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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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William DeLashmutt
Thank you for acting so fast I nearly got whiplash. =oD Seriously, I appreciate it.
Added by JJG on Jan 29, 2015 12:14 PM
Phyllis Pegg
Thank You and a couple of questions
First, thank you for adding my grandparents to this site, Eva & Ernest Pegg.

I read your post about transferring memorials and have no idea of what that is? Could you explain that to me, please?

Also, I read FAQs and it mentioned transcribing photos that we put up. What does that mean and how does one do that?

Thank you so much for answering my questions.

Added by Phyllis Pegg on Jan 28, 2015 2:01 AM
kelly greer
It seems I erred in my previous message at this Jemima Boster's maiden name was LEDMAN and not Clark. My apologies for that.
Added by kelly greer on Jan 27, 2015 8:12 AM
kelly greer
Memorial # 75666848
I read your fairly lengthy monologue about some of the negative things that occur here on Find A Grave and I concur with your sentiments on those things (completely). But I thought I'd send you a message just to say THANKS for getting this memorial for this Jemima E. (Clark) Boster correct.

I have come across a number of family trees on several websites which (almost universally) have confused THIS Jemima E. (Clark) with another Jemima E. (Clark) Boster. The "other" Jemima E. (Clark) Boster was married to a man named WESLEY Madison Boster on June 4, 1840, in Gallia County, Ohio. Oddly enough her date of birth is the same as what you have on this memorial # 75666848. I've seen other family trees that have her date of birth different than Nov. 22, 1823.

Regardless of that the "other" Jemima E. Clark, and her husband, Wesley Madison Boster both died in the Cholera Epidemic that swept thru Gallia County, Ohio, in July of 1849. They both died in July of 1849 but to date I have been unable to locate their burial place.

I just wanted to say THANKS to you for getting this memorial correct by having THIS Jemima connected to HER actual husband (Washington Boster & not to Wesley M. Boster). Best wishes - Kelly
Added by kelly greer on Jan 27, 2015 8:10 AM
Mary Elizabeth "Lizzie" Hartzell Bloyd

Thanks for the transfers we greatly appreciate it. We added Mary's obit today. Just thought you might like to read it.

Thanks again
Added by Lasherp on Jan 26, 2015 6:29 PM
Lori Charette
My Uncle
Hello, The photo of my Grandpa and Grandma Bryson was awesome but I'm trying to find their son Robert Anton Nelson. He was born in 1931 and I think he died in 1971? I'm trying to see if you or someone took a picture of his headstone. It should be close to my Grandparents Roy and Violet Bryson.
Best Regards
Lori Nelson Charette
Added by Lori Charette on Jan 25, 2015 10:02 AM
Patricia Rohn
Roscoe and Velma Fish
Hi Cheryl,
I love the photo you had added to the pages of Roscoe and Velma FISH. They were a very attractive couple! They are my husband's great-grandparents. Their daughter, Harriet, was his grandmother. I was curious if you had any information on the marriage of Roscoe and Velma. Roscoe's obituary from The Sparta Herald said it took place on March 11, 1919, but did not have a location. I had not come across it in Wisconsin records. Thank you!
Added by Patricia Rohn on Jan 25, 2015 8:23 AM
S Lawless
RE: Re: Lyda Hardesty
Thank you for your response, I've been on findagrave for a while but haven't been very active so I'm still learning. I just got so excited after finding Lydia and Chancy after coming across a picture of them just two days at, they are my maternal 2nd great grandparents :0)

Added by S Lawless on Jan 24, 2015 11:38 PM
Jayne Olson
Five Points duplicate entry
I have removed my entry for Caorlyn McClary Nelson and added the tombstone picture to your entry. Thank you
Added by Jayne Olson on Jan 24, 2015 9:25 PM
Cathleen Jacobsen
James Charles Smethurst
I added the information on his life to his memorial.
Added by Cathleen Jacobsen on Jan 22, 2015 4:06 PM
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