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Helen (#47702523)
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Bio Photo An Oklahoman by birth, Middle Tennessee has been my home since a young girl. Working on my family history provides countless hours of enjoyment each week. The occasional road trip to visit county Archives, relatives and 'Graveyarding' in local cemeteries provides the "icing on the cake" for my research. The primary families that I focus on are Pickens (MS,OK), Hilliker/Hillaker (Canada/Michigan), Taylor (Rockcastle,KY), Whaley (Canada/MI), Wheaton (MI), Fox (OH,KY), the Lamirands (Wanette,OK) and all those who have married into these families in my research. States that I love to visit on my genealogy travels are Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan and Kentucky. Thankfully, my father-in-law completed the family history for my husband's side of the family. Those families include the Murphys(Liverpool), Maske(Germany/Poland), Spielman(Germany/Poland/Wis), and the many families affiliated with his extensive research. I have a wonderful family who supports this addiction.


"When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice."
~Indian Proverb


"I know in my heart that man is good. That what is right will always eventually triumph. And there is purpose and worth to each and every life." ~ carved on the memorial wall at President Ronald Wilson Reagan's burial site. 1911-2004.


When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
~Author Unknown


"As we think well of ourselves, let us remember that we are standing on the shoulders of the generations before, for if they had not come, we would not be here."


We are the Chosen

In each family there is one that seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again; to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: "Tell our story". So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family: you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say.
It goes beyond just documenting fact. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to keep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us.
It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might remember them. So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place I the long lone of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Craig Thweatt
RE: Appreciative!
Helen ok I have the daughter of Barbra's, Dyna I will add her photo also since Mike H added the links to her.

I plan on going back in the next couple of days to the cemetery it is about 55 miles away from me I will try and get better photos if I can of the ones you wanted ok the sunlight has a lot of the end results to a good photo ok I like a cloudy kind of day myself
Added by Craig Thweatt on Aug 30, 2014 10:04 PM
Craig Thweatt
RE: Re: Barbara Berry
After reading her obit then it looks like her sister is one of the ones in the above ground tomb
Added by Craig Thweatt on Aug 30, 2014 10:23 AM
B.J. Waters
RE: Appreciative
You're welcome, and thank you for the kind words. I assume that you know why the name on her stone is Sanders rather than Hanson.

That's quite a armload of hydrangeas you have there! Do you grow them? I'm jealous! I've tried several times without success. I do exactly what the growers tell me to do, and they always die!

If you need anything else, just let me know.

Added by B.J. Waters on Aug 25, 2014 4:50 PM
Syd Gardner
RE: Photo

on the memorial for Harold Snell's wife ~ I could copy the photo into my computer and then attach it to the Harold's memorial, but then the photo would show up as being mine, but it belongs to the person who posted it to his wife's memorial, so I'm not about to do anything with it.

Sorry about that.

Added by Syd Gardner on Aug 13, 2014 7:25 PM
Ann LaCombe
RE: Appreciative
So glad I could help, Helen! Enjoy the rest of your summer :)
Kind Regards, Ann
Added by Ann LaCombe on Aug 12, 2014 3:11 PM
RE: Appreciative
You're welcome, and thanks for the welcome. You weren't actually wrong...someone had made a duplicate of the cemetery, giving it a shorter name. So a few memorials ended up in the duplicate cemetery.
Added by yentnawildrose on Aug 07, 2014 4:00 PM
Rosary Wanderer
RE: Re: Betty Pilon
We'll, if your new research shows that the burial actually was at Gracelawn, I will go back and try again. I have a lot more work to do out there anyway, and the manager is very nice and helpful.
Added by Rosary Wanderer on Aug 03, 2014 10:50 AM
Pickens relatives
I am new to find a grave and am so excited to see all the research you have done on the Pickens family. My husband is a Pickens. His father passed away early in his life and so did all the family history. Thanks!
Added by Stacy on Jul 27, 2014 6:51 PM
W. Gayden
RE: Appreciative
TSW Clark and Emaline Howell born 1824 died 6/1/1850. They had William Clark 1844-1910, James Robertson Clark 1846-1910, Elizabeth C Clark 1847-1912,
James R Clark married Nancy Eveline Brown.
Elizabeth C Clark married Cicero Beasley

3 children all lived and died in Hickman Co. Tn. The 2 oldest were born in MIssissippi.

I check the 1850 Mississippi Census, and Emaline is on Census. she must have died after census made.

Several families of Howell's in Hickman Co., have not connected her.
I connect thru 2nd wife Jane Lewis.
Added by W. Gayden on Jul 21, 2014 1:46 PM
RE: Appreciative
Nice detective work. Good job on the memorial. I will look for other Pickens if / when I return to West Dayton.
Added by RAP on Jul 21, 2014 10:25 AM
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