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TomKat (#46805778)
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Bio Photo FindAGrave, as I understand it, is a graves registration database. That means that memorials listed as 'Burial Unknown' should not be on the site longer than 30 days past D.O.D. The site isn't called 'Find the Name of a Deceased Person.' It seems that some are confused about these things. If you are one of those, see the FAQ's.

If I have made a demonstrable error of fact on any of my postings, please let me know in order that I may correct it. As many of the stones are old, worn, and weathered, I have done my best to interpret the information thereon. If I'm not reasonably sure of the information, I won't post it.

With very few exceptions, all my interment data comes from photographs of the individual's gravestone done by me in the field.

If you see an image you would like a copy of, let me know and I'll be happy to provide one. There is but one proviso however. Any image provided must be for your personal use only and is not to be uploaded to another web site.

On the subject of 'Relationship Links' and 'S.A.C.'s', please read the following carefully. And use the correct procedure!!! I will be happy to make links and corrections.

Please double check your suggestions for accuracy before submitting them. Hopefully you will have a reasonably reliable source for the information, AND HAVE PROVIDED IT!!! BTW, most web sites are not sources. For the most part, they contain information somebody uploaded. The source is where the information came from. For example, if someone on a web site claims to quote from the New York Times, the NYT is the source (along with date of publication, edition, page number, etc.), NOT THE WEB PAGE. If it helps, try thinking of this as if you were writing a term paper. (Does either 'MLA' or 'CMS' sound familiar???)

I have been deluged recently with suggestions and requests to make relationship links which simply cannot be possible. When you ask me to link a child to parents who would have been 3 years old at the time of the child's birth, something's very wrong somewhere. Of course, if you wish, I can easily post anything you submit and attach your name to the erroneous information. There is enough bad data on the internet as it is and I really don't want to be adding to the problem. But if you insist... Please keep in mind, just because it's on the internet doesn't make it true.))) Since FindAGrave rules prohibit the use of external links (they can go dead or change over time), I won't create them.

I have 'isolated' the bulk of the 2 preceding paragraphs with ((())) because the current 'Edit' system no longer provides for the submission of documentation and has thus made them irrelevant. It seems that now the addition of any data is more important than the addition of accurate data which has been properly sourced. Previously, when someone submitted an edit, it was via a message which provided a text format for submission of documentation which I could then 'copy and paste' to add the data, along with the documentation, and the name of the member who submitted the information. As it stands now, I would have to message everyone who submits a change with a request for a source and wait for a reply. That reply might never come and the data would automatically be added after 21 days anyway. I.M.O.

Please do not ask for transfers solely for the purpose of adding biographies and making links. If you submit information from a reliable source, a source you have provided, I will add it. Keep in mind you can always create a virtual cemetery.

Rant for the year, at least:

What is it with you people who post your lousy photos (which look like they were done with a box Brownie or a cell phone) above other perfectly acceptable photos on other people's memorial pages? I will quote from FindAGrave:

"FindAGrave FAQ 'What kind of photos may be added to a memorial page?'
Any contributor can upload an appropriate photo to any memorial regardless of who manages the page. No permission from the memorial manager is needed. However, if there is already a photo of the headstone, do not add a second similar photo unless the original is of poor quality and the new photo is dramatically better. This leaves room for photos of the deceased within the five-photo limit on unsponsored memorials."

P.S. If you can't tell the difference between a good photo and a poor one, either don't add it or quit taking pictures.
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Louis Roth
Find A Grave Memorial# 107579634
any chance you could get a photo of the headstone for Mr Seroka and wife?
many thanks
Added by Louis Roth on Oct 09, 2017 9:29 AM
Joyce (Niehaus) Rea
RE: Sharpenstein
Thanks. Just hoping there was a source. Joyce
Added by Joyce (Niehaus) Rea on Oct 01, 2017 4:20 PM
Rick Gleason
Charles Ralston Waple #30083229
Just noted another Memorial #66264298 for this same individual was created after your own.

It includes a copy of Charles' death certificate.

I've notified the other contributor of your previously created memorial.

Best regards!

Added by Rick Gleason on Sep 30, 2017 6:10 PM
Joyce (Niehaus) Rea
Church record question
I have a question about the source you mentioned below a photograph you posted on Find a Grave # 7633086 for Margaret Welcsh Sharpenstein. What church records gave her birth date as 1721? Do you have a copy of it? Joyce
Added by Joyce (Niehaus) Rea on Sep 30, 2017 9:32 AM
Bonnie Schulte
Transfer Memorial
Hi Tom -

Thank you for creating the memorial for George E Rogers #19321557. Would you transfer his memorial to me. I am his great-great granddaughter.

Thanks -
Bonnie Schulte #49368116
Added by Bonnie Schulte on Sep 30, 2017 12:15 AM
gary redinger
Internment record
Do yo know if there is still a sextant in charge of burial records for Bethel Frame Church Cemetery?
Is it on line?
There appears to be some burials missing.
Added by gary redinger on Sep 15, 2017 4:28 PM
I. T. Mudgett
RE: gravestone photo
Thank you... I have given you credit for your headstone photo on FamilySearch.
Iris Mudgett
Find A Grave member Hawaii
Added by I. T. Mudgett on Aug 30, 2017 1:33 AM
I. T. Mudgett
gravestone photo

Would you mind if I made a copy of this headstone of David Brainard Dickenson Mem # 17564178 for my family genealogy in FamilySearch ? I would give you credit for the photo.
Thank you,
Iris Mudgett
Find A Grave member, Hawaii
Added by I. T. Mudgett on Aug 22, 2017 3:00 AM
Connell O'Donovan
Memorial No. 15753251
Dear Tom: Can you please disconnect Ann "Covert"(?) Harris from James Harris (Jr.) as his wife. He was, in fact, her son. Her husband was James Harris Sr. Thank you - Connell
Added by Connell O'Donovan on Jun 23, 2017 8:07 AM
Will you transfer the memorial for ancestors past 4 generations to me ?
Added by Dee on Jun 22, 2017 7:33 PM
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