My name is Angie I was born and rasied in Macon ,GA. I have lived here all my life. I happen to come accross this site and found my daddys grave. i have always had interest in geneology so i have been trying to link all my family members. I have just been through the worst thing i have ever had to do which was stay and help my momma. she was diagniosed with lung cancer in Feb.2012 she joined the Hospice family and my sister and i took care of her while we watched her die.she passed on April 27,2012. It is a hard thing to go through. I LOVE AND MISS MY MOMMA. SHE INSPIRED ME TO BE THE PERSON I AM TODAY.
Re: Find A Grave rules Hi Angie, I came across the diatribe below as I was researching my own genealogy. I sympathize with you. I believe that family should be with family. Frankly, I don't understand why anyone would want to hang onto a memorial if they did not have a relationship with the deceased. It almost seems spiteful to purposely deny a person the privilege of maintaining a memorial for their loved one. I know that Find A Grave rules are on the side of the creator, but I like to think that everyone has an internal barometer of compassion, kindess, and sensitivity which tells them that it's "just the right thing" to do. I always envision these kind of people as being very eccentric and living in a house full of cats!!! It's like they just LIVE for documenting dead people! Get a life!
Yes, this message is going to sound quite harsh. At this point, unfortunately, harshness seems to be necessary.
If you had actually read my message of yesterday, you would understand that transferring anyone you might happen to be related to in some way is NOT REQUIRED by the site rules.
You would also understand that having management of any and all memorials you run across for people you might happen to be related to in some way is NOT NECESSARY.
Someone else transferring to you OOG (out of guidelines) does not in any way obligate any other member to give you OOG transfers.
You may or may not be aware of the site forums. OOG transfer "demands" have been a hot-button topic for a very long time. You don't have to sign up for the forums to read them, FYI.
Ignoring the site rules, ignoring things that are clearly said right above where you post messages (such as that I am delighted to transfer relatives WITHIN the 4 generation guidelines), not following the site rules about Send A Corrections, and using insulting and inflammatory language such as "ugly" is the perfect way to make another contributor absolutely adamant that you will never receive any transfer OR correction that is not absolutely required by the site rules.
Please consider the topic of your aunt to be permanently closed.
Despite your apparent attitude, I will endeavor to have a happy 4th of July.
I wish you a happy 4th of July as well, and request that you not contact me further.
How do I get a relative's memorial transferred to me? First, Determine if you really need the memorial transferred to you for management. Transferring of management should only be requested If you have extensive changes to make to a memorial. You can add photos and suggest corrections without having to request management. Simply having someone in your family tree is not grounds for a management transfer request. With hundreds of thousands of contributors, we have many overlapping family trees and it would be impossible for all contributors to manage their entire tree.
Second, Transfer requests should be for direct relatives within four generations. This would be your siblings, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.
Third, If you have extensive additions/changes to make to a memorial, please contact the Find A Grave member who created the memorial via the "Suggest a Correction" link under the "Edit" tab on the memorial in question with your request to have the memorial management transferred to you. This will send an email request to the contributor, even if there is not an email address listed on their contributor page.
Fourth, Explain your relationship in the request! Any non-direct relatives (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) are not required to be transferred. Keep in mind that the original contributor may also be related to the memorial and may not make the transfer. Bulk surname requests should not be made. Be advised that memorials listed as famous or maintained by Find A Grave will not be transferred.
Fifth, The "Suggest a correction" feature may also be used to submit corrections, an original biography, and family links to memorials that do not fall under the above defintion. (Be sure to include the memorial ID#s for the family links and how they are related, father, mother or spouse. The original contributor should make any corrections and add any additional information you have for that memorial, such as links to parents and spouses, provided the information is accurate.
What if a member will not transfer my relative to me? If the memorial in question is a direct relative within four generations (siblings, parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents) to you and the original submitter is not direct family, then your wishes supersede theirs under our "Family First" policy. If they refuse to transfer your relative to you, contact the administration and we will work on it for you. Please remember that there are thousands of contributors to Find A Grave, and it is highly likely that some of those contributors will actually be part of your family tree and share some of your ancestors. Also, the goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it.
If you find that one of your relatives has a memorial made by me, I'll be happy to transfer management - WITHIN the 4-generation direct relationship guidelines as given in the Find A Grave FAQ. --->> Please do specify your exact relationship in the SAC! <<---
("SAC" = Suggest A Correction = "Edit" tab on the memorial)