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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exceptions would be career soldiers or soldiers in a National Cemetery of which rank will be added to their name.

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Gary Thom
FAG #93341611 Mary Frances Hoth Bingham
Could you please share with me your source for Mary's maiden name? Her obituary from October 8th, 1925 lists her maiden name as "Henry". But one other family member has also listed her as "Hoth". Not sure if she got this from Find A Grave or another source. Mary Francis and her husband Newell were my great grandparents and I am working on her side of the family tree. Thanks for any help you might be able to share.
Added by Gary Thom on Jan 08, 2017 6:38 PM
Karin McArdle
RE: Re: Re: Joseph Franklin Farmer
Checking my data file, I found that I had mistakenly entered Donald's Memorial number into Joseph's file -- that's why I thought there was a duplication. My mistake -- Are you related to the Farmer family as well? My grandmother was Oma Farmer -- her father was an older brother of Joseph's (Embree C. Farmer). Thank you for your feedback & I'm gonna' be LOTS more careful in the future
Added by Karin McArdle on Jan 07, 2017 3:18 PM
Karin McArdle
Joseph Franklin Farmer
Thank you for your response re: the duplicate entry. You may very well be correct -- I will do further research as I do not have a son listed for Frank. Of course, the last census report I found was 1900, so I will have to check it out further. Thank you for the response & I'll let you know what I find. I'm confident you are correct, but.... just in case, I'll let you know. Thank you & happy hunting!! Karin McArdle
Added by Karin McArdle on Jan 06, 2017 5:33 PM
Sue Kuruzovich
RE: Re: Friends
Hi Cheryl,

I came across an older photo of the Van Dyke family. Can I email it to you and you can see if there's anyone you can identify?

Added by Sue Kuruzovich on Jan 04, 2017 3:32 PM
Warren Salmon 131767848
I received an email from you with this suggested edit:
"This memorial is a duplicate of this memorial Find A Grave Memorial# 127359309 created Apr 3,2014, 2 mos prior to yours. Could you please delete to avoid confusing? Thanks!"

When I went into the Martinsburg Cemetery listings, I only found the memorial that I had created above with the photo I took at the cemetery. The confusion lies with the other memorial #12735930. If you were to look at Mr. Burke's memorial you will see that he has the cemetery listed as UNKNOWN so it does not appear under the Martinsburg Cemetery. He would have to merge his memorial with mine in order to save the photos or delete his memorial. If he just changes the cemetery from Unknown to Martinsburg, then there will be two memorials listed. You might want to contact him. Thanks!

Added by ValJ on Jan 03, 2017 4:53 PM
Shelley or Terry
Find A Grave Memorial# 86997912
Will you link Rebecca Elizabeth (Wilson) Wolfe to her parents in Find A Grave? Their information is as follows:

Nathan Dodd Wilson, Memorial #160845719
Helen Mariah (Coler) Wilson, Memorial #86770298

She was my great grand aunt.

Thank you!
Added by Shelley or Terry on Jan 02, 2017 5:39 PM
Gale Olsson McHale
Find A Grave Memorial# 174775867
Hi, Cheryl-

Can you do me a favor and delete the memorial you just made for Mary Anna Banton Corp? I was creating one and have added all of the information, just added it, and saw your record. If you don't want to do that, let me know and I will send you the edit requests to complete the memorial you made.

Let me know.
Gale Olsson McHale
Added by Gale Olsson McHale on Jan 02, 2017 3:13 PM
Christopher Gentry
RE: About links to family
Sometimes it won't let me. It says spouse already connected with this memorial i don't know why that matters when i'm only adding the prarents.

Find A Grave does this from time to time and ive always wondered why.
Added by Christopher Gentry on Jan 01, 2017 6:30 PM
Barb Ledbury
RE: Re: Wayne McKay Barnes
Thank you for your prompt reply. You had his birth year as 1937. My family records and the other Find A Grave memorial have his birth as 1927. He was in the 1930 census record for the family. Would you like more information from his brother? Barb Ledbury
Added by Barb Ledbury on Dec 30, 2016 1:38 AM
Norm Nelson
Alafair Adkins
Cheryl, I've left the information you provided for Alafair in the Bio in her memorial. Thank you for the input.
Added by Norm Nelson on Dec 28, 2016 6:10 PM
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