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Helen (#47702523)
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Bio Photo An Oklahoman by birth, Middle Tennessee has been my home since a young girl. Working on my family history provides countless hours of enjoyment each week. The occasional road trip to visit county Archives, relatives and 'Graveyarding' in local cemeteries provides the "icing on the cake" for my research. The primary families that I focus on are Pickens (MS,OK), Hilliker/Hillaker (Canada/Michigan), Taylor (Rockcastle,KY), Whaley (Canada/MI), Wheaton (MI), Fox (OH,KY), the Lamirands (Wanette,OK) and all those who have married into these families in my research. States that I love to visit on my genealogy travels are Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan and Kentucky. Thankfully, my father-in-law completed the family history for my husband's side of the family. Those families include the Murphys(Liverpool), Maske(Germany/Poland), Spielman(Germany/Poland/Wis), and the many families affiliated with his extensive research. I have a wonderful family who supports this addiction.


"When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice."
~Indian Proverb


"I know in my heart that man is good. That what is right will always eventually triumph. And there is purpose and worth to each and every life." ~ carved on the memorial wall at President Ronald Wilson Reagan's burial site. 1911-2004.


When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
~Author Unknown


"As we think well of ourselves, let us remember that we are standing on the shoulders of the generations before, for if they had not come, we would not be here."


We are the Chosen

In each family there is one that seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again; to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: "Tell our story". So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family: you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say.
It goes beyond just documenting fact. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to keep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us.
It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might remember them. So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place I the long lone of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Kimberly Beach
Happens to most of us at one time or another
Added by MHN on Oct 22, 2014 11:09 AM
Amanda Michelle Anderson
Milbry Jenkins

I updated and transferred Mrs. Milbry Bishop Jenkins to you. I feel like you have a deeper connection to her and can update the memorial for her as you chose to.
Added by Amanda Michelle Anderson on Oct 22, 2014 6:29 AM
Natalie Halverson
RE: Query
I added the photo.
Added by Natalie Halverson on Sep 30, 2014 9:31 AM
mike ford
RE: Query
Hi Helen,

I am sorry I have no information on Harold McGraw's family. The picture I posted is from his High School yearbook. I search yearbooks on for pictures I can match to FIND A Grave memorials. I do this hoping family, friends and future generations may someday find a picture they have not seen.


Mike Ford
Added by mike ford on Sep 28, 2014 10:50 AM
kathy redwing
Melvin Ostern
My husband is part of the Ostern family. Melvin is my husband's grandmother's uncle. I have a fabulous photograph of the whole family. Good looking bunch of people. If you are interested I have some other photos of this family. Thanks for contacting me. Kathy Redwing
Added by kathy redwing on Sep 19, 2014 5:33 AM
RE: Appreciate the update
I enlarged the Death Certificate and I still couldn't read the burial place. Frustrating !

Added by DUVCW on Sep 18, 2014 8:48 PM
Margaret Brown Peek Vance
Helen you are most welcome. I work at the Montrose Library and we are sent Mt Morris' books all the time so don't feel bad...we at the Library do not have "late nights" :) Hope you get a picture of the headstone soon. Take Care, Karen
Added by raspberrybee on Sep 17, 2014 3:53 PM
Margaret Brown Peek Vance
Hello Helen -
I was looking through the Montrose Cemetery requests and saw yours for #105642538 and am thinking that you accidentally put in Montrose instead of Mt. Morris for the cemetery location. I show no one in the burial records with that exact name or death dates. Also, the obit you have states she was buried in Mt. Morris. If I am wrong let me know and I will double check with the sexton.
Have a great weekend - Karen
Montrose, Michigan
Added by raspberrybee on Sep 13, 2014 1:43 PM
Terry Rae
Gentry Cemetery
I see you have taken some pictures at Gentry Cemetery, can you tell me the location of this cemetery.

Thank You
Added by Terry Rae on Sep 03, 2014 10:06 AM
Craig Thweatt
RE: Appreciative!
Helen ok I have the daughter of Barbra's, Dyna I will add her photo also since Mike H added the links to her.

I plan on going back in the next couple of days to the cemetery it is about 55 miles away from me I will try and get better photos if I can of the ones you wanted ok the sunlight has a lot of the end results to a good photo ok I like a cloudy kind of day myself
Added by Craig Thweatt on Aug 30, 2014 10:04 PM
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