Hello "Find A Grave" fans.

**** If you are a "Find A Grave Volunteer" who no longer wishes to manage your memorial listings, please TRANSFER YOUR MEMORIALS TO ME. I'm a disabled veteran with plenty of time and would be honored to protect and maintain the memorials for you. "Each Memorial is a Monument" to those who have passed before us, and they deserve to be remembered, protected, and honored for the generations who come after. Thank you ****

Here's how I manage "my" Find A Grave Memorials:

(1) FLOWERS: Please do NOT use the "Flower Section" to add BIO information to the memorial. That isn't where it belongs and it will eventually be pushed off the 1st page of the memorial as additional "Flower Remembrances" are added. Just send me an EDIT request via "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" on the "EDITS" page.

(2) PHOTOS: *Do Not* under any circumstances:
(a) attach a copy of a newspaper or online Obituary UNLESS you also include:
- the name of the newspaper or funeral home,
- the date the Obituary was published.
(b) attach a photo of the deceased person unless:
- it includes the deceased person's name,
- points out the deceased person in group photos,
- the date the photo was taken,
- includes the names of other people in the photo.
(c) attach a photo of supporting documents, for example, i.e., death certificates, divorce papers, family tree histories, etc. unless you provide:
- the date the document was created, published, and/or signed,
- the name of the published book it came from,
- the name of the author who wrote it,
- the court or business it came from.
(d) other people's headstone photos unless you provide:
- the name of the person who took the photo,
- the date the photo was taken.
*ANY PHOTO* that violates this policy will be forwarded to the "Find A Grave Support Department" for removal.

(3) TRANSFERS: I will transfer ANY memorial to you, regardless of your relationship or friendship to the deceased, UNLESS I am a family member of the decedent. Please submit your "Transfer Request" via "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" on the "EDITS" page. There is no need to tell me your relationship to the deceased because I will only be checking "MY" relationship to the person.

(4) REGARDING ALL EDIT REQUESTS: If I have questions about your edit request, but have no way to contact you (i.e., your messages are turned off / blocked and/or your email address is not provided), I will DECLINE your request if I can't find the answer from my own research.

(5) EDIT TIMEFRAME: Unless my computer has exploded, I'm in the hospital, I'm in a full body cast, I've been captured by little green men from Mars, or I'm dead, I will NOT make you wait 21 days for the Find A Grave system to "Auto-Approve" your edit request. That's what lazy people do. I personally handle all edits, usually within 7 days. Before I complete your edit request, I will research the information to make sure it's complete and correct. I may ask you to attach a photo of your supporting documentation, (i.e., birth records, death certificates, marriage records, etc.). Once I approve your edit request you can delete the supporting documentation photo from the "Photos" page.

(6) DECEASED PERSON's NAME: Most people who search "Find A Grave" are looking for family members and loved ones. Very few people come to Find A Grave just to look at headstone photos belonging to people they don't know and/or are not related to. Those who are researching their "family tree" almost always search Find A Grave by the deceased person's "legal name" given to them at birth or after a marriage. Why? Because the person searching has no idea "what name" was engraved on the deceased person's headstone or grave marker... AND... they have no idea "what name" was used on a Find A Grave memorial. Example (and a true story): when searching for a person named at birth as "Laura Jane Evans," whose name became "Laura Jane (Evans) Smith" after her marriage, those are the names people will use to search Find A Grave. But... her memorial will never be found because the name engraved on her grave marker, and used on her Find A Grave memorial, was "Jane E. Smith." Apparently, as an adult, instead of using her first name, Laura went by her middle name, Jane. As her middle initial, she used the letter E., the first-letter of her maiden name. ---- When I set up Find A Grave memorials, I use the deceased person's full legal name and known nickname, at the time of their death, regardless of what is engraved on their headstone. Names used on Census Reports, Death Certificates, Marriage Licenses, and Obituaries are NOT considered concrete "Name-Evidence." However, Social Security records, Military documents, Lawsuits, Real Estate contracts, Divorces, and Last Wills are often the most accurate, but not always. ** NOTE: If the name and/or spelling on the headstone or grave marker is different than the person's "legal name" at the time of their death, I use the "Legal Name in the Name Field" so it can be found in a Find A Grave "search" and then I note the name-engraving details in the "Inscription Field" which only covers the information "engraved" on the headstone or grave marker. I may also go into more depth in the BIO section.

(7) BIO SECTION: BIO is an abbreviation of the word "BIOGRAPHY" which is a written "HISTORY" of a PERSON'S life. It covers everything from:
(a) information about parents (if the parents don't have their own Find A Grave memorials),
(b) details about the person's birth (twin sibling, place of birth, etc.),
(c) information about their education (quit in 3rd grade, went to college, etc.),
(d) details about marriages (# of times, who they married, date and place of each marriage, etc.),
(e) details about careers (farmer, scientist, discoveries, inventions, etc.),
(f) military service (date enlisted / discharged, wars fought, medals / ribbons awarded, etc.),
(g) details about traveling and/or immigrating to other countries,
(h) and details about their death (cause of death, accidental, murdered, suicide, obituaries, etc.).
The "BIOGRAPHY" section " IS NOT" for cutting & pasting Census details showing WHO ELSE lived at the same address on that 1 specific day during the person's life… and it also should not include the "birth and death details" of other people UNLESS those other people "do not" have their own Find A Grave memorials. THE BIO TELLS A STORY ABOUT THE DECEASED PERSON'S LIFE. After all, when you give the Eulogy at someone's funeral YOU NEVER SAY: "and during the 1930 census they were living with their Great-Aunt Fannie." -- If you have DETAILS about the person's life that you would like added to the BIO section, I will happily add them... BUT I WILL NOT turn the deceased person's "BIO aka EULOGY" into a pile of cut & pasted genealogy research findings. Please submit your "ADD TO BIO" request via the "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" (link) on the "EDITS" page.

Thank you and stay well ..... JerseyGirl

Hello "Find A Grave" fans.

**** If you are a "Find A Grave Volunteer" who no longer wishes to manage your memorial listings, please TRANSFER YOUR MEMORIALS TO ME. I'm a disabled veteran with plenty of time and would be honored to protect and maintain the memorials for you. "Each Memorial is a Monument" to those who have passed before us, and they deserve to be remembered, protected, and honored for the generations who come after. Thank you ****

Here's how I manage "my" Find A Grave Memorials:

(1) FLOWERS: Please do NOT use the "Flower Section" to add BIO information to the memorial. That isn't where it belongs and it will eventually be pushed off the 1st page of the memorial as additional "Flower Remembrances" are added. Just send me an EDIT request via "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" on the "EDITS" page.

(2) PHOTOS: *Do Not* under any circumstances:
(a) attach a copy of a newspaper or online Obituary UNLESS you also include:
- the name of the newspaper or funeral home,
- the date the Obituary was published.
(b) attach a photo of the deceased person unless:
- it includes the deceased person's name,
- points out the deceased person in group photos,
- the date the photo was taken,
- includes the names of other people in the photo.
(c) attach a photo of supporting documents, for example, i.e., death certificates, divorce papers, family tree histories, etc. unless you provide:
- the date the document was created, published, and/or signed,
- the name of the published book it came from,
- the name of the author who wrote it,
- the court or business it came from.
(d) other people's headstone photos unless you provide:
- the name of the person who took the photo,
- the date the photo was taken.
*ANY PHOTO* that violates this policy will be forwarded to the "Find A Grave Support Department" for removal.

(3) TRANSFERS: I will transfer ANY memorial to you, regardless of your relationship or friendship to the deceased, UNLESS I am a family member of the decedent. Please submit your "Transfer Request" via "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" on the "EDITS" page. There is no need to tell me your relationship to the deceased because I will only be checking "MY" relationship to the person.

(4) REGARDING ALL EDIT REQUESTS: If I have questions about your edit request, but have no way to contact you (i.e., your messages are turned off / blocked and/or your email address is not provided), I will DECLINE your request if I can't find the answer from my own research.

(5) EDIT TIMEFRAME: Unless my computer has exploded, I'm in the hospital, I'm in a full body cast, I've been captured by little green men from Mars, or I'm dead, I will NOT make you wait 21 days for the Find A Grave system to "Auto-Approve" your edit request. That's what lazy people do. I personally handle all edits, usually within 7 days. Before I complete your edit request, I will research the information to make sure it's complete and correct. I may ask you to attach a photo of your supporting documentation, (i.e., birth records, death certificates, marriage records, etc.). Once I approve your edit request you can delete the supporting documentation photo from the "Photos" page.

(6) DECEASED PERSON's NAME: Most people who search "Find A Grave" are looking for family members and loved ones. Very few people come to Find A Grave just to look at headstone photos belonging to people they don't know and/or are not related to. Those who are researching their "family tree" almost always search Find A Grave by the deceased person's "legal name" given to them at birth or after a marriage. Why? Because the person searching has no idea "what name" was engraved on the deceased person's headstone or grave marker... AND... they have no idea "what name" was used on a Find A Grave memorial. Example (and a true story): when searching for a person named at birth as "Laura Jane Evans," whose name became "Laura Jane (Evans) Smith" after her marriage, those are the names people will use to search Find A Grave. But... her memorial will never be found because the name engraved on her grave marker, and used on her Find A Grave memorial, was "Jane E. Smith." Apparently, as an adult, instead of using her first name, Laura went by her middle name, Jane. As her middle initial, she used the letter E., the first-letter of her maiden name. ---- When I set up Find A Grave memorials, I use the deceased person's full legal name and known nickname, at the time of their death, regardless of what is engraved on their headstone. Names used on Census Reports, Death Certificates, Marriage Licenses, and Obituaries are NOT considered concrete "Name-Evidence." However, Social Security records, Military documents, Lawsuits, Real Estate contracts, Divorces, and Last Wills are often the most accurate, but not always. ** NOTE: If the name and/or spelling on the headstone or grave marker is different than the person's "legal name" at the time of their death, I use the "Legal Name in the Name Field" so it can be found in a Find A Grave "search" and then I note the name-engraving details in the "Inscription Field" which only covers the information "engraved" on the headstone or grave marker. I may also go into more depth in the BIO section.

(7) BIO SECTION: BIO is an abbreviation of the word "BIOGRAPHY" which is a written "HISTORY" of a PERSON'S life. It covers everything from:
(a) information about parents (if the parents don't have their own Find A Grave memorials),
(b) details about the person's birth (twin sibling, place of birth, etc.),
(c) information about their education (quit in 3rd grade, went to college, etc.),
(d) details about marriages (# of times, who they married, date and place of each marriage, etc.),
(e) details about careers (farmer, scientist, discoveries, inventions, etc.),
(f) military service (date enlisted / discharged, wars fought, medals / ribbons awarded, etc.),
(g) details about traveling and/or immigrating to other countries,
(h) and details about their death (cause of death, accidental, murdered, suicide, obituaries, etc.).
The "BIOGRAPHY" section " IS NOT" for cutting & pasting Census details showing WHO ELSE lived at the same address on that 1 specific day during the person's life… and it also should not include the "birth and death details" of other people UNLESS those other people "do not" have their own Find A Grave memorials. THE BIO TELLS A STORY ABOUT THE DECEASED PERSON'S LIFE. After all, when you give the Eulogy at someone's funeral YOU NEVER SAY: "and during the 1930 census they were living with their Great-Aunt Fannie." -- If you have DETAILS about the person's life that you would like added to the BIO section, I will happily add them... BUT I WILL NOT turn the deceased person's "BIO aka EULOGY" into a pile of cut & pasted genealogy research findings. Please submit your "ADD TO BIO" request via the "SUGGEST OTHER CORRECTIONS" (link) on the "EDITS" page.

Thank you and stay well ..... JerseyGirl