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Tree Leaf (#47481781)
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Bio Photo Please read this. :)

1. Send source, citation, proof via SAC at the same time you send an edit. That means, type something into the blank space in the Edit tab on that person's memorial page.

If you do send an edit - send the source(s) via SAC, with it. Then, give me time to look into it. FAQ says 30 days. Realize my sources might differ.

1B. Please do not 'insist' - it's called 'suggest' a correction. There are trees on Ancestry; this is a grave registration site. The individual pages will *still come up as leaf hints* on Ancestry.

2. Do not misuse the flower section to post biographical information. That includes name variants, dates, maiden names, relationship with other pages, etc. That is in the FAQ.

3. Be courteous. I am a volunteer here. Please don't talk to me as if we're not equals because we are. We all have bad days but some take it beyond. Update: My health and life will come first. I will no longer do the work when you had the work in front of you from the beginning. Send sources at time of edit, please. I have stayed up until the wee hours at the end of long days, and when I didn't find any supporting sources or proof, or mine conflicted with the edit sent, or left room for doubt, harassment began. I'm sick of it, literally. No more.

*Edits sent without proof will now be declined* as a rule. If you had the info you had the source. Please, don't waste both our time by refusing to send it. Please, do not harass and insist because that will only cause me stress which will cause me to put my health before your harassment.

I used to take all edits sent 'on faith' until I found out many were 'guesses' and mistakes. Most people mean well, but I don't wish those mistakes to wind up 'as gospel' across the internet. So, I am cautious. You can make the trees on Ancestry, if you are convinced, but if I'm not I don't want to 'set it in stone' with wrong information (pun intended.)

Sources can differ. Interment records, markers, death certificates, obituaries, newspaper articles, family lore, even family Bibles, can all be wrong. My conclusion may differ from yours but it does not mean either of our conclusions were 'wrong' or unreasonable.

If you've seriously researched those lines you would know that in some cases the first names repeat, or there are 4 given names and more than one 'cousin' went by it, and families intermarried repeatedly. *This can mean multiple instances in a given town of people with the same first, last and maiden name of the same ages.*

I had one instance in which it was told me that my info (in a bio on my page, which the person was not related to, and I am, btw), 'had to be wrong' because the two had the same name and same birth date. It wasn't wrong - the parents named the twin girls the same first name. To make things more interesting, they both took nicknames at times in their lives that were the same. They also were not always in the same censuses with their parent as the other twin was. The person told me I must remove the twins from the other page's bio so I did. But I knew my info was right. I had to take months, to send for thing$, to track down and interview family, obtain their obits, and prove they were two separate people. (I want to add that this person was polite, and that at that time I had time to pursue a page suggestion for months.)

So in either direction, what 'appears' to be 'infallible' is not always. Truth *can be* stranger than fiction. I know the area I work in, and I know its quirks. If I see red flags, I heed them.

It is for that type of reason that I sometimes have cause for doubt. I cannot afford to $end for documentation and spend months researching that page, in each case, as the auto-edit gives only 21 days. So I will make the best decision I can make *at that time* - again putting my life and health first from *now on.* Since all doing otherwise gained me, at times, was increasing nitpicks and harassment. I'm done putting up with that. The pages are accurate without links, links can be made on Ancestry. If you have compelling proof *send it when you send the edit* as you clearly had proof in front of you when you sent it. That is not an unreasonable request; we all make errors, I'd rather not *add any* if that is OK.

4. Please do not post clippings onto my pages. Contact me via SAC. We can work something out. I'm willing to hand type it if you are not, but give me the chance.

Along those lines: I send hand-typed (public domain years) obituaries and other things that might be of interest to their Bio section. (If it's more current, I sometimes will send a hand written bio instead.) Those are 'suggestions' (in the spirit of 'suggest a correction') and some love them and some don't want anything in their Bio at all. If you'd rather not receive them, just let me know. That is no problem. I do abide by other members' preferences, if I know them. I do read profiles before sending anything.

5. Nit picking, and borderline harassment. Please don't scour or hover over my pages. The problem with asking this is that those who are not reasonable won't care I asked this, but I ask anyway. Some of those who send nit picks have page after page of Burial Unknowns, or do other things I wouldn't do but I am not harassing *them* with 100 nit pick edits for every new page they make. If I send an edit, I send something with it. And I sure don't hover over people's pages looking for ways to 'keep them busy.' (Please afford me the same courtesies?)

At any point in time if someone is taking a break from this site or has a health setback or for any reason (no need to explain why) just send me a private note via SAC and I will happily hold off sending *anything* to your pages until further notice. Life comes first! And with any edits I do send, I realize "your sources may differ" and I am not about to 'insist' to anyone. Please afford me the same courtesies?

Most members here are wonderful. Thank you to those members. I hope to continue to volunteer here, if the harassment abates.

Thank you and let's help some people here. Let's not forget what this site is supposed to be about. Helping others.

And if you read nothing else: "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." I have had people send me ugly messages on the day I was burying a family member. Recognize you never know what the other person is going through on a given day, and as a default, *be kind.*

Have a great day!

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Thomas Dowd
Thank you for the Bio on Thomas.
Added by mishpocha99 on Aug 18, 2016 7:09 AM
Bertha Avery-Hood
Katherine Gibson
I have updated and added the obit and given you a note of credit. Thanks for your help.
Added by Bertha Avery-Hood on Aug 15, 2016 10:48 PM
Pam Witherow
Fred Hill, Edina Boy
Oh, any time you find anything that would seem worthy to post in bio by all means please send it to me. I am always appreciative of info/data sent like the little death notice, little Fred's bio looks so much better because of your finding and sharing!!! THANKS!!!!!
Added by Pam Witherow on Aug 15, 2016 10:02 PM
Alvira Hopson Walker
Yes, I will add your typed bio. giving you credit. Please use the edit tab. Thanks!
Added by labs2006 on Aug 13, 2016 12:29 PM
Pam Witherow
RE: Daniel Tanna
Great info!!! THANKS!!!!
Added by Pam Witherow on Aug 11, 2016 8:47 PM
Thank you for the edits on Arthur Nolan!
Added by AmyABJ on Aug 03, 2016 5:31 PM
Arthur Terford
Sad story about Arthur Terford : ( Thanks for the obit! Has been added to his memorial.
Added by Calcat on Jul 29, 2016 8:21 PM
Jeannie Hemphill
Ann Alexander
Thank you for your careful work. One does indeed walk a fine line, as one tries to work out the mysteries of the past. Assumptions are necessary but "dangerous". See you in Find A Grave world from time to time! Respectfully, jth
Added by Jeannie Hemphill on Jul 23, 2016 7:22 PM
Don Vaughn
Robert Walker
Thank you for the additional information about Robeert Walker. He was my wife's gt grand father.
Don Vaughn
Added by Don Vaughn on Jul 19, 2016 9:50 AM
Robert Wade Walker
I've been looking for this grave for over 10 years. I was wondering how and what information you have pertaining to the above grave. message me back with any questions you may have yourself I'll be more than happy to answer them if i can.
Added by SDC on Jul 18, 2016 12:47 PM
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