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Helen (#47702523)
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Bio Photo An Oklahoman by birth, Middle Tennessee has been my home since a young girl. Working on my family history provides countless hours of enjoyment each week. The occasional road trip to visit county Archives, relatives and 'Graveyarding' in local cemeteries provides the "icing on the cake" for my research. The primary families that I focus on are Pickens (MS,OK), Hilliker/Hillaker (Canada/Michigan), Taylor (Rockcastle,KY), Whaley (Canada/MI), Wheaton (MI), Fox (OH,KY), the Lamirands (Wanette,OK) and all those who have married into these families in my research. States that I love to visit on my genealogy travels are Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan and Kentucky. Thankfully, my father-in-law completed the family history for my husband's side of the family. Those families include the Murphys(Liverpool), Maske(Germany/Poland), Spielman(Germany/Poland/Wis), and the many families affiliated with his extensive research. I have a wonderful family who supports this addiction.


"When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice."
~Indian Proverb


"I know in my heart that man is good. That what is right will always eventually triumph. And there is purpose and worth to each and every life." ~ carved on the memorial wall at President Ronald Wilson Reagan's burial site. 1911-2004.


When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
~Author Unknown


"As we think well of ourselves, let us remember that we are standing on the shoulders of the generations before, for if they had not come, we would not be here."


We are the Chosen

In each family there is one that seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again; to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: "Tell our story". So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family: you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say.
It goes beyond just documenting fact. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to keep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us.
It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might remember them. So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place I the long lone of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Joan Pacitti
K-9 Falko
Hi Helen: I suppose Falko's name spelled either way is fine. I just hope no one enters him under FALCO, but it doesn't really make a difference.
I know something about hydrangeas(at least the kind in the photo). Deer will not eat them and that's a good thing, but they like other kinds of hydrangeas. I can't say I've had trouble with voles or moles eating them and we have them too.
They do need a lot of water, not all shade and not all sun. Morning sun is better than afternoon sun at least in this area. We live in South New Jersey.
If I hadn't cut them back at the wrong time of year, we would have a lot of blooms. Last year, NO ONE around here had any blooms.
I don't know if you wanted all this info. about hydrangeas, but I hope you can use it.

Take care Helen.

Added by Joan Pacitti on Aug 22, 2015 1:38 PM
Joan Pacitti
K-9 Falko's memorial
Hi Helen: I just checked and was very glad that you created a memorial for Falko.
I just have one question. Is the spelling FALKO or FALCO?
I think what happened To FALKO is just horrible.
What a beautiful dog and what an asset to the Toledo Police Force.

I noticed on your contributor page that you have Hydrangeas. Wow are they gorgeous. We have them, however, I trimmed them last year at the wrong time and this year they're not blooming.
At least I can look at yours and others in our area.

Your contributor page is just wonderful.

Joan Pacitti
Added by Joan Pacitti on Aug 21, 2015 8:07 PM
RE: Transfer to you!
Hi Helen,
Thank you very much, that is so kind of you. I shared the memorial with my sisters, and with my mother, and we all agree that it was very well done.

For the time being, I will just link her family info.

Best regards,
Joy Lawrence

Added by Rhovisco on Aug 12, 2015 9:21 AM
RE: Appreciative
Hi Helen,
Your Rachel Louise McManus memorial is wonderful, and thank you so much for preparing it! Yes, she was my grandmother and an amazing woman, and I miss her every day. She would have been so pleased and proud that you took the time to do that during your studies!

Rachel Louise McManus went by Louise (or R. Louise) because she also had an aunt and cousin both named Rachel. At least one of them was also a nurse.

In 1929, Louise married John H. McManus. He was a widower with 6 children. My mother was born in 1932, and John McManus died in 1934. After his death, Louise returned to Teachers College at Columbia University, where she taught and worked on her doctorate, which she finally completed in 1947.

All this is more information than you probably wanted, but it was such a pleasure and privilege to find her listed here. I joined Find A Grave in order to add her burial site and family info-- I did submit her parents through the memorial page, and I have photos of her grave stone to add (and that of John H. McManus also). That is, if I can figure out how!

Thank you so much!

Best regards,
Added by Rhovisco on Aug 06, 2015 10:16 AM
Danny Chancellor
RE: Query
I am not related to the Pickens family, but I work at the museum here with a close personal friend of
Boone. She retired as the librarian for the Grace Molonson Library. I created several thousand of the memorials for Holdenville Cemetery
Added by Danny Chancellor on Aug 02, 2015 11:38 AM
Nancy Kostyrka
RE: Our Hilliker connection
Thanks for the reply, Helen. My sister and I are determined to find out why Deborah and William went to Canada when they were almost 75 years old (we are descendants of their daughter Mary). We suspect it was to live with the sons who emigrated to Ontario. I am particularly interested in that part of the story because I was born in New York and emigrated to Canada in 1976 -- so the fact that some of the family went up to Canada really resonates with me! We are looking for William's Revolutionary War record -- will let you know what we find out. I am now addicted to researching my ancestry -- it can take over your life, I think!
Added by Nancy Kostyrka on Jul 30, 2015 4:41 PM
Nancy Kostyrka
william hilliker
William and Deborah Hilliker were my 6X great grandparents. I am curious as to the circumstances of their deaths, i.e., why they both died on the same date. Also, what brought them to Canada, when the family originated in New York? Any info would be much appreciated. Also, do you know the names of Deborah (Tucker) Hilliker's parents?
Added by Nancy Kostyrka on Jul 29, 2015 2:28 PM
RE: Appreciative!
You are welcome. Always enjoy finding your family!
Added by RAP on Jul 29, 2015 9:01 AM
James Real
RE: Query
Hi Helen, I am the guilty party who wrote the book. I am surprised that it got that well distributed. As far as repairing the marker all I did was put in a picture that I had taken before it got damaged.
Added by James Real on Jul 16, 2015 3:45 PM
Tamara Bussinger- Krzyaniak
RE: Appreciative
Hi, No relation to them, I am from St. Charles and had a lot of info from researching my own family I thought I would put it out there for others. :)
Added by Tamara Bussinger- Krzyani... on Jul 10, 2015 6:30 AM
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