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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
 member for 8 years, 2 months, 23 days
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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w Kreider
Rena Louise Cochran Chambers
Thank you so much for updating my cousin's memorial. I appreciate that very much. Thank you for creating her memorial in the first place.

Added by w Kreider on Nov 29, 2015 8:57 PM
Marcia + Pauline
Thank you for posting the information I sent over. I figure that it would be informative for people to know exactly what happened. They were one of the first people that my grandmother had met upon moving to Wisconsin, and she was good friends with Marcia.
Added by Hunter on Nov 17, 2015 10:03 PM
David Eide
Roy F Miller
Hello Cheryl;

There is some kind of mistake with this memorial?

Created by: Cheryl Ayres
Record added: Jul 29, 2015
Find A Grave Memorial# 149957941

The baby is with his mother who died 1/20/1929 and both are buried at Rose City Cemetery in Portland, Oregon according to their records. Is there some proof that you could offer to show otherwise? Thanks. Dave Eide Portland, Oregon
Added by David Eide on Nov 16, 2015 12:02 PM
Laurie B
Eliza Sprague
Thank you for the information on Eliza Perrin Sprague. It is nice to have the information and links on her memorial.
Added by Laurie B on Nov 15, 2015 12:18 PM
Edith J. Bruner
Sarah Ewing
Sarah Ewing is my 2nd great aunt. Her father was Abraham Bruner. Could you transfer her memorial over to me. Thank you very much.

Edith J. Bruner
Added by Edith J. Bruner on Nov 15, 2015 10:56 AM
L. A. McGriff
Amon Green
Cheryl, You have requested edits to the Find A Grave memorial of Amon Green at Mount Zion Park Cemetery. I have no connection to this person and have not researched this family. I would be happy to transfer management of this memorial to you --- Please advise.
Added by L. A. McGriff on Nov 12, 2015 3:56 PM
Baughman / Olson photos
Just an update: I was able to get photos in both memorials uploaded in the correct orientation. Feel free to use them in if you'd like to do so.
Added by Anonymous on Nov 11, 2015 6:34 PM
Photo for William Baughman
Hi, I fulfilled the photo request for you on this grave, only to discover the program is loading the photo upside down. Given that, I've removed it and am working on getting it to load in the correct orientation. I'll send you another message as soon as I get it figured out. Apologies for any confusion this may have caused. Sincerely, Anonymous.
Added by Anonymous on Nov 11, 2015 4:09 PM
Sara Patton
RE: Re: Nancy Ann Hott See
Thanks. Did you ever find anything more on David and Leah's daughter Mary who md 1) John Campbell and 2) cousin David Harrison Jarrett (or Harrison David Jarrett?0
Added by Sara Patton on Nov 11, 2015 11:04 AM
Donald Roddy
Lillian Luella Whiteman
Hi Cheryl,
Thank you for pointing out the error about Lillian's father. The name was apparently entered incorrectly by the person who originally established the Memorial. When I took over the Memorial I didn't know how to edit the bio. I've taken care of it now. Incidentally, the birth date inscribed on the grave marker is incorrect by one year .... she was actually born in January 1870 (she appears in the 1870 census with her parents under her middle name, Luella.
Don Roddy (Lillian's great nephew)
Added by Donald Roddy on Nov 10, 2015 11:56 PM
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