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Family Finder (#47815677)
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Bio Photo Hello =)

My name is Shayna, I am 27 years old, and I am a San Diego native. I work for the County full time, but spend spare time with my grandparents, husband and pets (6 dogs & 2 cats), looking for graves, dabbling in photography, and squeezing in a social life when I can.

My heritage is mostly German, but I also have a little bit of English and Welsh. Direct names include Oxley, Croft, Love, Shaneyfelt/Shanyfelt, and Mehlkop/Mehlkopf. There are many many names beyond that.

I am fascinated by many aspects of death -- not in a weird morbid way, but in improving the death experience (not surrounded by beeping machines in a hospital), seeing alternatives in the local funeral industry (can we get a green burial space in San Diego?), empowering individuals to know what is and isn't law (you don't HAVE to embalm grandma), and encouraging discussion about all of the above. We're all going to die -- why not educate and empower ourselves to be extra specific in our advanced directives? While we're alive and well, let's get it done. And for the sake of future findagrave volunteers, can we all promise to arrange for the engraving of our death date on our marker/plaque/headstone? The number of times I've come across a marker with no death date because the person had no next-of-kin to make sure it was taken care of...

Now for my rants and tidbits...

Photos & Photo Requests
Yes, you may use the photo(s) I took.

Please, please do not use your shoe-clad foot to clear grass/debris from a marker, if you're able to avoid it. That marker is a representation of the person who rests there, and it could be the last earthly representation of them. Let's cherish the markers and keep them as nice as possible (when the cemetery mowers aren't driving across them...)

If you are a photo volunteer actively claiming requests, you click "OK" and agree to fulfill that request within 14 days of the day you claim it. If you can't do that, or don't want to do that, then don't claim photo requests. There are plenty of photo volunteers in the San Diego area that are willing to go out and get photos in a decent amount of time. I don't even know that "rude" really covers my feelings on the matter, but it is unacceptable to flip-flop someone's request around for over a month, leaving someone waiting, because you choose to disregard the 14-day timeframe set forth by findagrave.
Additionally, if photo requests are slowly coming through and a volunteer has Edward Smith claimed (for example), use common sense and give the same volunteer the opportunity to claim the accompanying Clara Smith -- chances are they're right next to each other and it makes no sense not only for two volunteers to trek out to the same place, but for two volunteers to inquire with the office about the same location. Findagrave photo volunteers know we aren't the cemetery workers' favorite clientele, so let's try to just keep everyone happy -- cemetery workers, other volunteers, the people requesting the photo(s)... okay?

Transferring Management
Yes, I understand findagrave has set rules about whether or not one is "worthy" of requesting management, but as far as the memorials I manage, I'm typically more than happy to transfer management even if they're a distant relative, next door neighbor, 12th cousin once removed.. whatever. I'm not the "keeper of memorials" -- that's not my purpose for having added them in the first place.

Contacting Me
If you have additional information or would like to edit information on a memorial I manage, please use the "Suggest a Correction" function. Otherwise, you're welcome to leave a message on my contributor page or e-mail me --

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Barbara Sharpe
Mabel Marie Brown
Thank You so very much for the picture. Thank you for doing this very special service for those of us who live faraway. My husband and I hope to visit and place flowers in the near future. Peace and happiness to you. Barbara
Added by Barbara Sharpe on Aug 18, 2014 1:39 PM
Lucille Roper Photo
Thanks so much for the photo of Lucille Roper's Stone!
Added by KM on Aug 16, 2014 7:18 AM
Roger Parrish
Hoping your Feelings are more at Ease

I'm Hoping your Feelings are more at Ease now that you have had a few days to reflect.

No matter how we lose our loved ones, the strength that they gave us is what will carry us onward!

You commented that you spent a lot of time with your Grand Parents. I suspect it was one of them that passed?

Grand Parents are the most wonderful of all our relatives. They don't judge us. They are always available for a quick drop in visit, or to watch the kids in an emergency. Grand Parents are the Best because of all their built in wisdom and Grace.

Just think that they will always be there for you, no matter what. Their Spirits reign in the wonder of our children's smile and our babies laugh.

Warmest Regards,

Added by Roger Parrish on Aug 06, 2014 1:04 AM
RE: photos
Originally they told us it was the Bronze Corridor, remember? But that was wrong and so all my spreadsheets were wrong. I fixed shep lane 1 & 2 but I have the main corridor so is this Shep? As I add the photos I will fix.
Added by Gennaphyr on Aug 04, 2014 11:46 PM
Hey Boss,
OMG I thought I was finished! I added all of shep corr 1 & 2 photos and breathed a sigh of relief. I even fixed the plot location on all of them.
Then I find a folder with another 297 for the main corridor. What are we calling it?

Added by Gennaphyr on Aug 04, 2014 10:09 PM
Roger Parrish
RE: 117922964
Very sorry to hear about your loss. Know how hard that is. I'm last member of my family. Dad went when I was overseas; was the hardest.

Probably my old wires got crossed!


Whoops! NOT my wires gone to overload!

Marguerite Becker 131457213 was created by you just after I created her husband Conrad W. Becker 131400618 on 14 Jun 2014 after I went to the main bldg on a photo request and was Mis-directed by our little friend at reception.

You emailed me saying that you would post the correct pictures.

I just didn't realize you were going to grab the creation of the my Marguerite while I was waiting for the correct photo to post.

131457213 Marguerite
131400618 Conrad
000057403 memorials ahead of your creation.

Margaretha Becker (1883-1958) #117922963 is the decedent in the North Bldg's Bronze Room. Wife of John Becker #117922965 which you clearly created at the same time.

Obviously I won't hassle about this when you are grieving!

There are no words to express your loss, you won't "get past it" as everyone tries to tell you. What you can do is to translate the harsh reality of an sudden or unexpected death, into the warm embrace of the wonderful memories you have of the one you lost; the immense love you have for them and the remembrance you will always have of them.

Best of regards to you and your family,

Roger Parrish

Added by Roger Parrish on Aug 04, 2014 1:45 AM
Roger Parrish
Not cool!
Added by Roger Parrish on Aug 03, 2014 3:38 PM
Michelle Claire Best Willie
Find A Grave Memorial# 127794624 Harriet Lucielle Paularena Peckenpaugh
Thank you for photographing our family member Find A Grave Memorial# 127794624 Harriet Lucielle Paularena Peckenpaugh.
Added by Michelle Claire Best Will... on Jul 23, 2014 6:28 AM
John Donne
Cearns Family Plot, San Diego
Thank you, dear lady, for taking and posting the wonderful picture. God bless, JD
Added by John Donne on Jul 22, 2014 9:28 PM
photo of headstone for the Fultz Family
Family Finder,
Thanks for your time and effort to post photos of the headstones for the Fultz Family.
Added by RNHaynes on Jul 21, 2014 1:16 PM
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