HI Cheryl. Please know that we appreciate what you have done for us. Once again, we thank you.
Jerry Domi

Added by Jerry Domi on Sep 13, 2014 8:17 PM
Jerry Domi
Request Transfer
My name is Jerry Domi from Kettering Oh.
My daughter-in-law is Sabrina Krisp Domi.
Her mother is Donna Gilpin Krisp.
The Gilpins listed below are the grandfather, grandmother, uncle, and aunts of Sabrina Krisp Domi.
We are asking for the management of these Findagrave Memorials.

Memorial # 47269164 Thomas Jefferson Gilpin
Memorial # 47269208 Erma W Gilpin White
Memorial # 47269188 Conrad L Gilpin
Memorial # 47269174 Alice McDougal Gilpin
Memorial # 47269199 Thomas Claude Gilpin

I hope we have explained our daughter-in-law’s direct relationship to these people.
If there is any issues please contact us at my email or you can call if you prefer.
Regardless, we appreciate your work with these and many other memorials. We just found out about a few days ago and are trying to build our family tree.
Thanks so much and may God bless you for your work.
Jerry Domi

Added by Jerry Domi on Sep 13, 2014 1:44 PM
Cheryl Ann Enyart
Rosie Wright # 71080765
Thanks for making the changes... appreciate it.
Added by Cheryl Ann Enyart on Sep 12, 2014 9:24 PM
Mr. B. Coberley
Bertie Dawson
"This is the same as Bertie Collins who has a memorial in this cemetery."

Not sure which one you mean, the one that says "Gertie Dawson" or "male Dawson"? There is no other Bertie.
Added by Mr. B. Coberley on Sep 11, 2014 3:03 PM
Billie Miller
Cora Lurlina Richardson McCarley

Thank you for the Marriage dates for Cora. Although I had the names of her four husbands, not sure I had all the marriage dates, thank you. Guess I should add this to the Find A Grave web site, wasn't sure. Cora did have one child by her second husband, non with the next two. Cora is my husbands great grandmother.
Added by Billie Miller on Sep 06, 2014 2:34 AM
Sylvia Seymour
Hi Cheryl,
I sent you a request to correct the month of death for Sylvia (#88250372). I know that her death date is October 3, 1971 by the remembrance card from her funeral. Sylvia's daughter Dorothy was married to my mothers uncle Anthony Sciano. You also added their memorials to Find A Grave and I thank you.

Thank you.
Added by Theresa on Sep 03, 2014 7:17 PM
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