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D. D. Thompson (#47000548)
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Bio Photo Hello!

Why I'm scaling back on Find-a-Grave
Find-A-Grave is a great resource and I appreciate it and the many wonderful volunteers who have put so much time into helping others. But, a fundamental flaw in my view is the "contributor controls all" approach to the memorials. Many of my relatives memorials are "held hostage" by contributors who refuse to allow edits by actively declining all requests. A much better model would be to eliminate "autocratic control" of memorials and make the site more collaborative. So to avoid aggravation, I feel I must scale back my participation.

I would like to transfer any memorials where I am not closely related. If you want a memorial, simply ask me and it will be transferred to you.

If you send me updates/edits for a memorial, I will transfer the memorial to you so that you can maintain it (unless it's one of my close relatives). If you truly do not want a memorial I have transferred to you, feel free to transfer it back. (And hopefully not with a nasty-gram, please).

Why I joined Find-a-Grave
I joined this site as a way to honor people who have passed away and to share the family history information that can be found on grave markers.

SSN Death Index: what it doesn't mean
The SSN Death Index provides information based on a person's social security account. But it does not provide "place of death." Instead, it provides the location of a person's last known residence. Death location can be obtained from a death certificate or possibly an obituary. So please do not provide a "place of death" based on the "location" reported by the SSN Death Index.

Photo Tips
Often it is impossible to take a gravestone photo that shows both the entire stone and also results in readable information. I recommend deciding what you're trying to do: if you want the grave marker to be readable, zoom in close so that the text is as large as possible. If you want the whole marker to be visible, zoom out, but don't waste a lot of vertical or horizontal space showing bare dirt or grass (one patch of soil or grass looks like another). A great approach is to take two photos: one showing the whole marker and another that provides a close-up of the text. I recommend setting your camera to the maximum resolution available and then using photo editing software to crop away unneeded parts of the photo and resizing the remaining image so that it does not exceed Find-a-Grave's standards. Oh, and unless you're taking photos at night, or the marker is in part shade, part sun, you should avoid using a flash. All the flash does is wash out your photo and, often, create an unpleasant bounce-back of light in one spot.

And about those digital date/time stamps...imagine Ansel Adams's "Moon and Half Dome" - but with the orange digits "3/13/1960 1:28 P.M." plastered across the front! Those digital dates are ugly and unnecessary "features" considering the date/time is already encoded into the "meta tags" found in the photo properties.

My photographs
Sorry to get into legalese, but at one time, a find-a-grave member duplicated a memorial I created, then stole my photo and posted it on their duplicate and on some other memorials.

Per US Copyright law, as the original photographer of the grave marker photos I've added to Find-a-Grave, I am the copyright holder and the sole arbiter of the allowable uses of my photos.

My photos are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 United States License

What the license means is that I am granting you permission to use my photos for any purpose you wish but if you want to re-publish a photo on another website or in a book or periodical, you may do so only if you give credit to me as the original source and copyright holder. A good way to do that is to say: "Photo Courtesy of D.D. Thompson, Find-a-Grave Volunteer." You could also include a hyperlink to the Find-a-Grave memorial where you found the photo, but that's optional.

Since I spent my own time and money to drive to graveyards and take these photos, some form of acknowledgment of where the photo came from is only fair. Thanks!
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Judy Farst
First I would like to thank you for the transfers of Jesse and Emma Stull Tucker, I will take good care of them. After reading your bio, I want you to know that I feel very much the same as you, just want you to know you are not alone, :~)

Added by Judy Farst on Mar 29, 2015 10:15 PM
Stone Branches
RE: About those transfers
Thank you D.D. for any transfer. I will do my best to maintain them.


Added by Stone Branches on Mar 29, 2015 8:21 PM
Sarah & William McCulloch
Thank you very much for the transfer of these memorials!
Added by Arborist on Mar 29, 2015 8:03 PM
Sue Wehnert Guss
Thank you for the transfers
Sorry you have encountered so much negativity on Find-a-Grave. You are not alone.
best wishes,
Sue Wehnert Guss :)
Added by Sue Wehnert Guss on Mar 29, 2015 7:45 PM
Deborah Guinther
Thank You!!!!
Find A Grave Memorial# 53320467
Samuel A Shepard.

Thank you for the Memorial Transfer. You have echoed my feeling regarding Find A Grave. I so appreciate everyone's efforts with this site, however, I too, feel that many Memorials are being held hostage. It makes me sad, for I am of the mind that we all share the same goals and we help one another, not hinder others requests or show disrespect. It not a contest to see who has the most Memorials posted.

My heart felt thanks to you. Samuel is my Great-Uncle.

Blessings to you,

Deborah (Flynn) Guinther
Added by Deborah Guinther on Mar 29, 2015 7:36 PM
Trindle Transfers
Thank You! And thank you for the statement re copyright of pictures etc. You are generous to allow the use with attribution! I'm with you on collaboration, but have been lucky that so far everyone has eventually made the requested changes and links except for the one time when "I" made the mistake.
Added by Catht on Mar 29, 2015 6:23 PM
James Busse
Ernest Comer
Thanks for transferring this memorial to me. This is my wife's great uncle. I will take good care of it.

And thanks for all your work on Find-A-Grave over the years. We appreciate it.
Added by James Busse on Mar 29, 2015 5:55 PM
Thank you for the transfer. I will take care of any you send my way! I promise to turn them over to direct relatives if they ask. Thank you for all the time & energy you've put into the Find A Grave site.
Added by Modfreak on Mar 29, 2015 5:54 PM
Brenda Ashford
Donovan Burbank
Thanks so much for the transfer of Donovan Burbank. And I do so appreciate your comments on Find A Grave memorials that are "held captive" by contributors so that family members are not able to add relevant information about family history and family members. I also agree with your comments about folks who "steal" photos I have posted on Find A Grave memorial pages and then publish them elsewhere as their own photos. I do appreciate your creating the memorial for Donovan Burbank. I know it is a lot of leg work and time and expense to collect and publish that information. We are grateful for all your work.
Added by Brenda Ashford on Mar 29, 2015 5:39 PM
S Mac
Ira Safray McDulin
I appreciate the transfer, as well as your work on FindaGrave.
Added by S Mac on Mar 29, 2015 5:33 PM
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