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Helen (#47702523)
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Bio Photo An Oklahoman by birth, Middle Tennessee has been my home since a young girl. Working on my family history provides countless hours of enjoyment each week. The occasional road trip to visit county Archives, relatives and 'Graveyarding' in local cemeteries provides the "icing on the cake" for my research. The primary families that I focus on are Pickens (MS,OK), Hilliker/Hillaker (Canada/Michigan), Taylor (Rockcastle,KY), Whaley (Canada/MI), Wheaton (MI), Fox (OH,KY), the Lamirands (Wanette,OK) and all those who have married into these families in my research. States that I love to visit on my genealogy travels are Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan and Kentucky. Thankfully, my father-in-law completed the family history for my husband's side of the family. Those families include the Murphys(Liverpool), Maske(Germany/Poland), Spielman(Germany/Poland/Wis), and the many families affiliated with his extensive research. I have a wonderful family who supports this addiction.


"When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice."
~Indian Proverb


"I know in my heart that man is good. That what is right will always eventually triumph. And there is purpose and worth to each and every life." ~ carved on the memorial wall at President Ronald Wilson Reagan's burial site. 1911-2004.


When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
~Author Unknown


"As we think well of ourselves, let us remember that we are standing on the shoulders of the generations before, for if they had not come, we would not be here."


We are the Chosen

In each family there is one that seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again; to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: "Tell our story". So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family: you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say.
It goes beyond just documenting fact. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to keep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us.
It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might remember them. So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place I the long lone of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Just stopping in to say "Hi" and hope all is well with you and your family.
Added by RAP on Nov 14, 2014 4:45 PM
Bryan Fields
RE: Katie Fox
You could always take a shot at calling the cemetery office to follow-up on Katie - there's always a chance that they might have more info - I don't know if they work from a different source or database. Good luck!
Added by Bryan Fields on Nov 10, 2014 4:53 AM
RE: Appreciative
Hey i moved the picture to your memorial and deleted mine......
I will still check when i get over and see if for sure he is in sunset......
dont want him in the wrong place.
Added by mourninglory on Nov 07, 2014 4:03 AM
RE: Appreciative
So are you sure he is in your cemetery???
also he owns a lot in Sunset hill, but they have no record of him being buried there but there is a Minni Hendrickson buried there from back in 1989 he had purchased that lot about a month before she passed.
I dont think i was in St Joseph this summer to take pcitures that is why i think his stone is in Sunset.
O.......if i get a nice day yet this fall i am going to go over and look in for now lets keep it this way and i am going to follow up on this if the weather lets me............and i will keep in touch............
Added by mourninglory on Nov 07, 2014 1:06 AM
Vern Hilliker
Hi there,
Hey you have him in St Joseph Catholic Cemetery,
I have him in Sunset Hill.
Obit doesnt say where he was buried....are you sure of his location.
I have a picture of his headstone that i took in Sunset Hill......
So if you are right i will gladly move his headstone to your memorial.....if not......we can move his obit and picture.
Just checking with you............let me know which way we should do this....
ok..........Thank You very much.
Added by mourninglory on Nov 06, 2014 1:54 PM
Joe Verreau
photos of Rathbun family
Helen, You are quite welcome to the photos. As you said in an earlier message there is some satisfaction in making the family connections. I had the opportunity and was glad to do it. btw, I just added a photo of the five markers to Diar and Mary's memorials which I thought might be a nice compliment to the individual photos. Joe V
Added by Joe Verreau on Nov 06, 2014 5:42 AM
Shirley Farrell
RE: Helen
That is wonderful that you live so close, I cannot tell you which ones yet because as I said I am just starting to research this area. A lot of my ancestors came from the Hickman, and especially Dickson counties. I will keep that in mind about the Archives. I am on facebook, if you are look me up, my user name is Shirley Grant Farrell and my email is
It seems we are kindred spirits.
Thanks for everything you are doing and have done.
Added by Shirley Farrell on Oct 31, 2014 7:36 AM
Shirley Farrell
I do not know if you live close to the Parker Creek Baptist Church Cemetery, but if you happen to be close, there are several Tidwell's listed in that cemetery and none of them have headstone photos. In fact I do not see any other headstone photos listed except William's and Edyth's. If you are ever there again that would be great to see photos on any of them you can get. Not sure how large that cemetery is, 50 are listed. I was surprised to see a cemetery with no photos than the ones you just took. In my research, I am surprised to find headstones on so many usually. This is not an official request, but I was checking for other ancestors and even tho I am just now working on the Tidwell's in this area, I do not have info on the ones listed in this cemetery yet. You have brought me a whole new area for my research. Thanks again for all you do.
Added by Shirley Farrell on Oct 31, 2014 5:17 AM
Shirley Farrell
RE: Update
It is great just like it is, I am glad to be able to read when they married especially. I appreciate you taking the time to take the photo. We would be lost without the volunteers who fulfill our requests. It is so helpful in our research of the Tidwell family!
Thanks again;
Shirley Farrell
Added by Shirley Farrell on Oct 31, 2014 5:00 AM
Lynn Robertson
RE: Update
I have a cat that likes the computer, too. :) I went onto the memorial to see if I could delete the photo, but I could not delete it. I don't think Facebook will allow people to delete photos they don't post themselves. So I guess the cat has some more computing to do. :) Would you like for me to transfer Barbara's memorial to you in case Janice would like additional changes in the future? Thanks!
Added by Lynn Robertson on Oct 28, 2014 4:36 AM
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