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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Roger Rhoads
RE: Re: Elizabeth Tittle
Added by Roger Rhoads on Jul 28, 2016 12:11 PM
Viet Vet
Thank You Very Much for the Transfers you made for me.

Again Thank You and God Bless You

Roger A. Cox Sr.
U.S.A.F. Retired
Vietnam Veteran
Added by Viet Vet on Jul 28, 2016 4:52 AM
Cathy Gray
Ruth Jane (Higgins) Barr
I have recently added photos of my grandmother's grave. Please change her name to Ruth (not Rutha). Her number is 155063938. You can verify her name by the picture I uploaded. Also, she and my grandfather, George Dewey Barr, had two other children: Helen Louise (Barr) Bond and Virginia Pearl (Barr) Brinkman. Both daughters are buried in Drummer Township Cemetery. Can you link the daughters to both Ruth and George's family.Thank you, Cathy Jane (Bond) Gray
Added by Cathy Gray on Jul 27, 2016 6:46 PM
Roger Rhoads
Henry Sehler/Seiler/Siler's Will
I have read with interest your comments concerning Elizabeth Siler Tittle and the spelling of her maiden name. Henry Seiler, her father, had his surname spelled in that fashion in a number of places in his will. That includes his signature "Henry X (mark) Seiler". Note it was written by someone else other than Henry as he was apparently illiterate. Note also that all of his sons spelled the family name Siler. AS for Elizabeth, the will notes "Elizabeth wife to Jacob Tittell" while the family name was historically spelled Tittle. I grew up in that area and there was a dairy in Brookville owned by the Sailor family, direct descendant.
Added by Roger Rhoads on Jul 27, 2016 1:27 PM
RE: Re: Golah Jones Obituary
Thank you for adding the correction.

As I was typing the obituary, I questioned the fact that her four sons last names were "Evans" which was Golah's maiden name. If they were her sons there last names should have been "Jones."
Added by LYoung on Jul 26, 2016 4:05 PM
Paula D
RE: Re: Anna Stuber
Indiana Death Certificate states she died 28 December 1976. Birth date is 23 October 1880.
Added by Paula D on Jul 22, 2016 12:24 PM
Paula D
RE: Re: Anna Stuber
The obituary is stamped Dec. 29, 1976. I believe is was in the Peru Tribune.
Added by Paula D on Jul 22, 2016 12:15 PM
Viet Vet
Raleigh A Smith
I don't know if this is in your realm of transfers, but if it is please transfer the children of my Great Grandfather James Thomas Smith to my findagrave # 46939943.

Raleigh A. Smith Find A Grave# 138378144
and his wife Leatha Find A Grave# 138377295

Thank You and God Bless

Roger A. Cox Sr.
Added by Viet Vet on Jul 21, 2016 4:00 PM
Carolyn Craig
Found three John Ruby's in the 1820 census in Montgomery county, Ohio.
Added by Carolyn Craig on Jul 21, 2016 10:39 AM
Carolyn Craig
John Ruby
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John Ruby

Birth: about 1775

Death: 1822
Montgomery Co,OH,USA

Father: John Jacob Ruby
Mother: Anna Elizabeth Lorah

WIFE: Rebecca
Added by Carolyn Craig on Jul 21, 2016 10:27 AM
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