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Helen (#47702523)
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Bio Photo An Oklahoman by birth, Middle Tennessee has been my home since a young girl. Working on my family history provides countless hours of enjoyment each week. The occasional road trip to visit county Archives, relatives and 'Graveyarding' in local cemeteries provides the "icing on the cake" for my research. The primary families that I focus on are Pickens (MS,OK), Hilliker/Hillaker (Canada/Michigan), Taylor (Rockcastle,KY), Whaley (Canada/MI), Wheaton (MI), Fox (OH,KY), the Lamirands (Wanette,OK) and all those who have married into these families in my research. States that I love to visit on my genealogy travels are Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan and Kentucky. Thankfully, my father-in-law completed the family history for my husband's side of the family. Those families include the Murphys(Liverpool), Maske(Germany/Poland), Spielman(Germany/Poland/Wis), and the many families affiliated with his extensive research. I have a wonderful family who supports this addiction.


"When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice."
~Indian Proverb


"I know in my heart that man is good. That what is right will always eventually triumph. And there is purpose and worth to each and every life." ~ carved on the memorial wall at President Ronald Wilson Reagan's burial site. 1911-2004.


When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
~Author Unknown


"As we think well of ourselves, let us remember that we are standing on the shoulders of the generations before, for if they had not come, we would not be here."


We are the Chosen

In each family there is one that seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again; to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: "Tell our story". So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family: you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say.
It goes beyond just documenting fact. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to keep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us.
It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might remember them. So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place I the long lone of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Rob M
Millinger - Cave Hill
Do you hyave any other info on the Millinger burials? The databases for Cave Hill and Cave Hill National list no Millingers.
Added by Rob M on Dec 18, 2014 2:05 PM
Dr. Cynthia Mahaffey
RE: Appreciative

You are so welcome. I like to see the families go together and I am merely the photographer, not family.


Added by Dr. Cynthia Mahaffey on Dec 16, 2014 7:45 AM
Jannine DiFiore
RE: Follow up
Helen, not all graves got wreaths only a 1600
I guess donations were way down. I can send you
A picture if you like let me know send me you're
Added by Jannine DiFiore on Dec 15, 2014 4:16 PM
Jannine DiFiore
RE: Appreciative
You are most welcome. I went to visit the cemetery today to see the wreaths laid for "Wreaths across America" My brother is buried there and I always check for requests before I go to the cemetery
Added by Jannine DiFiore on Dec 15, 2014 3:15 PM
Dr. Cynthia Mahaffey
Spelkers headed your way
I am honored to photograph and to send them to someone who knows them. Blessings!
Added by Dr. Cynthia Mahaffey on Dec 15, 2014 7:54 AM
Sandy Daniel
RE: Appreciate the update
Thanks for the offer of a transfer but I am not related to them. I like to check the memorials I add every once in a while and just noticed the duplicate.

Thanks, and happy holidays to you and yours!

Added by Sandy Daniel on Nov 22, 2014 10:14 PM
Just stopping in to say "Hi" and hope all is well with you and your family.
Added by RAP on Nov 14, 2014 4:45 PM
Bryan Fields
RE: Katie Fox
You could always take a shot at calling the cemetery office to follow-up on Katie - there's always a chance that they might have more info - I don't know if they work from a different source or database. Good luck!
Added by Bryan Fields on Nov 10, 2014 4:53 AM
RE: Appreciative
Hey i moved the picture to your memorial and deleted mine......
I will still check when i get over and see if for sure he is in sunset......
dont want him in the wrong place.
Added by mourninglory on Nov 07, 2014 4:03 AM
RE: Appreciative
So are you sure he is in your cemetery???
also he owns a lot in Sunset hill, but they have no record of him being buried there but there is a Minni Hendrickson buried there from back in 1989 he had purchased that lot about a month before she passed.
I dont think i was in St Joseph this summer to take pcitures that is why i think his stone is in Sunset.
O.......if i get a nice day yet this fall i am going to go over and look in for now lets keep it this way and i am going to follow up on this if the weather lets me............and i will keep in touch............
Added by mourninglory on Nov 07, 2014 1:06 AM
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