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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exceptions would be career soldiers or soldiers in a National Cemetery of which rank will be added to their name.

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Sue Kuruzovich
RE: Re: Transfers
Thanks Cheryl!

Looks like we have some of the same family photos.

I'm going to add you as a friend (hope you don't mind).
Added by Sue Kuruzovich on Dec 06, 2016 12:29 PM
bernice brown
Dirkie Sinnema Thompson
Thank you for your interest and hard work. Dirkie Thompson was my great grandmother on my paternal side, my grandmother's mother. You have her birthplace blank. She was born in Freisia in the Netherlands, and came to the US when she was two years old.Her father's name was not Cuninah, but rather Sinnema, and he too was born in the Netherlands. He is buried as Jacob Sinnema in West lawn Cemetery, Orange City, Iowa. I'm sorry I don't know how to link, his record is also in findagrave, I am 82 years old and possibly the last family member who knows any part of this history. The photo of Dirkie's gravesite is correct, there is no marker. When she was buried Cowlitz view was Redman's cemetery, and one of the Redmen paid for her burial. But no one paid for a marker. None of her children had much money, but there may also have been hard feelings between her children and Dirkie and her husband. Oh, her name is spelled wrong on every record I've seen. It is Dirkje, the Dutch spelling.
Added by bernice brown on Dec 05, 2016 10:06 AM
RE: Re: Selmer Barstad
Sorry for the delay in answering. My info. came from a family member but, of course, that is subject to error. It seems odd to me Selmer would be buried with his second wife, to whom he was married such a short time, but it sounds as if you have good/valid data. I am going to request a photo of each and see what turns up. Thanks again for the reply.
Added by marypie on Dec 05, 2016 9:41 AM
Cindy ( Pennel )Paulson
RE: Re: Julia Ann Blakley Drake
Cheryl, If you have the correct date then the date in her obituary is wrong. Thanks for letting me know.
Added by Cindy ( Pennel )Paulson on Dec 03, 2016 5:36 PM
I added the information you supplied on Amos S. Tille to his entry.
Added by WOLFCREEKFOX#2 on Dec 03, 2016 12:12 PM
Ajit Dongre
RE: Re: Leland Edward Ayres
Sorry to hear that!

My wife, Donna, Clinton Bateman's daughter, tells me she did interact with you several years ago, about Mollie and others.

And one of the stories is that there was a likelihood of newly married Clint and Lillian might have adopted the twin boys when Alta died in '42. But they were too poor to.

Small world.
Added by Ajit Dongre on Nov 21, 2016 11:46 PM
Ajit Dongre
RE: Re: Re: Alta Ruth Bateman Ayres
And my compilation also shows that your f-in-l was the fifth among 7 siblings -- 6 male and a female (Margaret Opal).
Added by Ajit Dongre on Nov 21, 2016 8:24 PM
Ajit Dongre
RE: Re: Re: Alta Ruth Bateman Ayres
Oh, yes, I happen to have entries -- just names, mind you! -- for both you and your husband, Larry Melvin. Also a birthday for your father-in-law: 4 December 1927!
Added by Ajit Dongre on Nov 21, 2016 8:14 PM
Ajit Dongre
Minnesota May Bogart Bateman
Cheryl -

Minnie May was my father-in-law's mother. How are you related to her? I see from her entry in FindAGrave that his sister, Alta Ruth, married an Ayres (Herbert Orland), but I don't see Cheryl as being one of their children. Nor could I find it among any of the other Ayres entries at that Web site.

- Ajit Dongre
Added by Ajit Dongre on Nov 21, 2016 6:58 PM
edna dahl # 101110784
i'm reluctant to ask you if you have any additional infor abt Edna ? i'm guessing, no
you have a large number of contributions and a large number of comments to be bothered

i have contacted the cemetery voice mail w/o response yet

Edna may be a great aunt. our dahl family has lost/destroyed all information abt family members. my dogged work has provided very little info abt any descendant of our great grandfather dahl. Edna could/would be a wife of my father's uncle Carl; very little has been found abt Carl. he seems to have disappeared, fallen off the end of the world

thnx for you work.

Added by No8Do on Nov 14, 2016 1:59 PM
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