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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Dorothy Jackson
RE: Re: Re: Daniel Ward
Thank you so much. Makes me a believer in tracking down every clue possible.
Added by Dorothy Jackson on Sep 29, 2015 5:23 PM
Dorothy Jackson
Daniel Ward
Cheryl, do you have a family connection with Daniel Ward?
there were several persons by this name in Indiana in the years between 1830 and 1900. One of them was my great-great grandfather. His wife was Phoebe Peacock, as I see it, but have no literal proof. His daughter was Lucretia Ward, and married my great grandfather, Newton M. Moore, in 1865 in Indiana. I believe my Daniel Ward was born in or about 1799 in England and came to America around 1833 or so with his wife, Phoebe Peacock Ward. Their aim was to settle in Indiana, and they did so, where they had a number of children.
Others believe the Daniel Ward who was born in 1799 and died in 1901 was married to Phoebe Williams. I do not think she was my great-great grandmother.
I adhere to the name Peacock for my Phoebe, because her younger relative, John Peacock, came from England to live with her and Daniel Ward, shortly after their arrival there in Indiana. He may have possibly even have come with them to America, however he is not listed on the passenger ship with them. Mr. Peacock grew up and married and lived in the same general area as the Wards for several decades. That is my premise for surmising that he was a close relative, perhaps younger brother or nephew to my Phoebe Ward.
Do you have any confirmation of the Daniel Ward being married to Phoebe Williams, for the Daniel Ward you have listed on your Find-A-Grave person?
Please reply here if you information for me. Thank you, Dorothy Yates Jackson
Added by Dorothy Jackson on Sep 28, 2015 9:31 AM
Lynn Stoops Chapel
Henry Nestleroad
The info I put in the bio came from Grant Co Records I added your info and this person is on
my list for research at the Marion Library.
Added by Lynn Stoops Chapel on Sep 26, 2015 1:40 PM
Ancestry Chick
RE: Re: Christian C Nestleroad
Thanks for this information, which I will use for further research. I'm still not convinced it's accurate, but it would explain some things that puzzled me. Thank you for sharing that with me.
Added by Ancestry Chick on Sep 26, 2015 12:03 PM
Deby Lake
Charles Wesley Benton136793559
Hello Cheryl,
I would like to know if you would transfer Charles Wesley Benton's Memorial to me. Also his wife Jennie Patterson #136793638. These are my great great grandparents.
I have added pictures to both.
Thank you for your consideration
Deby Sherrer Lake
Added by Deby Lake on Sep 25, 2015 1:11 PM
Deby Lake
Edward Herman Sherrer
Hello Cheryl,
I would like to request and maintain the memorial of Edward Herman Sherrer 138333413
He is my great grandfather. He is the father of Edward Benton Sherrer, and the grandfather of Ronald Benton Sherrer II who is my dad and I maintain his memorial.
Thank you for your consideration
Deby Sherrer Lake
Added by Deby Lake on Sep 25, 2015 12:33 PM
Debora Kelsch-McKee
Rachel Carter-Cornell
Hi Cheryl,
Thank you for the suggestion on Rachel's death date. I know from her death record from "Michigan, Deaths and Burials Index, 1867-1995" it has the year 1890, and what the other death record it has 1889?? And thanks for the linking her father, Anthony to her, too.

God Bless You,
Deb :)
Added by Debora Kelsch-McKee on Sep 24, 2015 7:43 PM
Wayne & Janet Brawner
Lawrence Fisher's memorial transfer
Thank you for the transfer of Lawrence Fisher's memorial. Wayne and Janet Brawner
Added by Wayne & Janet Brawner on Sep 18, 2015 7:06 PM
Wayne & Janet Brawner
Irving Rennaker Memorial Transfer
Thank you for the transfer of Irving Rennaker's memorial. Wayne and Janet Brawner
Added by Wayne & Janet Brawner on Sep 18, 2015 7:05 PM
Thank you very much for the transfer! I really appreciate it a lot!
Added by Stoogette on Sep 17, 2015 7:55 PM
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