|Laurie Stewart Tokarsky (#47375347)|
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|Member Find A Grave: 7/23/2002 - name: Snowbird * Genealogist for 43 years, since 1972 * |
* (8th generation Western New York'er) *
****[My Husband,Paul Tokarsky died August 3, 2015. I am behind with Find A Grave photos & information. I will be back to Find A Grave shortly. Please send emails or corrections for approval.] ****
"Every cemetery gives a history of people that once lived, loved & worked hard to scrape up a living for their Families. It's important to take Photos of All Gravestones while they are Still Readable, Writings Wash Out or Vandalism Destroys them". Laurie S Tokarsky
" Consider, Friend, as you pass by: As You are now, so once was I. As I am now, You shall be. Prepare, therefore, to follow me ". A Scottish Gravestone epitaph.
The Rose Upon The Wall
" A Rose once grew where all could see,
sheltered beside a garden wall,
And as the days passed swiftly by,
it spread its branches, straight and tall...
One day, a beam of light shone through
a crevice that had opened wide
The Rose bent gently toward its warmth
then passed beyond to the other side.
Now, you who deeply feel its loss,
be comforted- the Rose blooms there -
it's beauty even greater now, nurtured by
God's own loving care " a shorter version
of A L Frink's Rose Beyond the Wall
" Dear Ancestor,
Your gravestone stands among the rest;
Neglected & alone
The name & date are chiseled out
On polished, marble stone
It reaches out to all who care
It is too late to mourn
You did not know that I existed
You died & I was born.
Yet each of us are cells of you
In flesh, in blood, in bone
Our Blood contracts & beats a pulse
Entirely not our own.
Dear Ancestor, the place you filled
One hundred years ago
Spreads out among the ones you left
Who would have loved you so.
I wonder if you lived & loved,
I wonder if you knew
That someday I would find this spot,
And come to visit you ".
Written by: Walter Butler Palmer(1868-1932)
Published in " Heart Throbs & Hoof Beats"
San Jose, CA, Hills-Murgotten Co, 1922
* My OLD New England Lines:
Spring, Tarbell, Wilder, Walker, Proctor, Powers, Upham, Nourse, Persons, Whitcomb,Cowels/Cowls, Frost,Root, Spaulding/Spalding, Chase & Bloomer & Darrow, Stowell, Frost, Sewall, Converse, Keep, Hildreth, Blaisdell, Prescott, White, McClure, Bartlett & Bolles & Lines & Griswold, Wolcott, Colton, Leonard, Tilden more....
* My Scottish and /or Canadian Lines:
Stewart, Gordon, Millar/Miller, Hogg/Hog/Hogue, Kydd/Kyd/Kyde, Lumsden, Marshall, Trail, Boyles, Clarke, Reid/Read, Ogilvy, Corsar/Corsair, Coulter, Powers, McKee, Kerr, Graham, Merritt, McLean, McAdam, Cummings, Jackson, Foye, Byrd, Keeler
& more .....
* My Welsh Lines:
Evans,James, Davies & Rees/Reese, & more ....
* My Eastern European Lines:
Tokarsky, Hoch, Korba, Milyan, Marco/Marko & Patlovich, Zulick, Barna, & more.....
* My German Lines:
Eller, Kibler, Ruhl, Reichart, Sweger & more....
Most families came from USA states of MA,ME,CT,VT,NH,RI,PA,OH & New York Counties: Cattaraugus, Chautauqua, Allegany, Chautauqua, Otsego, Westchester, Erie & Washington
Canadian families are scattered from Nova Scotia, New Brunswick, Ontario, Manitoba, Saskatchewa, & British Columbia.
Daughters of the American Revolution(DAR) & some United Empire Loyalists(UEL) & Mayflower Families & many others.
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|Karen Wilson||John Austin Smith|
My great grandfather was John Austin Smith, my grandfather was David Austin Smith, my father was John Gardner Smith. You have a grave marked with John Austin Smith, Death April 1891, this is not my grandfather, Many people make this error and sad to say I posted his death certificate years ago when I was new on ancestry. My great grandmother Martha Austin Smith was a widow by 1881 census, somewhere between 1872 and 1881 should be his death, His daughter my Aunt, Mary Smith told me when I sent her the death certificate dated 1891 that this was not her grandfather , that she was certain he died a much younger man. She told me this in the 70s. Unfortunately when I posted to ancestry being a novice everyone ran with this.
Karen Smith Wilson
|Karen Wilson||John Austin Smith|
My great grandfather was John Austin Smith, my grandfather was David Austin Smith, my father was John Gardner Smith. You have a grave marked with John Austin Smith, Death April 1891, this is not my grandfather, Many people make this error and sad to say I posted his death certificate years ago when I was new on ancestry. My great grandmother Martha Austin Smith was a widow by 1881 census, somewhere between 1872 and 1881 should be his death, His daughter my Aunt, Mary Smith told me when I sent her the death certificate dated 1891 that this was not her grandfather , that she was certain he died a much younger man. She told me this in the 70's. Unfortunately when I posted to ancestry being a novice everyone ran with this.
Karen Smith Wilson
|Linda Sibley Zimmerman||Tokarsky|
Something interesting also poped up when I was doing research on Fernando, You may already know thin but I found Tokarskys on the same page of the 1870 census of New York, Cattaraugus, Hindsdale.
|Linda Sibley Zimmerman||Fernando F White|
I have been trying to track down info on all the Whites in the White cemetery. Fernando F White (115952263) seems to be the odd man out. Looks like he is not related to the other Whites there. Here what I have on him:
1. Father was born in RI.
Mother was born in NY.
Children of Unk White and Unk F. are:
2. Fernando F. White, born Jun 1834 in NY, Wyoming Co., Orangeville; died 1901 in NY, Allegany Co., Rushford.
3. Jared Bradshaw White, born 1836.
2. Fernando F.2 White (Unk M.1) was born Jun 1834 in NY, Wyoming Co., Orangeville, and died 1901 in NY, Allegany Co., Rushford. He married Ellen 1860. She was born 1839 in NY, Father-Ireland, Mother-Ireland, and died 1904 in NY, Allegany Co., Rushford.
Notes for Fernando F. White:
Fernando F. White died at his home in East Rushford shortly after mid- night Saturday night from heart trouble. He had been in poor health for a year, and was brought back here from Black Creek on a bed last June. Mr. White was born in Orangeville in 1832, and lived at Caneadea and Oramel when a young man.
Cuba NY Patriot 1926-1927
Census 1: 1855, NY, Allegany Co., Rushford
Census 2: 1855, NY, Allegany Co., Caneadea
Census 3: 1860, NY, Allegany Co., Caneadea
Census 4: 1870, NY, Catraraugus Co., Hinsdale
Census 5: 1892, NY, Allegany Co., New Hudson
Census 6: 1900, NY, Allegany Co., New Hudson
Children of Fernando White and Ellen are:
4. Newton White, born 1865 in NY.
5. William White, born 1867 in NY.
6. Grace White, born 1871 in NY.
7. Fred White, born 1880 in NY.
8. Floyd White, born 1881 in NY.
I see you maintain memorials for Hannah Tarbell Lines, her husband Joel Lines, and their son Grove P. Lines. All are listed as being buried in Farmersville Center Cemetery in Cattaraugus Co., New York.
They are buried in Oak Hill cemetery in Elma, Erie Co., New York for which I've set up memorials and do have photos of their monuments if you'd like to put in photo requests.
I cannot tell if the other two sons of Joel & Hannah Lines (Joel & Arthur) are truly buried in Farmersville as there are no photos to accompany the memorials nor do I have them buried in Oak Hill cemetery in Elma, Erie Co., NY. Perhaps a photo request for the two would be helpful.
Their son Archibald is also buried in Erie County and is connected to the memorials I've set up.
The question remains as to how to handle the duplicates for the Joel, Hannah, & Grove as I have them in the correct cemetery.
Thank you for your attention to this matter.
|Red Rose||Lieut. Spaulding|
Dear Laurie, So glad to hear from you and would like to say that despite the 'vampire' story, your grandfather Leonard was a very remarkable man. He seems to have had an adventurous and brave life, as could be said for his wife and family. I read that this grandmother of yours would once a year, by herself, ride a horse from Vermont back to her home town in Ma. to visit with her mother, who lived to be a hundred years old. Lieut. Spaulding could be considered a Vermont hero. The following link will bring you to a book that tells in detail about these grandparents of yours from long ago. And how much fun is it to know you have a grandmother who lived to be a 100.
All the best to you, Rose
Added by Red Rose on Nov 07, 2015 1:51 PM
|Red Rose||Respectfully Submitted|
Dear Laurie, Greetings from Southern Vermont. What an outstanding tribute to your New England family. I thought you might want to know, or perhaps not, that this Spaulding family had much death due to consumption. Their misfortune became part of legend during the 'Vermont Vampire Panic' and I include the story here....
The Killing Vine
Yet another old case, again involving consumption and associated superstition, has been reinterpreted by moderns as a “vampire incident” (“Vampire” 2008; Rondina 2008, 104). The story, in David L. Mansfield’s The History of the Town of Dummerston (1884)—itself an account written some ninety years after the events and based on oral tradition—has become somewhat garbled by writers copying writers. Therefore, I tracked down a copy of the original text for study. It relates that Lieutenant Leonard Spaulding died of consumption in 1788, aged fifty-nine, father of eleven children. Mansfield states (1884, 27):
Although the children of Lt. Spaulding, especially the sons, became large, muscular persons, all but one or two died under 40 years of age of consumption, and their sickness was brief.
It is related by those who remember the circumstance; after six or seven of the family had died of consumption, another daughter was taken, it was supposed, with the same disease. It was thought she would die, and much was said in regard to so many of the family’s dying of consumption when they all seemed to have the appearance of good health and long life. Among the superstitions of those days, we find it was said that a vine or root of some kind grew from coffin to coffin, of those of one family, who died of consumption, and were buried side by side; and when the growing vine had reached the coffin of the last one buried, another one of the family would die; the only way to destroy the influence or effect, was to break the vine; take up the body of the last one buried and burn the vitals, which would be an effectual remedy: Accordingly, the body of the last one buried was dug up and the vitals taken out and burned, and the daughter, it is affirmed, got well and lived many years. The act, doubtless, raised her mind from a state of despondency to hopefullness [sic].
Now, Spaulding and his wife Margaret (who died in 1827) were buried in separate cemeteries and in unmarked graves. However, I located all but two of the children’s graves, including a row of six in the Dummerston Center Cemetery (figures 1 and 2).
Unfortunately for the quaint legend related by oral tradition, the graves (whether linked by hidden underground vines or not) are not placed consecutively in the order of the family members’ deaths. Neither did the last of the six, Josiah, die very close in time to the previous sibling’s demise, since more than five-and-a-half years passed since the death of John. Of course, the family may well have been plagued by consumption, and it is possible Josiah’s body was disinterred and the vitals burned. In any event, he was indeed followed in death by one of Leonard Spaulding’s daughters, as the legend states, since after he died only Olive remained alive. Apparently, she lived on for years, moving with a second husband to Brattleboro (Mansfield 1884, 26)—perhaps this being the secret of her having avoided the contagion!
Added by Red Rose on Nov 06, 2015 12:52 PM
|Terry Chaplin||Duplicate memorials|
Please delete memorials 104399276 and 104398890 as they duplicate memorials submited in 2009.
|Rosemary Millar||John Straight|
Please delete Memorial #129197219 as it is a duplicate of 12919412 & 70183366.
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