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Beth (#47841402)
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I create memorials at Black Hills National Cemetery here in South Dakota as my way of honoring our Veterans and their families.I am "NOT" a collector of memorials so if I have created/or have a memorial for someone,be it a family member,friend or someone you knew,and you'd like me to transfer it to your care...Ask and you shall receive 😊😊😊

G. K. Chesterton wrote, "Courage is almost a contradiction in terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of readiness to die." The men and women who served in the armed forces, whether during a time of war, or one of peace, are living examples of that contradiction. Each should be honored and remembered, so that our gratitude never fade's... 💗❤💗

Leaving coins on the headstones of those who served in the Military, especially those who died in combat, dates back at least as far as the Roman Empire.

The practice became especially popular in the United States during the Vietnam War because of the political climate throughout the 1960s and 1970s. Friends of those who died in combat left coins to let family members know that someone had visited the gravesite. Leaving a coin on the headstone was more practical than contacting the family and risk becoming involved in a discussion about the war.

Generally speaking, a visitor who did not know the deceased well enough to be considered a friend might leave a penny. Someone who went through boot camp or a training class with the deceased might leave a nickel. A friend who served in another platoon within the same company might leave a dime. A buddy who served in the same outfit, or was with the deceased when he died, might leave a quarter.

Some Vietnam Veterans left coins as a "down-payment" to purchase a beer or play a hand of poker when he was eventually re-united with his deceased buddy.

Today, the denomination of the coin left on the headstone has become less significant because so few people carry coins other than quarters.

The coins left on headstones within National Cemeteries and State Veterans Cemeteries are collected by cemetery staff from time to time and are used to maintain the grounds. Some cemeteries use the coins to help pay for the burial costs of indigent Veterans.


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Dr Marie C.Karban DVM ret
RE: Gary
OKIE DOKIE, it's odd folks don't up date their memorials. I have a list I check for when I go out. The office told me it was up to the familys.
Added by Dr Marie C.Karban DVM ret on May 22, 2017 6:19 AM
Dr Marie C.Karban DVM ret
RE: Gary
Hi Beth, I'm not related to any fricks. It's up to you :)
Added by Dr Marie C.Karban DVM ret on May 21, 2017 1:57 PM
Sue Downhill
RE: Lila Marie Anders Feist
Beth, thank you for the work you do for Black Hills National Cemetery. Many family members are buried there. I try to "work" one family at a time. Lila will be well taken care of, thank you!
BTW, love your pretty "flowers"! They add to the memorial.
Added by Sue Downhill on May 21, 2017 10:32 AM
Valenciaღ Asiaღ Angel of Mine 💞


Thank you for visiting my great-granddaughter Asia 👑 on her 4th Angelversary and Birthday, deeply appreciated.

Hugs 🤗 ~ Valencia's mom

Added by Valenciaღ Asiaư... on May 20, 2017 9:05 AM
Happy Birthday, Beth!
Hope you're enjoying your day, my friend!..🍿🍫
Added by Maggie on May 15, 2017 1:15 PM
RE: Happy Birthday
Thank you, Beth!.. Sorry I have not been on here lately... Reason being I recently started doubting there being a spiritual realm. Or even a deity... At the same time I lost my last grandma so it's​ been challenging. By leaving grave tokens I'd be 'helping' their living loved ones which is enough but does it really help?
Anyway... XO
Added by Maggie on May 14, 2017 11:10 AM
Happy Mudder's Day & Happy Birthday
Thinking of my South Dakota pioneer! Have a wonderful couple days. I just added to my bio! I hope you approve. :-)

Larry, of course......
Added by Larry on May 14, 2017 9:07 AM
Yer Mudder wears...........
Hey, Punky, yer mudder wears combat boots!

On local tv, I have been watching non-stop commercials for visiting the Black Hills this summer. They show a shot of Deadwood and I think you are in it. (Lovely lady standing at the saloon bar with a shy smile.)

Finally got out to the local cemetery this week after a long winter. Ice bergs, polar bears, and glaciers all receded into Canada. As far as I can tell, all residents were accounted for!

Mother's Day is Coming! Hope you are appropriately honored.

Larry, of course........
Added by Larry on May 10, 2017 8:34 AM
PVT Eldon "Gene" Stone
Oh Beth, I am so touched by your profile. To read of your volunteer service specifically for Veterans and their families brings tears to my eyes. Then to realize that your husband/best friend is among your memorials...

I was also touched by your unselfish explanation that you are willing to transfer memorials. It is such a pleasant surprise to run into someone who has such a warm attitude about sharing this "data" that represents a real human being who had friends and family who loved him or her.

With all that said may I please request a transfer of PVT Eldon Gene Stone? He was my cousin. I understand you can still turn me down but I can see that you stop and pay your respects at these memorials so I would be pleased to let you continue to maintain Gene's memorial. Thank you so much for what you do!!

Added by Patricia on Mar 20, 2017 4:24 PM

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