|Annie Duckett Hundley (#47394373)|
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"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." --George Santayana|
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Please see below my bio:
I've loved history, research and have been fascinated with the Old West and Victorian times, since I can remember. So when I was introduced to genealogy it just fit! It began for me in 1991 when I was asked by a sweet, elderly neighbor to help her with her family history, as she was legally blind and "afraid to learn how to do this stuff alone, and I sense you love well and learn well." I gave it a try, was quickly hooked and later, became a genealogist. I can be found in the Association of Professional Genealogists registry if you have need of my assistance. I'm also a member of the National Genealogical Society. I'd be happy to help you in any way I can.
My first realization that history was a passion for me began in childhood and came through the freakish looks my friends would give me as I'd stand motionless and stare at the dilapidated remains of old cabins, barns and homesteads; wishing that for just a few seconds I could go back in time to see and feel what they did. I wanted to know what life was like for those that lived there, built their lives literally by the sweat of their brow and sacrificed so much in search of truth, freedoms and a new way. I'm grateful for and to them.
I was born in 1962, happily married to my hero since 1983, I've been blessed with three sons, one daughter, three stepsons and many grandchildren. I grew up in Utah, mostly Provo, but have lived in Montana since 1996. I love my Savior, Jesus Christ, and His simple truths He shares. I also love: my family, music, learning, truth, teaching, laughter, words, reading, research, singing, children, history, psychology, dogs, horses, mountains, four seasons, sewing, creating, designing, color, being trusted, defending people, organizing, quilts, observing people, serving, volunteering, and the many opportunities I've been given to help people find the best in themselves... their gifts. I don't love: making mistakes, my weaknesses, condescension, injustice, when power is more important than people, abuse of any kind, especially of the innocent; the use of "so called" truth and religion to gain control over people (ignoring the gift of free will), and when fear stops people from doing the right thing, especially when I notice it in myself.
Pursuing my family history has provided me with much more than I ever anticipated. I am the oldest of six children, as well as, three younger half brothers and a stepsister. I grew up fast in an incestuous, abusive, negligent, sadistic, chronically traumatic and controlled, yet deeply religious home. I lied to hide it, protect, relate and survive. I felt (and was expected to be) responsible, in the extreme, for the well-being of my younger siblings and saw clearly, at a young age, that my parents had been harmed, also. I had many questions, feelings and needs I wasn't allowed to express. The effects have affected every aspect of my life, relationships and caused four disabilities, but I am healing. I've had much to heal in terms of trust in anything or anyone, identity, hope, and just how far back this multi-generational hell goes. Why are the meek, shy, honest and loving in my family devoured by the rest? The ultimate examples are the murder of my paternal grandfather (one of two adults I ever felt unconditional love from in my family) by his own wife, when I was nine years old; the suicide of a younger brother, as well as the persecution and alienation of another younger brother for refusing, like me, to keep the toxic family secrets. I could not accept that to be loving, sensitive and especially truthful, meant you'd be abused/destroyed and it contradicted the Gospel I was "taught" in the same family and home. I've found some answers, learned much and continue to. The Gospel of Jesus Christ will ALWAYS be true.
I've learned that my heritage also has much greatness besides horrendous abuses and suffering. I see now why I was so compelled to be the first in at least four generations (that I know of) to speak the ugly truth out loud...at age 15. I've been denied, betrayed, persecuted, threatened, abandoned and alienated by the same people I dedicated my life to. Blamed for "ruining the family" by not keeping the secrets, but still used as their servant, confidant and the only one they could turn to when they needed to be loved, a place to live, to speak their truth and be understood. I still love them with all my heart. I see and feel intensely, as I move through my healing and the discovery of each ancestor; they are grateful the truth is out. They're sorry for the destruction they either passed down, concealed or denied and they feel freedom as I find and slowly forgive them. They want and need the truth more than ever, since leaving this life. They are grateful that they matter, that their lives did, and that even though much denial still exists in their posterity...the opportunity to face the truth has been offered because it has been spoken out loud and brought out of the shadows, lies, secrets and denial that have enabled it to infect each new generation. They know me...I know them. They can progress from where they are and so can I. We help each other. They matter and have great worth... and they help me finally know that I do too.
Please use edit function on memorial. I'm happy to add/correct info if requested with respect, kindness and your source. You may use my headstone/cemetery photos for non-commercial use.
I love this work, this website, and I volunteer a lot of my time here. However, transfers have become a real issue, many Find A Grave friends are noticing the same thing. Most people are great when negotiating transfers, but too many are toxic. Due to demanding and disrespectful correspondence, I now adhere strictly to Find A Grave transfer rules. Also, a transfer will not happen if you: Fail to state relationship: spouse, parent, sibling, grandparent, great-grandparent, children, grandchildren or great-grandchildren | are a collector (harvesting with few contributions) | make demands | request on my public profile - please use edit function | create duplicate claiming you'll delete after transfer | or have been abusive in the past. You can add memorial to your virtual cemetery instead. Abuses will be reported with screenshot as proof. No exceptions. I'm sorry some create the need for these rules to exist. I'm grateful to those that know how to conduct themselves in an appropriate, kind and adult way. Let's keep in mind why and how this website exists.
Please remember I have 21 days to respond to requests, rarely taking longer than 24 hours. I've been entrusted with 4000+ memorials from inactive, photo-only or fallen gravers, besides memorials I've created; so it takes time to maintain them all. Please be patient. Enjoy Find A Grave!
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|Love My Ancestors||RE: Reva Rasmussen|
You are welcome Annie .... been a long time! I have still been active on here - but not so much like I was. Haven't been to a cemetery to take pictures since last spring ... too blasted hot! Can't take this heat like I used to when I was growing up here. My blood is still too thick from Utah! Hope you are well .... you are a sweetie!
|MT1950||RE: Paul R. DeVine|
Many thanks to you for adding (I really don't need the credit)
Added by MT1950 on May 25, 2017 9:32 AM
|Love My Ancestors||Reva Rasmussen|
Annie, I added the obituary on her memorial, and noticed in reading it, that your last name was in there. So I transferred the memorial to you, since it's family. Have a wonderful Memorial Day weekend!
|Blaine & Elaine Berger||Sherry Springer|
Thank you for bringing my attention to the duplicate. I have deleted mine. I dislike duplicates with a passion. I am sorry this one slipped past me.
|sleepinginthegarden||RE: Gustave & Bonnie Dewey|
No problem at all. I was enjoying a walk through the cemetery and noticed the lovely stone. Glad to be of help :)
|Cemetery Walker||Margaret Langstaff|
Thanks for letting me know about my memorial being a duplicate. I deleted it.
|Richard Gonsalves||James Gonsalves|
I am Jim's brother but I am new to Find a Grave. It might be best if you keep it for now. I will keep it in mind for the future.
|Meg Harrer Brooks||RE: Harrer|
Hi Annie. I'm sorry this is years later that I am responding. I have not been on this site for years but I am back and hopefully will be getting more memorials done for myself and for others. I see there are a lot of requests for the two cemeteries near me. I can't wait to start filling those requests. Anyway I wanted to thank you for transferring my Oma's memorial to me. I had to edit the obit because my aunt forgot to mention my brother, his wife and me. It hurt that we were the only grandchildren left out but I can't dwell on it. Oma wouldn't want that. So thank you again. It means a lot to me and if there is anything I can do for you please let me know.
|Holly Maki||RE: Memorial transfer|
Thank you! Sorry it has taken so long to get back to you.
|Faye Francis||Hulda Tade|
Bio added to memorial - thank you for taking time to send.
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