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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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cindy treadway
Charles Brant, Daisy Shropshire Brant
Hi Cheryl: Yes, My Grandma, Elva La Von Brant was known as Bonnie. She was married three times, to Ralph Martindale;then to my Grandpa, Roy Treadway (Two children) and to Edward Tunstall 0ne child. She lived in San Diego and died in Florida.
Added by cindy treadway on Apr 24, 2015 5:54 PM
cindy treadway
Charles Brant Transfer
Hi Cheryl:
Thank you for your quick response. I totally agree with your thinking on the direct relationship issues. I am continuing to work on adding obits and pictures and links to siblings and children. This is my legacy to my nephews and cousins of the past and the future.
Thanks again!
Cindy Treadway
Added by cindy treadway on Apr 24, 2015 2:28 PM
Heath Jenkins
Mount ZIon Cemetery
Hi Cheryl, I have been photographing in Mount Zion Cemetery and plan to do so more today, weather permitting. I intend to try to fulfill your photo request for John Robert Campbell. I'm not sure that I've ever seen anything to signify that ashes are buried at a grave. If not, do you just want a pic of the parents grave added?
Also, I noticed that your memorials there for Thomas & Martha Bing Sawyer are duplicates. The surname is actually Sawyers.
Hope I have good news to report.

Heath Jenkins
Added by Heath Jenkins on Apr 22, 2015 5:21 AM
RE: Re: Henry Rusert
Thanks for your quick response! Yes, I noticed the issues in the comments. It's a shame that the findagrave programing doesn't have a duplicate filter, where it notifies you there are other pages with the same/similar ID information or a merge function. If it allowed one to see that, maybe it would cut back on multiple memorials. I see they added an edit tab to allow for some changes. I've been trying to add family members to the pages I find. Is it OK to do that with pages you've created?
Added by lizsku on Apr 21, 2015 12:42 PM
Henry W Rusert 130252731
Hi, I'm doing some research into this man as he was married to my grand aunt, his third wife. During this search I came across another memorial for him. It's under Heinrich Wilhelm "Henry" Rusert (Find A Grave Memorial# 45855308) and was created Dec 27, 2009. It has all of the links to his parents and siblings but no burial information, none of his 4 wives or two children. Not sure why they're using the German version of his name as he was born in Arkansas and shows up as Henry on the 1900 census. I know his father was from Germany, but his mother was also born in US of German parents. Just thought you might want to know.
Added by lizsku on Apr 20, 2015 6:59 PM
Susanna Parrish Allen
FAG# 94097789
Can you check the photo? Thanks
Added by Susanna Parrish Allen on Apr 12, 2015 9:37 PM
RE: Re: John H Swan
Thank you.
Added by Doug on Apr 09, 2015 5:53 AM
John Hayse Swan
Hi Cheryl, I'm wondering where you found the death info for John H Swan. Thanks. Doug
Added by Doug on Apr 09, 2015 5:34 AM
RE: Re: Rachel Caddell Mark
Thanks for the transfer and I will abide by your future transfer requests.
Added by Smilydino on Apr 04, 2015 10:33 AM
glenda (contributor #47305349)
Joseph Hackett & Eliza Short
Thanks for the links you submitted for Ethel Hackett Ballard's parents. I was wondering how you were able to track down the location for their graves. I will process the update as soon as find-a-grave starts working again (for some reason it won't do the update right now).
Added by glenda (contributor #4730... on Apr 02, 2015 2:03 PM
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