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Helen (#47702523)
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Bio Photo An Oklahoman by birth, Middle Tennessee has been my home since a young girl. Working on my family history provides countless hours of enjoyment each week. The occasional road trip to visit county Archives, relatives and 'Graveyarding' in local cemeteries provides the "icing on the cake" for my research. The primary families that I focus on are Pickens (MS,OK), Hilliker/Hillaker (Canada/Michigan), Taylor (Rockcastle,KY), Whaley (Canada/MI), Wheaton (MI), Fox (OH,KY), the Lamirands (Wanette,OK) and all those who have married into these families in my research. States that I love to visit on my genealogy travels are Oklahoma, Ohio, Michigan and Kentucky. Thankfully, my father-in-law completed the family history for my husband's side of the family. Those families include the Murphys(Liverpool), Maske(Germany/Poland), Spielman(Germany/Poland/Wis), and the many families affiliated with his extensive research. I have a wonderful family who supports this addiction. This introduction to a Facebook group by another member sums my it all up regarding this addiction:

"I am a self confessed Taphopilic. I need no cure, no medication. no rehab. just a walk, gently treading through the sleeping dead.", F. Cooper (Bahahahaha, love it!)


"When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way so that when you die, the world cries and you rejoice."
~Indian Proverb


"I know in my heart that man is good. That what is right will always eventually triumph. And there is purpose and worth to each and every life." ~ carved on the memorial wall at President Ronald Wilson Reagan's burial site. 1911-2004.


When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.
~Author Unknown


"As we think well of ourselves, let us remember that we are standing on the shoulders of the generations before, for if they had not come, we would not be here."


We are the Chosen

In each family there is one that seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again; to tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve.
Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: "Tell our story". So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family: you would be proud of us." How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say.
It goes beyond just documenting fact. It goes to who am I and why do I do the things I do. It goes seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family.
It goes to keep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a Nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us.
It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might remember them. So we do.
With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place I the long lone of family storytellers.
That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those whom we had never known before.

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Pat Law
Larry J. Puckett, Sr., (b. 1939), McKeel Cemetery, Humphreys Co.,TN
This person is still living as of November 23, 2015.
Added by Pat Law on Nov 23, 2015 3:57 PM
paul chasteen
dupicate memorrial
Helen You have created a duplicate memorial for Rebecca Mary (Polly) Abney
Floyd Chasteen created her memorial in 2001
Find A Grave Memorial# 5247275
Rebecca is listed twice in both memorials once as a sibling and then as a half sibling
Added by paul chasteen on Nov 18, 2015 11:57 AM
Madolin Barry
Anne Whaley
Referring to your message about a child with Anne.
I don't think I found a stone next to hers. It has been a long time since I was there.
Added by Madolin Barry on Nov 13, 2015 12:50 AM
RE: Bert Dargie
I seldom get those kind of messages, but they are inspiring. I find my satisfaction in knowing I have done my best to give remembrance to families and friends with truth using my God given talents.
I have added you to my friends list. Did you find me on FaceBook?
Added by searcher on Nov 04, 2015 6:38 AM
RE: Bert Dargie
Contributors like US are who make creating memorials as remembrances so worth it.
Added by searcher on Nov 03, 2015 5:27 AM
RE: Bert Dargie
We should all help others when we can.
Added by searcher on Nov 02, 2015 5:20 AM
Bert Dargie
Keep an attitude that you are a servant and you will go far.
Added by searcher on Oct 31, 2015 5:06 AM
Darres Cook
RE: Appreciative
Ha! I found out the same way. Felt like a real dope!
Added by Darres Cook on Oct 29, 2015 10:55 AM
Darres Cook
RE: Appreciative
Thank you for the explanation. At least 30 years ago I did transcription for a midwife and it was fascinating. I learned a lot. Anyway, you will not get an e-mail notification for the parent connection - you need to go into your own member page and open the "edits" button in the row of tabs under your name. You will find the request there. Using the edits button is much easier than having to write an e-mail with all the explaining. You will probably be surprised to see how many edits you might have. I have to check for them every few days.
Added by Darres Cook on Oct 29, 2015 10:20 AM
Darres Cook
RE: Appreciative
Great! I have sent you two edits to connect him to his parents and giving the exact location of his plot. He is buried with them. What exactly is an advocate of birth choice?
Added by Darres Cook on Oct 28, 2015 9:10 PM
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