NOTE: I am very willing to make changes to my deductions in her bio below via collaboration with other researchers. I have with great deliberation pointed out potential elements of dispute. Please reach out to me in friendly communication.---Terry Martin, descendant.

The following is pieced together from several sources with much credit for the gathering of primary sources to Ancestry.com alias "Horsewoman 47" along with another, and from "Family Search" operated by Church of Jesus Christ of Later Day Saints and including a photograph of a handwritten document of her first marriage posted in the 'photos and memories' section of Grace's page by contributor "TeresaObst", and then Hillman information from family Bibles and from "Ancestral Chronological Record of the Hillman Family," by Harry W. Hillman, published in 1905. ----Terry Martin, descendant of Grace and Daniel Hillman.

Grace was born in Gloucester County, New Jersey, March 2, 1773, the daughter of Caleb Conrow (sometimes Conorroe or Conoroe or Conorow 1733-1791) and Patience Atkinson (1733-1799), when both parents were 40. There IS, by the way, a potential DNA connection to the Atkinsons from at least one, possibly more, Hillman descendants, and I think this is where Ancestry alias Horsewoman 47 deduced a connection with our Grace to Caleb and Patience.

Grace's siblings include the following:

Atkinson Conrow 1778-1821 (Memorial Id# 156171639)

Patience Conrow Hancock 1771-1860 (Memorial Id# 245720181)

among others

She first married Amos Haines (1772-1805), son of Jacob Haines (1745-1799) and Sarah Brooks Haines (1752-1831). Date of marriage, Dec. 1, 1785 when Grace was only 12 and Amos 13 (READ FOLLOWING TRANSCRIBED MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE THEN CONTINUE)

Sate of New Jersey         To all Concerned

County Burlington

Whereas there hath a mutual purpose

of Marriage ……………. Between Amos Haines of the

Township of Springfield, County of Burlington & West

ern Division of the State of New Jersey, Labourer of the

one party and Grace Conrow of the same place spinster

of the other party. Now for this more fully accomplishing

their said intentions. These are to Certify that this day

they the said Amos Haines and Grace Conrow personally

….. and before us the Judge of the one of this State ……. Justice of the

Peace for said County and at the same time produced

me a License for solemnizing said Marriage directed to

any Protestant Ministeriary Justice of the Peace Under

The Hand of His Excellency W. H. Livingston Esquire Gov

ernor, Captain General and Commander in Chief in

and over this State and under this prerogative a Seal of

State. By Virtue of My Commission and ....... before .......

cited License. I have this Day joined them the said Amos

and Grace in ........... Holy Bond of Matrimony

have pronounced Man and Wife.

In testimony of which I have to this Certificate put

My hand and Seal at New Mills in the County aforesaid the

First day of December in the Year of Our Lord One thou

sand Seven hundred and Eighty five and in the ninth Year

of Our Independence.

                                                         ………………………

(the dotted lines indicate difficulty transcribing what is there) NOTE: the term 'spinster' in the 1700s could also be used for young unmarried women, not just for older unmarried women as it became to be used later, it may have been its more literal meaning in Grace's case?---a spinner of yarn?

but this early date of marriage , considering their youth, may have been more like a betrothal or a contract (I am only speculating that, but makes some sense to me).

Grace and Amos were then condemned for marrying out of unity (whatever that means) by the Quakers of Evesham meeting on April 6, 1792, but then granted a certificate on August 4, 1792 by the Quakers of Evesham to marry, though these dates are after the birth of a first child in 1791. I'm sure it must have all been something on the part of the Quakers if they weren't entirely happy about either of the two and his or her relationship to or level of dedication to the Quaker church or of their earlier legal marriage by the justice of the peace. In any regard, it appears a religious marriage took place in late 1792; maybe that August 4 date of the certificate was the date of marriage?

In any event, it makes good sense that a few years ensued from the earlier justice-of-the-peace marriage before the birth of a first child, when Grace was 19 and Amos 20. According to Family Search, Grace and Amos had the following children (copied and pasted):

• Hannah Haines 1791–1845 
• Elizabeth Haines 1792–Deceased 
• Ann Haines about 1793–Deceased 
• Grace Haines about 1797–Deceased 
• Charles Conrow Haines 1799–1871 (Find a Grave Memorial Id# 103635985, this Id# my add)
• Daniel Haines 1802–1850 
• Patience Haines 1803–Deceased
• William Haines 1806–1858

Amos died in 1805.

Grace married secondly to Daniel Hillman (1782-1831) on January 14, 1806 when she was 32 in Burlington, New Jersey. From what I can tell, it was Ancestry.com alias, "Horsewoman47," a relative from the Goodrich clan, and another researcher also on Ancestry, who discovered the likely connection between the widowed Grace Conrow Haines and Daniel Hillman (because Hillman records had never before mentioned her being a widow). I believe them to be correct, although I will state the complications below.

Grace and Daniel had the following children:

Daniel Hillman (Memorial Id# 7358923)

Jane Huston Hillman (later Goodrich) (Memorial Id# 125702505)

James Hillman (Memorial Id# 99537755)

Charles Ellis Hillman (Memorial Id# 263571730)

George Washington Hillman (Memorial Id# 28585680)

Daniel was an ironmaster and moved about in Pennsylvania, Ohio, and Kentucky, operating various iron furnaces. At some point Grace met up with him in Kentucky but after a few years died in either Bath or Greenup County, Kentucky on July 12, 1826. She is presumed buried there, but her gravesite is unknown. Bath County is mentioned more often by secondary sources as the location where she died, but Greenup is definitely mentioned, too.

Complications:

--There is no mention whatsoever in Hillman records that Grace was widowed when she married Daniel Hillman, nor known mentions of any Haines half-siblings to the Hillman children. They certainly do not appear to have followed mother and stepfather west and settle in Tennessee and Kentucky like the Hillman children did, yet they were adults by then and may not have had the need to do so if they were content in New Jersey. The online family trees that emphasize the Conrow-Haines family (perhaps crafted by descendants of Amos), do not tend to show information on Grace's death, possibly because those compiling them were unaware she remarried, gained a new surname, eventually moved west, and died in Kentucky.

--The use of the name "Huston" in some Hillman records as a surname for Grace, even if it is a middle name, creates questions, as it seems to come out of nowhere in her compiled lineage. A brother of her second husband Daniel, James, married a Huston. That said, the name "Huston" for Grace has always proved a complication in the research, does not match the Bible records which only use "Haines" and could very well be a mistake by some of those who compiled the Hillman tree later. I wish to point out the following fact: The EARLIER book, "Ancestral Chronological Record of the Hillman Family," published in 1905, uses the name Grace Haines. The subsequent smaller booklet, "Hillman Family: Haddonfield, N.J., Branch Genealogy," published in 1932, based in large measure on the earlier book, uses the name Grace Huston. It would seem to me the earlier book would be deemed more accurate. The official handwritten record of New Jersey Marriages from the year of their marriage, along with family Bibles only use Haines. In summary, the name Huston proves to be an incongruity. For now, I will keep Huston as a middle name on this memorial, but there may come a time when I feel a need to abandon it.

--If Grace is indeed the daughter of Caleb and Patience, her mother was 40, and there are siblings that continue to be born until her mother was 47. That's pretty old for child-bearing. But dates for these earlier generations can prove iffy in any regard.

--Grace had thirteen children altogether, which is an awful lot, though not at all out of the ordinary. But some of those children by Amos may have been AI generated into the Family Search profile for them.

--A last child by way of Grace's first husband Amos appears to have been born posthumous sometime in 1806, with second husband Daniel marrying her in January of that year. Did Daniel really marry her that quickly after her first husband's death with no substantial mourning period and very pregnant already with the first husband's posthumous child? Even so, presuming that information is accurate, the timing of it all for widowhood, the last pregnancy of a posthumous child, and a second marriage DOES work. It is certainly conceivable there was a strong element of need to provide for Grace, and Daniel steps in quickly to fill that role. Especially the fact that he chose to marry a woman of Grace's age of 32 practically implies she was a widow. Indeed she was nine years older than Daniel. He did not have to feel a "need" or "compelled" or "obligated" to marry an older woman, when he surely could have married a younger woman. My suspicion is he married her because there was the need for a father in the family to provide, and he was willing to fill that role. A substantial mourning period may not have been so relevant in the community in that time or in her social circle or in her individual case with several children to provide for. It would also be interesting to know if she had some significant estate to which Daniel wished to be a part of.

--There are family researchers who still believe her name before marriage was Grace Haines Huston, the daughter of John and Jane Huston. My biggest dispute with this is the New Jersey marriage record which clearly states her surname as Haines when she married Daniel Hillman. Family Bible also says Haines. Nevertheless, there is certainly the possibly that it was Grace Huston Haines, still possibly the daughter of John and Jane Huston rather than Caleb and Patience Conrow, and yet then married to Amos Haines and widowed before marrying Daniel Hillman, but those researchers do not mention a first marriage to Amos. This also conflicts with early written Quaker record that she was "formerly Conaroe" when married to Amos, implying she was never a Huston. And so, I really believe they are missing something important there considering her age when she married the much younger Daniel.

According to a family Bible, she lived 53 years, 4 months, and 10 days. That fits the dates.

In summary, all that I have written above is the best that can currently be deduced from the records. The biggest hurdle of proof will be to determine for certain if Grace was the daughter of Caleb and Patience Conrow, and if she was the widow of Amos Haines when she married Daniel Hillman. I think the evidence is very strong that she was the widow of Amos Haines considering her age when she married the significantly younger Daniel Hillman. Keep in mind the aforementioned DNA connection to the Atkinsons. That her surname upon marriage to Daniel was Haines seems indisputable to me. That she was widowed and married previously to a Haines seems very likely to me. If it was to Amos, then the records state she was formerly a Conrow when she married Amos. I think, however, there is the potential she may have been a Huston and then married to a different Haines rather than Amos. Some research on that possibility is advisable.