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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Cheryl Clark
Sharp Family Connections
Thank you so much for connecting Martin to his family. We are in no way related to them, but one of the brothers (Samuel) had a 2nd marriage to a distant cousin of my Dan. His first marriage was also connected through another family marriage. We just realized (while researching Dan's Scott family) that we could bring that Sharp family together, which we kind of enjoy doing.
Added by Cheryl Clark on Oct 22, 2016 5:48 PM
Penny Wood Spaziani
RE: Timothy David
I want to thank you very much for transferring Timothy to my care, I have added him to his father as well as the rest of his family. I appreciate all your work on Find A Grave, it's people like you that make it all possible.
Added by Penny Wood Spaziani on Oct 19, 2016 3:26 PM
Do you know the maiden name of this Nancy J. Thompson you have posted?
Added by Southwood on Oct 17, 2016 3:05 PM
Susan W Bartholomew
Fraulein Beatrice Echelbarger Loer
Cheryl, thanks so much for your help in this. I'm a distant relative and just learning about this family/person so appreciate your efforts. Thanks for sharing the marriage information with me too.

Take care,
:) Susan
Added by Susan W Bartholomew on Oct 14, 2016 10:52 AM
LaRee White Engel
I just read your message....
Added by LaRee White Engel on Oct 11, 2016 9:32 AM
LaRee White Engel
Lucy Grasser
Could you please transfer my Aunt to me for thing are all wrong....#48970696 to me #47193659...Thanks
Added by LaRee White Engel on Oct 11, 2016 9:31 AM
Pat Shaw
RE: Re: Donald S Edwards
ThANKS maybe put a message on them?
Added by Pat Shaw on Oct 03, 2016 12:25 PM
Cathy Hart Conrad
Walter E. McAtee
Hello, I am a gg-granddaughter of Jacob McAtee whose brother was Archibald McAtee, both of Pike County, IN. I see on your Find A Grave page for Walter the info you have is based on a death certificate. Does it list his parents as Archibald and Elizabeth Blaize McAtee? If so, I have added their Find A Grave ID# to your page, but if I am wrong, please remove it. The reason I truly believe I have the correct Walter E. McAtee is the year of birth of 1885 which I have from other information. I have also posted the obituary for Archibald from the Petersburg Press dtd May 1916 showing Walter as his son. I look forward to your reply or you can contact me at Thank you in advance.
Added by Cathy Hart Conrad on Oct 02, 2016 3:33 AM
Harriett Aurelia Post Remick
Good Morning, Cheryl

I appreciate you contacting us with our gg-grandmothers death certificate info. Are you related to her as well? Best ~ Anna
Added by avmschneemann on Sep 21, 2016 5:20 AM
Darcey Gartrell
Thank You
Just wanted to take a minute and say thank you. Looks like we're related through the Zumwalt line (I'm Great Great Granddaughter of CN Zumwalt through Leonard Guy). Anytime I see your name listed I know the information is solid. If you have any pics/docs not listed that you might be willing to share I'd be grateful. - Darcey (Zumwalt) Gartrell
Added by Darcey Gartrell on Sep 14, 2016 8:52 AM
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