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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Bio Photo Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE will be added in the bio line of the memorials. I will not add rank to the name if they did not die in service to their country. All military gravestones when the person dies much later than there service does not have their rank in front of their name, it is after their name, therefore their rank will be in the bio line. I believe in memorializing their full life rather than the short time they served their country. They had lives other than serving their country & military service is but a small part of their lives but should be recognized for putting their lifes at risk to protect our country.

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William Crow
RE: Re: Anna Crow Haley
Cheryl Ayres: Those oregon zumwalts are our Crowes as well. the earliest ancestor we all can trace is william crow, who came from ireland circa 1786 with 3 sons and 4 daughters; we're not sure if his wife was still alive. one son stayed in butler, pa with william; one son went to fleming co, ky; and one son visited his brother in ky, married a local gal, and then went to indiana. this anderson crow was from the indiana line; the zumwalt/ crow was from the pennsylvania line; I am from the kentucky line. I do not have a lot of info on the zumwalt crow connection, but if you are still reading and are interested, if you want to email me at I can hook you up with a cousin from the pennsylvania line who has a lot of zumwalt info. regards-
Added by William Crow on Oct 21, 2014 4:54 AM
Betty Clark
John Colby Giberson
My husband (Anthony who also left a message) showed me your page for John "Cole" Giberson. He married my grandfather's sister Sadie (Sarah R____). My father Lester used to correspond with Viva during World War II. To his regret he lost track of her after she married Charles Bonge. I have a picture from your family somewhere that was my father's. If you contact me I will try to find it. I also have the picture on the Find A Grave site of Cole and Sadie! At first I thought my husband had put it there! I would very much like to be in touch with you. Please email. I think you can do it through this site. Betty
Added by Betty Clark on Oct 20, 2014 2:39 PM
Anthony Clark
John Colby Giberson
Hi Cheyrl,

Were your grandparents Charles Augustus Bonge and Viva Evelyn (Giberson) Bonge?

Anthony Clark
Added by Anthony Clark on Oct 20, 2014 1:51 PM
William Crow
Anna Crow Haley/ #137214451
Begging your pardon, I was wondering if you could tell me how the relationship between my cousin Anderson Crow was calculated with the woman your findagrave memorial identifies as his daughter, Anna C Haley. Anderson had a daughter named Anna, but according to Gibson Co census records Anna was single and was living with her widowed father, along with her sister Rose, in 1900 and 1910. Anna and Rose had several sisters, including one named Eva May, who may or not be the same Eva May Crow who married George B Ayers. thank you for your time-
Added by William Crow on Oct 20, 2014 5:21 AM
Brian Weeden
Cheryl--Would you be willing to transfer to me the memorials for Michael Klingaman (#94175611) & Liscinda Klingaman (#94175565)? They were my great, great grandparents. Also, on the issue of ANY prefix formally added to the name: It renders that memorial "unsearchable", unless the searcher also follows that exact order. I don't understand why Find A Grave not only allows, but actually encourages the practice.
Added by Brian Weeden on Oct 19, 2014 1:42 PM
RE: Re: Ursula Wells Post Harvey Nutter Zumwalt
Hi Cheryl,
I have received the probate records you steered me towards. While the handwriting is extremely difficult to read, I have found the death date for Ursula. "Ursula Zumwalt departed this life on the 21st day of May 1891 in Polk County State of Oregon." I thought you would want to know... It appears that most of her children were unreachable. If I find more I think you might find interesting, I will let you know! Thank you again.
Added by Tenley on Oct 19, 2014 12:55 PM
# 93285675
That was FAST!

Thank you,
Added by Dee on Oct 19, 2014 9:56 AM
# 93285675
Hi - Would you connect George Nelson Sopher with his parents Gilbert Sopher # 64335481 and his mother May Whiteaker Sopher # 64335621?

Thank you for your time :D

Added by Dee on Oct 19, 2014 9:46 AM
Janet Elliott Douglas
Gertrude Kern - transferrng memorials
Thanks. I do make mistakes and appreciate all your help.
Added by Janet Elliott Douglas on Oct 18, 2014 9:20 PM
Janet Elliott Douglas
Gertrude Kern
Will be happy to transfer any memorials of your kin to you
Added by Janet Elliott Douglas on Oct 18, 2014 7:29 PM
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