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BonnieGober12 (#47204700)
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Bio Photo Retired legal secretary. Retirement was not my cup of tea, so I went to work part-time at my local library and ended up staying with them 5 years. Have been working on my family tree since the mid1980s. Find A Grave was recommended to me by an archivist in Lauderdale County, Alabama and I find it an added bonus in my geneaology tracking.

"The Chosen"

We are the chosen. In each family there is one who seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again. To tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve. Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: Tell our story. So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family; you would be proud of us.". How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say. It goes beyond just documenting facts. It goes to who I am, and why I do the things I do. It goes to seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying - I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family. It goes to deep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us. It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might be born who we are. That we might remember them. So we do. With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place in the long line of family storytellers. That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those who we had never known before."

by Della M. Cummings Wright; Rewritten by her granddaughter Dell Jo Ann McGinnis Johnson; Edited and Reworded by Tom Dunn, 1943."

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Patricia Moore
this is my second day to look at I see where you have added a lot of information on my grandmother's family. My grandmother was Dollie Lee Curtis Jones. Is she part of your family?
Added by Patricia Moore on May 14, 2015 4:16 PM
Margaret J. "Maggie" Smith Dooley #100188580
Could you please change the tombstone photo you posted on her page as a tombstone instead of person/other? When looking up who does not have tombstone photos she shows up as not having one. Thank you so much.
Added by Chavers on May 08, 2015 1:11 PM
RE: Nicholas James Roberts #133608753 & his mother #136608753
Martha Byers Carson & Jesse S. Roberts were married 18 Jan 1858, no doubt in SC, and likely York County. I can't prove the place, but the date comes from the Roberts family Bible that is currently in my sister's possession which she let me copy. As far as Jesse's middle name, there is nothing to substantiate that it was "Steele"--their son Lindsey's middle name was Steele, no doubt after his maternal grandfather, Beneijah Steele Carson. His name is given as B. Steele Carson on his headstone, but other records show his first name is Beneijah. It is spelled Beneigah on his wife's headstone.
Added by Melissa on May 04, 2015 8:38 PM
RE: Nicholas James Roberts #133608753 & his mother #136608753
Thank you, Bonnie!! I think other researchers--not sure where the mistake started--had Clara Jane Foster as his first wife. I honestly think they had Elvira Foster Greenlees mixed up with Lucinda Jane--not sure where "Clara" came from. Thanks for adding the sources too! :)
Added by Melissa on May 04, 2015 7:33 PM
Alsey Gober Pitchford
Done. Linked your ggg-aunt Alsey to her father: William Gober #137395688.

Thanks for the information.

Added by BLPitchford on Apr 13, 2015 10:51 PM
help please
I am the gggg-granddaughter of Jane Gober (or as my records show, Jane Gobal. I believe Jane Gober/Gobal to be the same person and I believe that the second "t" in Bramlet was dropped with Nathan and Jane's children. I am new to genealogy and am trying to find a marraige certificate for these two. Do you think you would be able to help me out?
Added by Geniebug__help on Apr 05, 2015 9:17 PM
RE: John Thomas Gober and wife
Yes, this is the one. Thanks for the information. I did wonder why the death certificate listed his wife as "Mary". Guess they were wrong.

CM Rushing
Added by CMRushing on Apr 02, 2015 5:42 AM
John Thomas Gober and wife
Great, detailed materials!
I, too, am researching my ancestors. Am trying to locate Mary Turner Gober as an aunt. Can you tell me more about her? Why does the death certificate list her as Mary but the stone reads Nancy?

My Mary Turner was born in Scooba, Kemper Co., MS. Can you confirm?

CM Rushing
Added by CMRushing on Apr 01, 2015 8:01 AM
Nancy Martin
Since it appears she is your family if you want her transferred to you just send a request through her memorial.
p.s. love your story
Added by Eileen on Mar 31, 2015 7:26 PM
RE: Find A Grave Memorial# 50881999 and Find A Grave Memorial # 50881405
Thank you very much I was confused by the tombstone on her memorial. I appreciate your patience with me.
Added by Chavers on Mar 12, 2015 7:18 AM
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