Why do I spend my time creating memorials, posting obituaries, researching families to attach to relatives and leaving flowers on virtual graves? Everybody matters and deserves a proper memorial and to be shown unconditional love and respect. It is what we all need and doing this feels like paying it forward. I don't do it for the numbers and respect families of all types.

And I don't have many friends. If you were ever my friend, I don't forget that. Part of my reasoning is best summed up by Doc Holliday in the movie Tombstone:

Turkey Creek Jack Johnson:
Why do you do it?

Doc Holliday:
Wyatt Earp is my friend.

Turkey Creek Jack Johnson:
Friend? Hell, I got lots of friends.

Doc Holliday:
I don't.

It may be due to my genetic illness that doctors don't even test for. I have been ostracized, admonished and ignored by most of my family and friends due to a genetic illness I was born with. I suffer from hemochromatosis (HFE variant H63D) and hyperparathyroidism caused by hereditary MEN (Multiple Endocrine Neoplasia) syndrome acquired by genetic variant CDKN1B... Treatment in progress of this genetic illness (phosphates, potassium, calcium, magnesium, sodium all involved). Since these items are in food, my personality and mood can change after eating due to how I metabolize the above mentioned nutrients without me knowing it. It is caused by a genetic variant (CDKN1B) that usually goes undetected; causing cancer, heart attacks and strokes. Evidence shows it running on both lines, including all grandparents in my family. Symptoms can include anxiety, joint swelling, neoplasms on my organs, lipomas, hormone disruptions (early menopause, mood swings), high cortisol, hypoglycemia, neuropathy, facial angiofibromas, food allergies, forgetfulness, tinnitus, depression, bad reaction to thiazide diuretics, fatigue and dehydration just to name a few. If I reached out to you it is out of my illness and fear that if related you may suffer too. I cannot control my illness, but find it ironic that most people expect me to have that ability. Instead of showing me unconditional love and giving me support I get the opposite. Which is why I have unconditional love and changed my ID. It best sums up what everyone needs; especially when dealing with an invisible illness. If you are related to me, you may want to get tested for Multiple Endocrine Neoplasia and find out for sure. It is much easier to deal with the earlier it is caught. This illness is what led me to research my genealogy since I knew there was a link.

I have been a member of Find A Grave for ten plus years and lost my password and had to merge into a new account. I did not create most of the memorials that I manage and am still in the process of verifying information and cleaning up typos and other errors. If you notice something I have not gotten to please send me a message with the info and documentation.

I try to respond to suggested edits the same day and will always be happy to share the information I have or transfer management over to another relative. Almost every one of the accounts I manage is a relative of myself or my husband, our sons and/or grandchildren. And the occasional friend, acquaintance or person that needed to be memorialized or whose memorial was abandoned. I spend a lot of time suggesting edits after extensive research to complete the memorials for their loved ones later to find. I do this because I love, unconditionally and believe adding to the memorials is a gift for the family later to find. Now a little more about myself...

I was born in the North End, and grew up in the Old South End of Toledo Ohio. I spent my late teen years living in Fulton County Ohio. A former military wife I also spent five years in Junction City Kansas, and later lived in Cody Wyoming for five years. While living in Junction City KS I graduated from the Brown-Mackie College earning a dbl AAS Degree in BAM and Accounting and working at The Daily Union newspaper copy and editing department and KFC as a kitchen manager. Years later while living in Cody Wyoming I got to mix my administration degree and my love of history while working for the Old West and Ye Olde World Living History Foundation as an office administrator and database manager. My other titles have included dog kennel groomer/trainer, horse trainer, street vendor, bartender, licensed realtor, press operator, historical reenactor, database manager, animal rescuer, proprietor candle business, office manager, care giver, aquarist, switchboard operator, hospital ER receptionist just to name a few. I have met people in all walks of life and also worked as Madam Trustee at the Eagles to further assist people. I am a devoted wife and mother of three sons, step mom to one son and proud grandma to six grandchildren. I am married to my high school sweetheart and we are living the empty nest life, finally. We are also the proud parents of a rescue Beaglebull and a Ragdoll cat.

I am the 6G Granddaughter of Revolutionary War Captain John George Overmire. Our lineage has been traced and documented extensively. I am not here to step on any of that, I am here to help fill in the blanks. Especially the female lines that get left out due to marriage(s) making it difficult to find them. We have quite a large extended family, so it is possible that our relatives overlap. I am not here to take anything from you, I just want to help maintain our genealogy and add to it whenever I can. I have inherited file boxes of newspaper clipped obits and funeral cards from both grandmothers and am posting them where they belong whenever I can.

We all have relatives and we all want to be remembered by future generations. These are not just my relatives, they have future generations too that may want to know who they are. This site is helpful for genealogy purposes only if information is on the memorial that identifies them correctly. This is the reason ancestry.com purchased Find a Grave. I will connect relatives and post obituaries whenever possible to further assist in getting this information correct. Not only for my own relatives, but those of others that are in need of information. Ancestry enabled the linking of relatives for that reason, so it can be indexed on other genealogy sites. I post the newspaper clipped obituary for genealogy verification purposes of evidence. And always post the source, to verify. The addition of multiple last names is something that bothers some, but to myself (also a multiple time participant) it is a window into a name you may have known before; a name different than the one born or died with.

If any of my relatives is also a relative of yours and you would like to manage their memorial, just ask. I will gladly turn over family to family or close family friend. I abide by the rule of treat other people like you want to be treated. Find a Grave has no problem with this; so if you do please don't come at me with "I only transfer per FAG rules". Please read what it says when you take over management again. It states ANY relative that requests it now.

To help solve mysteries about what happened to my 2nd cousins or to leave flowers please see memorials to
Catherine Ferguson
or
Tammy Grogan

Dear Ancestor
Your tombstone stands among the rest;
neglected and alone
The name and date are chiseled out
on polished, marbled stone
It reaches out to all who care
It is too late to mourn
You did not know that I'd exist
You died and I was born.
Yet each of us are cells of you
in flesh, in blood, in bone.
Our blood contracts and beats a pulse
entirely not our own.
Dear Ancestor, the place you filled
one hundred years ago
Spreads out among the ones you left
who would have loved you so.
I wonder if you lived and loved,
I wonder if you knew
That someday I would find this spot,
and come to visit you.
-Author Unknown

Why do I spend my time creating memorials, posting obituaries, researching families to attach to relatives and leaving flowers on virtual graves? Everybody matters and deserves a proper memorial and to be shown unconditional love and respect. It is what we all need and doing this feels like paying it forward. I don't do it for the numbers and respect families of all types.

And I don't have many friends. If you were ever my friend, I don't forget that. Part of my reasoning is best summed up by Doc Holliday in the movie Tombstone:

Turkey Creek Jack Johnson:
Why do you do it?

Doc Holliday:
Wyatt Earp is my friend.

Turkey Creek Jack Johnson:
Friend? Hell, I got lots of friends.

Doc Holliday:
I don't.

It may be due to my genetic illness that doctors don't even test for. I have been ostracized, admonished and ignored by most of my family and friends due to a genetic illness I was born with. I suffer from hemochromatosis (HFE variant H63D) and hyperparathyroidism caused by hereditary MEN (Multiple Endocrine Neoplasia) syndrome acquired by genetic variant CDKN1B... Treatment in progress of this genetic illness (phosphates, potassium, calcium, magnesium, sodium all involved). Since these items are in food, my personality and mood can change after eating due to how I metabolize the above mentioned nutrients without me knowing it. It is caused by a genetic variant (CDKN1B) that usually goes undetected; causing cancer, heart attacks and strokes. Evidence shows it running on both lines, including all grandparents in my family. Symptoms can include anxiety, joint swelling, neoplasms on my organs, lipomas, hormone disruptions (early menopause, mood swings), high cortisol, hypoglycemia, neuropathy, facial angiofibromas, food allergies, forgetfulness, tinnitus, depression, bad reaction to thiazide diuretics, fatigue and dehydration just to name a few. If I reached out to you it is out of my illness and fear that if related you may suffer too. I cannot control my illness, but find it ironic that most people expect me to have that ability. Instead of showing me unconditional love and giving me support I get the opposite. Which is why I have unconditional love and changed my ID. It best sums up what everyone needs; especially when dealing with an invisible illness. If you are related to me, you may want to get tested for Multiple Endocrine Neoplasia and find out for sure. It is much easier to deal with the earlier it is caught. This illness is what led me to research my genealogy since I knew there was a link.

I have been a member of Find A Grave for ten plus years and lost my password and had to merge into a new account. I did not create most of the memorials that I manage and am still in the process of verifying information and cleaning up typos and other errors. If you notice something I have not gotten to please send me a message with the info and documentation.

I try to respond to suggested edits the same day and will always be happy to share the information I have or transfer management over to another relative. Almost every one of the accounts I manage is a relative of myself or my husband, our sons and/or grandchildren. And the occasional friend, acquaintance or person that needed to be memorialized or whose memorial was abandoned. I spend a lot of time suggesting edits after extensive research to complete the memorials for their loved ones later to find. I do this because I love, unconditionally and believe adding to the memorials is a gift for the family later to find. Now a little more about myself...

I was born in the North End, and grew up in the Old South End of Toledo Ohio. I spent my late teen years living in Fulton County Ohio. A former military wife I also spent five years in Junction City Kansas, and later lived in Cody Wyoming for five years. While living in Junction City KS I graduated from the Brown-Mackie College earning a dbl AAS Degree in BAM and Accounting and working at The Daily Union newspaper copy and editing department and KFC as a kitchen manager. Years later while living in Cody Wyoming I got to mix my administration degree and my love of history while working for the Old West and Ye Olde World Living History Foundation as an office administrator and database manager. My other titles have included dog kennel groomer/trainer, horse trainer, street vendor, bartender, licensed realtor, press operator, historical reenactor, database manager, animal rescuer, proprietor candle business, office manager, care giver, aquarist, switchboard operator, hospital ER receptionist just to name a few. I have met people in all walks of life and also worked as Madam Trustee at the Eagles to further assist people. I am a devoted wife and mother of three sons, step mom to one son and proud grandma to six grandchildren. I am married to my high school sweetheart and we are living the empty nest life, finally. We are also the proud parents of a rescue Beaglebull and a Ragdoll cat.

I am the 6G Granddaughter of Revolutionary War Captain John George Overmire. Our lineage has been traced and documented extensively. I am not here to step on any of that, I am here to help fill in the blanks. Especially the female lines that get left out due to marriage(s) making it difficult to find them. We have quite a large extended family, so it is possible that our relatives overlap. I am not here to take anything from you, I just want to help maintain our genealogy and add to it whenever I can. I have inherited file boxes of newspaper clipped obits and funeral cards from both grandmothers and am posting them where they belong whenever I can.

We all have relatives and we all want to be remembered by future generations. These are not just my relatives, they have future generations too that may want to know who they are. This site is helpful for genealogy purposes only if information is on the memorial that identifies them correctly. This is the reason ancestry.com purchased Find a Grave. I will connect relatives and post obituaries whenever possible to further assist in getting this information correct. Not only for my own relatives, but those of others that are in need of information. Ancestry enabled the linking of relatives for that reason, so it can be indexed on other genealogy sites. I post the newspaper clipped obituary for genealogy verification purposes of evidence. And always post the source, to verify. The addition of multiple last names is something that bothers some, but to myself (also a multiple time participant) it is a window into a name you may have known before; a name different than the one born or died with.

If any of my relatives is also a relative of yours and you would like to manage their memorial, just ask. I will gladly turn over family to family or close family friend. I abide by the rule of treat other people like you want to be treated. Find a Grave has no problem with this; so if you do please don't come at me with "I only transfer per FAG rules". Please read what it says when you take over management again. It states ANY relative that requests it now.

To help solve mysteries about what happened to my 2nd cousins or to leave flowers please see memorials to
Catherine Ferguson
or
Tammy Grogan

Dear Ancestor
Your tombstone stands among the rest;
neglected and alone
The name and date are chiseled out
on polished, marbled stone
It reaches out to all who care
It is too late to mourn
You did not know that I'd exist
You died and I was born.
Yet each of us are cells of you
in flesh, in blood, in bone.
Our blood contracts and beats a pulse
entirely not our own.
Dear Ancestor, the place you filled
one hundred years ago
Spreads out among the ones you left
who would have loved you so.
I wonder if you lived and loved,
I wonder if you knew
That someday I would find this spot,
and come to visit you.
-Author Unknown