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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Bio Photo Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE will be added in the bio line of the memorials. I will not add rank to the name if they did not die in service to their country. All military gravestones when the person dies much later than there service does not have their rank in front of their name, it is after their name, therefore their rank will be in the bio line. I believe in memorializing their full life rather than the short time they served their country. They had lives other than serving their country & military service is but a small part of their lives but should be recognized for putting their lifes at risk to protect our country.

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Mary Downing-Mahan (gravehuntermary)
RE: Re: Deletion of Duplicate Elizabeth Stoner
Added by Mary Downing-Mahan (grave... on Apr 14, 2014 1:33 PM
Mary Downing-Mahan (gravehuntermary)
RE: Re: Deletion of Duplicate Elizabeth Stoner
I will add photo tomorrow. Can't do it on my Kindle. I am sorry for the dup, but even though I check sometimes I overlook a memorial. Wonder will happen in the future when we are not around to transfer or fix. There will probably be a lot of dups. I don't care about the number of entries I have. I just like them to be right. I have already deleted ones I put on first, but the other was more complete. It's not like we are getting paid for this.
Added by Mary Downing-Mahan (grave... on Apr 13, 2014 11:01 PM
Stoner in Neodesha
Thanks, I deleted my duplicate.
Added by KLElkins on Apr 13, 2014 9:59 PM
Mary Downing-Mahan (gravehuntermary)
RE: Re: Elizabeth (Cline) Stoner Find A Grave Memorial# 68517539
Sure, I will delete mine. I wondered how I got a transfer of my own memorial to me. That was before I read your message. Lol
Added by Mary Downing-Mahan (grave... on Apr 13, 2014 9:08 PM
Elizabeth Cline Stoner
I am so sorry for the redundant messages! My key board got stuck - it was probably the coffee I dropped into it. I have transferred the memorial back to Mary. Also if you would change the spelling in the bio area regarding her father and mother please.
Added by junomyth on Apr 13, 2014 8:39 PM
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Added by junomyth on Apr 13, 2014 8:23 PM
Elizabeth Cline Stoner
You are more than welcome to contact the original creator of memorial 68517539 and request her to delete this memorial. Mary will share her photo according to her bio on FindAGrave. My 3rd great grandmother was Elizabeth's sister, so I am not a direct descend of hers. Please add both her mother and brother's links to Elizabeth's memorial. Most importantly please change her maiden name to CLINE. Michael B. Cline, (Elizabeth's father) was born 6 Dec 1839, Broadway, Augusta, VA, and married Ann Elizabeth Byers, 2 Jun 1798, VA. They removed to Deerfield Twp., Ross, OH circa 1800, where they raised six children. Michael died 23 Feb 1839 and was buried on his farm, this is his memorial number 127908226. Michael and his 3 sons George, Michael and David spelled their surname Cline. Elizabeth's grandfather spelled his name George KLEIN.
Thank you,
Added by junomyth on Apr 13, 2014 5:04 PM
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