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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Henrich von Huber
Memorial Transfer
Thanks again for the Fromdahl transfer. So far you are the only one who has responded to my family transfer requests.
Added by Henrich von Huber on Feb 12, 2016 9:17 AM
June Carroll
RE: Re: Re: Re: Charles Catlin
Cheryl... Where Charles is buried could be taken in a couple different ways and I truly don't have the answer. You could do a memorial and link him to family for now. Thank you for bringing the duplicate for Adam to my attention. I think having him linked to Mary will help when someone is trying to find him. June
Added by June Carroll on Feb 12, 2016 8:58 AM
June Carroll
RE: Re: Charles H Catlin
Cheryl the way this reads about Charles I'm not sure that is the Catlin Cemetery.

On another note... I sent a note to the person that did the Portland Memorial for Adam Catlin. Sure would love to know the complete story about his burial. I made the change but now we have a duplicate so have ask the other person their thoughts on the subject. June
Added by June Carroll on Feb 11, 2016 5:30 PM
Ray Vick
RE: Re: Arthur Guy Taylor
Thanks. I figured he was buried there.
Added by Ray Vick on Feb 11, 2016 3:41 PM
Henrich von Huber

Thank you for the transfers.
Added by Henrich von Huber on Feb 11, 2016 6:51 AM
Ron Merrel
Find A Grave Memorial# 63228539
Cheryl, Thank you for updating the NORRIS lines,
Added by Ron Merrel on Feb 08, 2016 3:09 PM
Stephanie Heston
Memorial# 101565630
Hi, Cheryl.
I believe you have an error in the death date of Homer Heston (Memorial# 101565630). His death date should be May 21, 1960. At least, according to the Washington State Records, it is. I will have to have my husband get a photo next time he is up there.
Stephanie Heston
Added by Stephanie Heston on Feb 06, 2016 1:46 PM
Elaine and Bill Schrock
RE: Re: Lillian Peterson
Sounds like an interesting family to research!
Added by Elaine and Bill Schrock on Feb 01, 2016 7:31 AM
Elaine and Bill Schrock
Lillian Peterson
Hi Cheryl,

The edit I declined (you can view it under your Edit tab, under Edits I have sent that were declined) was to link John Huntington #21280833 as Lillian's mother. That's why I declined the edit request.

Lillian Peterson
Sent by: Cheryl Ayres
Jan 29, 2016 6:06 PM


John "Dorsey" Huntington
(1846 - 1921)

Added by Elaine and Bill Schrock on Jan 30, 2016 9:42 AM
Patricia Harrison Armstrong
Matilda and William Jones - Longview Memorial Park, Kelso, WA
Dear Cheryl,
THANK YOU!! I had barely added my edit request and wrote you a note and Viola! It was done. I am so very grateful!! If I can help you in any way with graves in Butte Silver Bow County, MT please don't hesitate to ask. I volunteer at the county archives as well so I am happy to help if you need it. Many Thanks again! Pat
Added by Patricia Harrison Armstro... on Jan 28, 2016 11:04 PM
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