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Barbarella R. O'Daniel (#46901895)
 member for 15 years, 8 months, 28 days
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Bio Photo I am a mother of 2 great boys-Trent (21) & Brett (17), and sister of Adam & Danielle. Shortly after Adam died I was searching the internet for other people who have lost loved ones due to alcohol overdose and I found Find A Grave by accident. Find A Grave has been a great way for me celebrate my loved one's lives and it has been the outlet for me to express my feelings. Adam was a great person who could make any one smile or laugh in a second. His life was cut short and was a great tragedy in our family, no one expected his death. He was with friends, out having a good time and had too much to drink. He was later found passed out and dying of alcohol poisoning. There was nothing that could be done, his organs were shutting down. I wish I could go back and change that night, but I know I can't and no matter how much it hurts I know God has his reasons for what happened. Perhaps you aren't ready yet to have to say goodbye. Perhaps you've thought of things you wish you'd said. Well so have I. For one thing, I have told you not to worry about me. I'm with the Lord in Heaven now; you knew that's where I'd be. I'm sorry that you're feeling sad, for I am so happy now…I've asked the Lord to ease the hurt and comfort you somehow. It's hard in the beginning, but I know you'll make it through. I hope it helps to know that I'll be waiting here for you.**I have only the best intentions when making someone a memorial and if you are a family member that wants a memorial transferred to you/or deleted please just let me know**
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Ellen Myers Marchese
Leaving Messages on Memorials

I am not sure why you think you need to write a message on memorials created by others. You have left a message on all of mine and I don't appreciate it and am trying to have them removed. You should not do this, others may or may not appreciate it. You should contact the owner first for permission. Please do not leave any memos on my memorials.

Ellen Marchese
Added by Ellen Myers Marchese on Aug 09, 2017 9:38 AM
I came across the memorial for your brother and see we have a mutual friend Edda on this site. I used to be active in the forums? Which is where I met her and she sponsored some of my family's memorial. I just want to say what a beautiful memorial you have for Adam. I am so sorry for your loss. It's very hard to lose loved ones, especially when they die too young. Sending you virtual hugs ❤️
Added by Nicmarie on Jan 04, 2017 11:27 AM
Patrick Flahive
Hello, Barbarella!
Hello, Barbarella! Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Patrick Flahive. I felt compelled to send you this message after visiting Adam's memorial page. I must say that I was deeply touched and overcome with many emotions, including tears, after reading his page bio and looking at the photos. Adam must have been a wonderful and loving brother. He was lucky to have a loving sister like you. I was born seven years before Adam, in 1972, but I get a sense that he was the type of person who I would be honored to call my friend. I look forward to meeting Adam in heaven. As you already know, you will be reunited with him someday. May God always bless you and yours. Sincerely, Patrick
Added by Patrick Flahive on Jan 04, 2017 3:19 AM
Lori Farrar
RE: Herbert Raul Santoyo
Im doing ok, its been hard around Christmas, but im still here. Sometimes life stinks, especially when the family members die around the holidays. My dad was my bestest friend, and i miss him dearly, someday i will see him again. Im always glad when u contact me. God bless u and ur family. If u have facebook, u could find me there under Lori Farrar
Added by Lori Farrar on Dec 27, 2016 2:05 PM
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Carrollton Bus Crash Victim
Hello Barbarella,
I would like to just let you know that the memorial for Shannon Rae Fair, who was one of the 27 victims of the Carrollton bus crash, can be found in Johnson City, Washington County in Tennessee. Her memorial number on Find A Grave is #113018530. There is a nice picture of her memorial plaque there.

Best Regards-Kevin
Added by a friend on Dec 16, 2016 11:54 PM
Edda Meinikat
Adam and .... our Friendship
Dearest Barabarella, I have been thinking of you in the past years, wondering how you are and what has happened .... good to see you in here, though I hardly ever come here. After my dad's passing in 2011, it has become a kind of a nightmare to visit virtual graves and leave tokens, as this is still way too painful.

Still, I have not forgotten my old friends, wondering whether you are on facebook. I am under my real name ... please please search me there and send me a note to know that it is you who sends a friend request.

Keep smiling and positive, my dear, sending you love and hugs.
Added by Edda Meinikat on Aug 05, 2016 11:53 PM
Mary C. Carpenter
Frank P. Flick
HI there,
Do you have any more info on Frank P. Flick, buried in Shell Lake, WI?
He is my boyfriend's great grandfather, and little is known about him. We know that Flick was his adopted name, and his real last name was something like "Pheneton". Perhaps that is what the P. stands for in his name on Find A Grave. We don't know how it is spelled.
Thank you so very much for sponsoring this site.
Added by Mary C. Carpenter on Jan 26, 2015 6:48 PM
Lori Farrar
Herbert Raul Santoyo
Thanks for sponsoring my dad's site. We haven't talked for along time, I hope and pray that everything is well with u and ur family. Happy New Years
Added by Lori Farrar on Jan 02, 2015 5:43 PM
GB Howard
I seen where you left a thinking about you today comment and was wondering if you were related?
Added by KC on Jun 26, 2014 11:37 AM
Please keep my family in your prayers following the loss of my uncle Franklin Rogers, who passed away yesterday from cancer. If you have time I would appreciate virtual flowers for his Find A Grave memorial 128627148. I am very blessed to have my friends on this site. Thank you,
Added by Cadmus on Apr 28, 2014 10:08 AM
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