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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exception would be career soldiers of which rank will be added to their name.

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Terry Wulff
RE: Re: Alvin Z Ayers
I guess I need to wear my glasses more as I didn't notice the spelling difference. Thanks for the clarification and again thanks for the great work you are doing with this.
Added by Terry Wulff on Aug 29, 2016 5:39 PM
Terry Wulff
Alvin Z. Ayers
Hello Cheryl. Are you related to Alvin? He was married to my Great Aunt Helen. Always great to meet cousins. Your doing a fine job on here. Terry
Added by Terry Wulff on Aug 29, 2016 11:19 AM
Re: Henry Groce
Thank you for your patience!
Added by Watersprout on Aug 27, 2016 6:37 PM
Rebecca Boardman
Elizabeth Powell
The 1840 census in Perry, Tippecanoe, Indiana:

William Powell age 30 to 39 (born 1801-1810)
female (Elizabeth) age 20 to 29 (born 1811-1820)
female (Martha) age 5 to 9 (born 1831-1835)
female (Margaret) age 0 to 4(born 1836-1840)

Their last 2 children are Harriett and John W. Both were born after 1840.

Elizabeth's father Daniel Baker appears on the same census page and what is probably her brother, William Baker age 20-29, lives next door to William & Elizabeth Powell.
Added by Rebecca Boardman on Aug 27, 2016 10:09 AM
Rebecca Boardman
RE: Re: Elizabeth Powell

The marriage date for William Powell and Elizabeth Baker, daughter of Daniel are 100% correct. I am not positive that Nancy is her mother.

And yes Elizabeth would have been shockingly young when she married. From many years of doing research, I can say that this is not the first time I have seen such a young woman having babies. But that said, I don't see an age or birth year on the gravestone. The stone only says E. Powell so where did you get the given name and birth year? Is it possible that the birth year is incorrect and she was a bit older? I know for sure that her father is Daniel Baker. His name appears on her marriage record, probably because she was underage. I have only seen a transcription of the marriage record not the original.

But what I don't know is if Nancy Snodgrass is Daniel's first wife. That does leave the possibility that Nancy is not her mother. So go ahead and remove the marriage information about Daniel and Nancy. Leave only Daniel as her father.

The 1850 census information was probably given by one of William's children, probably his daughter Martha. I say that because his age is incorrect and his birth location is marked unknown. Because her mother was so young Martha may have assumed that her father was also much younger than his true age.

On the 1860 census they are back in Tippecanoe County, Indiana. William knows his own age and birth location. His daughter Martha is right above him on that census. She is newly widowed. She is Martha Baker, widow of Aaron Baker. Martha and her father died within 5 days of each other.

William's daughter, Harriet appears just below him on the 1860 census with her husband Cornelius Sexton.

I have found the children's memorials and I have requested that they be linked.
Added by Rebecca Boardman on Aug 27, 2016 9:42 AM
John Spring
Please see the pic I added to the memorial.
Added by Betty on Aug 19, 2016 1:38 PM
james rogers
Added by nmcqueen on Aug 17, 2016 5:07 PM
CL Hileman
Thank you. I will check further.
Added by CL Hileman on Aug 14, 2016 5:51 PM
Laurie Stiles Daynes
RE: Hope Nelson Sponsorship
Thank you Hope. I appreciate your feeling the same way I do. Whenever there is a sweet baby or young child in our tree in Ancestry and I don't have a headstone photo, I add a beautiful picture I use of a baby angel. We'll meet them one day too😇!

Laurie Stiles Daynes
Added by Laurie Stiles Daynes on Aug 05, 2016 7:32 PM
Janet Elliott Douglas
M. Martin Cooper
I got a lot of the info I added to Find A Grave in 2010 & 2011 from OLD records in the library.
I had lots of time then and hoped it would benefit those seeking info
Have had lots of the descendants contact me and I have looked up obituaries & other info for them at the library.
Will be glad to transfer any of them to you except my own kin.
Added by Janet Elliott Douglas on Aug 04, 2016 9:59 PM
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