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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Bio Photo PLEASE DO NOT USE THE MESSAGE BOARD TO REQUEST TRANSFERS USE EDIT FOR EACH MEMORIAL YOU WOULD LIKE A TRANSFER. IF YOU USE THE MESSAGE BOARD I WILL NO LONGER COMPLY WITH YOUR REQUEST. IT IS WAY HARDER TO HUNT THE MEMORIAL YOU WANT TRANSFERRED DOWN.



Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

**** PLEASE FOLLOW FINDAGRAVE GUIDELINES FOR TRANSFERS. ****
I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.


NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Mnnie Hein
Thanks for the transfer
Added by DMD on Mar 26, 2015 7:45 AM
Nina (Foy) Roberts
Palmer Lesher
Thanks again, Cheryl. I think you may have solved my delema. I have 'put it to rest', as the time-line seems right.
Nina (Foy) Roberts
Added by Nina (Foy) Roberts on Mar 18, 2015 8:33 AM
Nina (Foy) Roberts
Palmer Lesher
Thank you, Cheryl, for your note. I have made the corrections you suggested for Palmer Lesher.
And I also wish to thank you for the work you have done logging the cemeterys in Miami Co. and surrounding areas of Peru, IN. It has helped with my genealogy research in many ways.
I found the name, Palmer Lesher in the 1991-92 Peru phone book. It is not in the current index so I have been trying to find who he is/was. I have looked in the Find A Grave, Mt. Hope & some of the other cemeteries. I wondered if you would know of him. Apparently he was living in the 1990's
Nina (Foy) Roberts (A former Peruvian)
Added by Nina (Foy) Roberts on Mar 17, 2015 3:05 PM
helping to find
R.A. Hammond 94189965
Cheryl, Thank you so much for setting up this memorial for my Great-Grandfather. His first name is actually Rasselas. I set up a link to his son Benjamin H Hammond, which I have linked to my father Roland Hammond. Thank you again for all you do.

Shirley
Added by helping to find on Mar 15, 2015 10:43 AM
Lisa
62523726 Sarah Truax
Hello! I was wondering if you are related to the Truax family? I have been trying to determine Sarah Truax's maiden name. I've seen some places show it as Llewellyn/Lewellen, and some people have her as Sarah Lou Allen.

Thanks for any assistance. =)
Added by Lisa on Mar 15, 2015 7:36 AM
Don Blauvelt
RE: Re: Lillie Samantha Brewer Baxter
You should recognize the fact that she was once married then divorced, and apparently had no known children, in the text of her memorial, not by the assumption that she legally died under the surname Baxter, which is not true to begin with, as her name in the memorial's name ID.
Added by Don Blauvelt on Mar 11, 2015 10:41 AM
Don Blauvelt
RE: Re: Lillie Samantha Brewer Baxter
Thank you for your long note that stretches reality. Lillie is the gr. granddau. of my ancestors and a Mayflower descendant of George Soule.

Where is Lillie's actual grave that includes the surname Baxter? In California or Wisconsin?

I would suggest you review the following as she legally died in California under the surname Brewer, not Baxter:

In the 21 June 1900 enumeration of the Town of Dayton, Richland, Wisconsin, ED 111, sheet 9A, line 3, dwelling 175 and household 177, are:

Brewer, Febe, Head, F, Dec. 1823, 76, Wid., 1-1, VT, VT, VT, Farmer
-----, Lillie, Dau, F, Jan. 1852, 48, Wid, 0-0, VT, VT, VT, School teacher

In the 1 June 1905 State enumeration of Richland Center, Richland, Wisconsin, p. 21, line 62, household 550, are: [Roll: CSUSAWI1905_26]

Brewer, Lillie S., Head, F, 53, Div., VT, parents b. VT, Tailoress
-----, Phoebe, Mother, F, 81, Wid., VT, parents b. VT

In the April 1910 enumeration of Richland Center Ward 3, Richland, Wisconsin, ED , sheet , line 36, dwelling and household 9, are:

Brewer, Lilly S., Head, F, 58, Div., VT, VT, VT, Tailoress in tailer's shop
-----, Phoebe, Mother, F, 86, Wid., 5-2, VT, VT, VT, None

In the 10 January 1920 enumeration of Oklahoma City Ward 1, Oklahoma, Oklahoma, ED 119, sheet 4B, line 81, dwelling 83 and household 98, residing at 2238 West 15, are:

Brewer, Michael E., Head, M, 49, Wid., WI, VT, VT, Packing plant laborer
Chase, Fred S., Son-in-law, M, 33, Md., KS, KS, KS, Packing plant butcher
-----, Hazel P., Dau., F, 25, Md., WI, WI, WI, Theater musician
-----, Warinetta J., Grddau., F, 4/12, OK, KS, WI
Johnston, Minnie H., Housekeeper, F, 49, Wid., IL, Eng., NY, Private fam. servant
-----, Dale, Boarder, M, 13, IL, IL, IL
Brewer, Lillie S., Boarder, 68, Wid., VT, VT, VT, None [*1]

[*1] Separately listed at line 1, sheet 10A, with marginal note to see line 81, sheet 4B. She the sister of the head of the above household.

In the 18 April 1930 enumeration of Hemet City, Riverside, California, ED 33-13, sheet 13A, line 22, dwelling 303 and household 339, a tenant at 721 E. Acacia, is:

Brewer, Lillie S., Head, F, 78, Div., VT, VT, VT,

California Death Index
Name: Lillie S Brewer
Birth Year: abt 1852
Death Date: 21 Dec 1931
Age at Death: 79
Death Place: Riverside, California, USA

Regards
Added by Don Blauvelt on Mar 11, 2015 10:37 AM
Don Blauvelt
RE: Re: Lillie Samantha Brewer Baxter
Thank you for your long note that stretches reality. Lillie is the gr. granddau. of my ancestors and a Mayflower descendant of George Soule.

Where is Lillie's actual grave that includes the surname Baxter? In California or Wisconsin?

I would suggest you review the following as she legally died in California under the surname Brewer, not Baxter:

In the 21 June 1900 enumeration of the Town of Dayton, Richland, Wisconsin, ED 111, sheet 9A, line 3, dwelling 175 and household 177, are:

Brewer, Febe, Head, F, Dec. 1823, 76, Wid., 1-1, VT, VT, VT, Farmer
-----, Lillie, Dau, F, Jan. 1852, 48, Wid, 0-0, VT, VT, VT, School teacher

In the 1 June 1905 State enumeration of Richland Center, Richland, Wisconsin, p. 21, line 62, household 550, are: [Roll: CSUSAWI1905_26]

Brewer, Lillie S., Head, F, 53, Div., VT, parents b. VT, Tailoress
-----, Phoebe, Mother, F, 81, Wid., VT, parents b. VT

In the April 1910 enumeration of Richland Center Ward 3, Richland, Wisconsin, ED , sheet , line 36, dwelling and household 9, are:

Brewer, Lilly S., Head, F, 58, Div., VT, VT, VT, Tailoress in tailer's shop
-----, Phoebe, Mother, F, 86, Wid., 5-2, VT, VT, VT, None

In the 10 January 1920 enumeration of Oklahoma City Ward 1, Oklahoma, Oklahoma, ED 119, sheet 4B, line 81, dwelling 83 and household 98, residing at 2238 West 15, are:

Brewer, Michael E., Head, M, 49, Wid., WI, VT, VT, Packing plant laborer
Chase, Fred S., Son-in-law, M, 33, Md., KS, KS, KS, Packing plant butcher
-----, Hazel P., Dau., F, 25, Md., WI, WI, WI, Theater musician
-----, Warinetta J., Grddau., F, 4/12, OK, KS, WI
Johnston, Minnie H., Housekeeper, F, 49, Wid., IL, Eng., NY, Private fam. servant
-----, Dale, Boarder, M, 13, IL, IL, IL
Brewer, Lillie S., Boarder, 68, Wid., VT, VT, VT, None [*1]

[*1] Separately listed at line 1, sheet 10A, with marginal note to see line 81, sheet 4B. She the sister of the head of the above household.

In the 18 April 1930 enumeration of Hemet City, Riverside, California, ED 33-13, sheet 13A, line 22, dwelling 303 and household 339, a tenant at 721 E. Acacia, is:

Brewer, Lillie S., Head, F, 78, Div., VT, VT, VT,

California Death Index
Name: Lillie S Brewer
Birth Year: abt 1852
Death Date: 21 Dec 1931
Age at Death: 79
Death Place: Riverside, California, USA

Regards
Added by Don Blauvelt on Mar 11, 2015 10:32 AM
MooreToots
Eda Louisa Sutherland Van Dyke
Hi again Cheryl!

I think, I am so far removed in this family, but I just love genealogy and keep putting family together, the best I can.

"Eda", is the 'wife, of brother-in-law to my 2nd G-Grandfather Ratliff B. Toothman' (Hope I did that right,,,whew).

Ratliff, married to Ruth M. WOOD (# 31857690), after his 1st wife "Clarissa WHITACKER" passed on. Ruth, is the sister to Henry E. WOOD, Eda's 1st husband.

I will check out the info. you supplied me, for which I am grateful.

Until then, GOD Bless!

Don
Added by MooreToots on Mar 10, 2015 11:42 AM
MooreToots
RE: Re: Eda Louisa Sutherland Van Dyke
Thank you, so much Cheryl, this just gives me a better picture. I do have one question, is Eda buried by herself ?

Don
Added by MooreToots on Mar 10, 2015 9:16 AM
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