I was a professional genealogist with more than 30 years of experience and was on Ancestry.com's expert panel for some time.
Even though I have retired from active genealogy work, except for the occasional client, I am still keenly interested in my personal genealogical file and I actively work on maintaining the memorials of my relatives.
I have completed extensive, professional genealogical research for the graves under my care. If you have genealogical research that you feel contradicts mine, I will definitely consider it, but I may not be immediately available to do the necessary work right away, and I ask for your understanding in this regard. I am on a tight schedule, with many responsibilities, and I will have to fit in your project as I am able.
Please note that I will not automatically substitute your research for mine, particularly if I find your research to be lacking credible sources or if it is based on family stories. Any professional genealogist worth his or her salt will agree that family stories are highly unreliable. The best that can be said is that there may be a mix of truth and myth involved. (I used to tell my clients, "Just remember, your grandma lied to you.")
We may be able to work something out, however, wherein I include some portion(s) of your family story within the biography that I write for the memorial, with that information clearly labeled as "unsubstantiated."
With regard to the biographies that I have written for some of my relatives, please remember that these biographies are copyrighted and may not be used in any other publication for any reason without my express written permission. You may, of course, use them in your personal genealogy database, provided that you credit me as follows: "Biography copyright (c) 2000 by Silver Rose Parnell at Findagrave.com, all rights reserved." You do not need my permission to put a link on your web page that directs the reader to a findagrave page, unless Findagrave objects.
Finally, I would ask you to please be nice. I have had a few unfortunate circumstances with overzealous Findagrave members who hounded me, insulted me and generally harassed me because I would not accept their faulty genealogy research and I would not do a lot of genealogy work at their instant demand.
Findagrave is not, essentially, a genealogy site, although a lot of us use it as such. None of the volunteers are required to write biographies, post stories or any of that extra work. We do those things because we love this work and we like to connect with our fare-flung cousins and help them. So...be nice to the volunteers and we'll be nice to you.
Bernadean Ethel Greene Delaney Thank you for the work you invested in updating my Aunt Bernadean's memorial. You've created a beautiful memorial for her and both my cousin (her daughter) and I appreciate it.
To clarify, yes, the photos taken of Bernadean with her dad, Roland Lewis Greene, and half siblings (and some with her stepmom) were taken during family visits. The Bankses and the Greenes all lived in Kern County and were farm families.
Granddad remarried quickly after the loss of his first wife because he hoped to raise daughter Bernadean himself, and knew he needed a mother in the home for his little girl.
Granddad is buried, with my grandmother, in Greenlawn Memorial in Bakersfield.
RE; Elizabeth Laird Claton Good morning! My husband is a direct decendant of Elizabeth & Thomas Claton. Was wondering if I could use your information in our tree. Also would love to correspond with you sometime about the family. He is a direct decendant of John Cochran & Cynthia Claton.
RE: Elizabeth McLaughlin #19737034 Thank you for transferring the memorial. Even though I'm not a direct descendant (my aunt was married to John McLaughlin's grandson Aaron Reuck), I will "care for" her memorial and when I can get one of my aunt and uncle's children or grandchildren hooked on FindAGrave I will definitely transfer it to them. I sure wish I could just change John's memorial but I don't have management of his memorial and don't know who the person is who created it. If it's not corrected soon, I'll try to contact Find A Grave "powers that be" to see if they can have it corrected. I have the 1870 census but not the 1860 or the 1880. If you'd like to send them to me my e-mail address is firstname.lastname@example.org . Thanks so much! Bless you for being so nice!!
RE: Elizabeth McLaughlin #19737034 I was searching for my uncle's grandfather and discovered that whoever created the memorial for "James Robert McLaughlin" posted the name incorrectly. The person who is buried in Rose Hill Cemetery is John Robert McLaughlin the son of Samuel and Elizabeth. There is a death certificate for him at Missouri Digital Heritage and it gives the correct name, John Robert McLaughlin who was my uncle's grandfather. I sent a correction to the creator of the memorial but as of yet the memorial hasn't been corrected. After Samuel McLaughlin's death his wife Elizabeth came to Brookfield, Missouri and lived with her son John. The 1900 census taker misspelled the last name as McGlaughlin. https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/3:1:S3HT-67H7-XJY
Elizabeth McLaughlin #19737034 If you would like to update the memorial bio for Elizabeth McLaughlin you can get a lot of information from her death certificate. She died in Brookfield, Missouri while living with her son. Her death certificate can be viewed from this link: http://s1.sos.mo.gov/records/archives/archivesdb/deathcertificates/Results.aspx