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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Re: William Elliott / Delilah Elliott Hockett
First off, thank you for your dedicated work!
I am researching my gg grandmother Delilah Elliott Hockett (1855-1924).
You noted that William and Delilah were siblings. I am looking for any documentation that solidly links their father Isaiah Elliott (Joshua Elliott is the name listed on Delilah's d.c.) to her.
I have linked Maragret Elliott Craigo to Delilah because she lived with Margaret and her husband as per census'.
On Delilah's d.c. it lists Mary Jones as her mother. Given that it looks like Joshua / Isaiah married 4 times, the distance etc. it doesn't take much to believe that the informant on Delilah's d.c. really had no idea of the truth.
So, if you have something concrete that I can add to my research that would be soooo wonderful.
With much appreciation,
J Dow
Added by JDOW on May 04, 2016 9:00 AM
Iris Sandvick
Isabell Sidie
Isabells mother was Jemima Oliver daughter of Robert and Matilda Oliver
Iris Sandvick
Added by Iris Sandvick on May 01, 2016 9:24 AM
Mary Lou Cook
Cheryl, I have recently acquired transcriptions of Bible pages from the Bible of Edward Cook from DAR. Please e-mail me if you would like copies: collectornus at
Mary Lou
Added by Mary Lou Cook on Apr 30, 2016 6:41 PM
Wayne DeLong
Thank you so much for the great work you have done, I come down from Israel Kinney same as you, I hope it is ok to use some of your photo's and info from your site, Great job well done.
I am working all the descendants of my 5th great grand parents from New Brunswick; DELONG , TRACY, LOVELY, KINNEY, Webb, Burtchell, Kelley, Keirstead, ones in caps I spend most of my time on, working since 1984, 104996 people in my data base.
Thank you so much for your help.
ps if I can be of any help please let me know.
Added by Wayne DeLong on Apr 22, 2016 7:07 AM
Rachel Knudson
Memorial# 89521254
Hi Cheryl,
I was just at the Bloom City Cemetery for the first time visiting the graves of my great-great-great grandparents, James L and Susanah R Chatten. Thank you so much for having their graves on find-a-grave so I could find them! I did notice one thing with Susanah's grave and dates of birth/death. On the Find a Grave page, her dates are listed as Birth: Dec. 5, 1823 and Death: Dec. 21, 1899 but on the gravestone itself, it lists her death date as Dec 21, 1893 (which would put her birth date in 1816, according to having lived 77 years and 16 days). I was wondering if you had other information showing the death date on the gravestone to be inaccurate or if it was just a mis-read with all the lichen growth.

I was wondering if you are a relative who manages their page? If so, we are relatives :) I see your name is Ayres. One of the daughters of James and Susanah married an Ayers (my great great grandfather). I wonder if there is any relation there...

Thanks so much for the work you do,
Rachel Knudson
Added by Rachel Knudson on Apr 16, 2016 11:04 AM
Aaron Gullison
RE: Re: Phoebe McGee Shaw
Done. Thanks for letting me know.
Added by Aaron Gullison on Apr 09, 2016 4:37 AM
Collins Family
I am in search of Estella, Mack and Laverne Collins graves. Could you get a picture of the their tombstone for me. Also, there is a Virginia Richards that is a daughter of Estella and Mack's, I would like a picture of her stone too. Virginia is 95 years old this month but has her stone up. She is a delight to talk to. Would appreciate your help with matter. Thank you in advance for your assistance.
Added by PEGGY STEVENS HERING on Apr 08, 2016 3:26 PM
Eileen Lentz
Ray Wheeler Shaw 91806470
I thought I had made the correction before, but my computer froze and apparently that is one of the things I lost in the reboot. This is how I updated his memorial just now:

Still looking for obituary or life story. Any information would be appreciated.

Thanks to Cheryl Ayres (#46935923) for death and burial information.
Added by Eileen Lentz on Apr 08, 2016 2:37 PM
Ellen Bishop
RE: Re: Smith O'Bryan
Make this easy or me, tell me what you want me to change on a memorial that I have edit on, send corrections in specifics, on edit of the memorial that you want corrected I would appreciate it.
Added by Ellen Bishop on Apr 04, 2016 9:53 AM
Ellen Bishop
RE: Re: Smith O'Bryan
Make this easy or me, tell me what you want me to change on a memorial that I have edit on, send corrections in specifics, on edit of the memorial that you want corrected I would appreciate it.
Added by Ellen Bishop on Apr 04, 2016 9:53 AM
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