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Cheryl Ayres (#46935923)
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Grave photos I have taken & any family photos I have shared you have my permission to copy.

I have been burnt many times by a person here & there requesting 100's of memorials because they are remotely related & they are not directly related. This is why I changed & started following the guidelines for direct descendancy. Do you believe that these people will transfer them to their direct descendants? I don't think so, a direct descendant comes along & sees the memorial transferred to another, they won't even bother to request a transfer for they would think that the person who maintains the memorial is a direct descendant. I had one person tell me a horror story of his request for his father's memorial & was denied by a person who was related but remotely because they shared the same surname & this person was doing a one surname genealogy, this is what I would call hoarding & the same goes for relatives requesting a transfer for distant relatives. By only transferring to their direct descendants what better way can you connect to relatives you didn't know you had. A quote from findagrave guidelines "The goal is not to "own" every memorial of those to whom you are related. The ultimate goal should be to have meaningful, accurate memorials that honor those who have passed away, regardless of who created the memorial or who maintains it." I do bend the rules in special circumstances such as infants, relatives that did not marry or had no children or if someone is doing genealogy for a person who is a direct descendant, I also go beyond the 4 generation rule for direct descendancy. I am keeping my memorials in safe keeping until a direct descendant comes along to claim them. I am honoring them by keeping them safe for people who really care about them because they are their ancestor & not just a distant relative. I go way beyond just putting names & dates when creating memorials, I research & give more details then the simple gravestone has by adding maiden names, full birth & death dates, linking family, obituaries,biographies, etc. I too have relatives that I am not a direct descendant of but will gladly transfer them to their descendants when they come along. Please consider my point of view, there is a very good reason why I follow the guidelines. When I have had to decline a transfer I always have responded respectfully to the requester why I declined & my thinking on direct descendancy, they completely understand & commend me for my stand in this matter, of course their are a few who do not & have bullied me into transferring them by mean cruel ways, which is wrong. I respect the rights of others opinions,but you should also respect others points of views. I just wanted to let everyone know why I follow the guidelines. I do hope this gives others to be just a little bit more understanding of why the guidelines were put in place, after all the site originally was suppose to be virtual cemeteries & a source to find burial places for relatives & loved ones & not for maintaining their own family trees. I am a genealogist but do not use this site for my family tree, I have my own personal tree elsewhere where it belongs. I have shared my relatives on this site but as I said before I will transfer them to their descendants. It isn't about hoarding with me, it is about what is the right thing to do.

NOTE: MILITARY SERVICE if requested by immediate family & direct descendants, I will add rank to their name. Civil War Buffs & any other War Buffs please refrain from requesting the rank be added, you are not family & have no personal knowledge of these soldiers. I do not assume to know the wishes of the soldier to add rank to their names, only family have this authority. As a stranger I will however respectfully add it to their bio to honor their service. The only other exceptions would be career soldiers or soldiers in a National Cemetery of which rank will be added to their name.

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Glenda Barry
Mary Purkhiser
Hello again,

I think I misunderstood. I thought the cemetery you referred to was in the Chicago area because you mentioned Chicago in your note. Now I think you mean the Highland Chapel Cemetery in Indiana. I will change the burial site. Thank you.

Added by Glenda Barry on Oct 16, 2017 5:55 PM
Glenda Barry
Mary Purkhiser
Hi Cheryl,

I cannot find a Mary or Marie Purkhiser on Find A Grave, with these dates of birth and death. I also tried to edit the burial and I searched for a Highland Chapel Cemetery in Illinois, and could not find one. I found 3 different Highland Cemeteries but no Highland Chapel. For now I will make a note on her memorial with the information that you sent. Thank you.

Added by Glenda Barry on Oct 16, 2017 5:39 PM
James Gunn
Joseph William Gund/Gunn
Thanks much, Cheryl. You are correct regarding the divorce of Joshua and Mary. They are different people. However, the other records seems to be correct, so the mystery regarding the surname remains. I suspect that Charles abandoned the family and Joseph never really knew him and felt no particular desire to keep his name.

I learned that Charles and his brother Adelbert went to live with their grandparents in Wisconsin before the 1870 census, which shows them there. I got this information from Mildred Eleanor Gunn Hanson, a descendant (via my Grandfather, both of them were working on our family history 60 years ago when I was a child, and I inherited letters, etc). Mildred said Charles married, but the two later divorced and Charles left the area and was never heard from again.

I removed the copy of the divorce document from the discussion in Tree. ( I'll also remove it from my tree in Ancestry.
Added by James Gunn on Oct 14, 2017 7:24 AM
James Gunn
Joseph William Gund/Gunn
Find A Grave Memorial# 142621193

Hello, Cheryl. Joseph's surname is an interesting problem. A number of documents give it as GUND. However, some also give it as GUNN, and it looks clear that his parents were Charles Joshua Gunn and Mary Ellen Jones, and their surnames are clear in their marriage and divorce records. Also the original Federal Census document for 1930 clearly gives GUNN as Joseph's surname. See discussion of this at:

I have noted that GUND is written on the tombstones of several members of Joseph's family. Apparently, the family adopted the GUND version of the name.

Do what you think best, but please at least mention that Joseph's true surname is an issue.
Added by James Gunn on Oct 13, 2017 7:20 AM
Kristin Schwingle
Hi there, are you related to Helen Thelma Jett SChwingle?
Added by Kristin Schwingle on Oct 06, 2017 10:16 AM
Currie Cemetery Bath/Beechwood NB
Hi Cheryl,

Just a quick question, did you create the aforementioned cemetery on line, or was it possibly either Helen Currie or Eileen Lentz that have created memorials for there? If it was you, I would also like to send you the true GPS Coordinates as the one that is on it is off by enough to cause confusion.I spent a fair amount of time spinning around in the general area looking for it until I knocked on a neighbor's door. Once the correct GPS is listed it will be a piece of cake for anyone else. I will caution any of those who drive down the potato field access path to it just to be careful if it is a wet period. If dry it is a piece of cake to do.


Added by Anonymous on Oct 06, 2017 5:37 AM
Ann Koch
Elmer Fletcher
Cheryl, re. your input, I'm not related at all, so it would be easier for me to transfer Elmer's listing to you . . . then you can keep or delete whatever text or document that you think is appropriate. Do you agree? I look forward to hearing from you. Ann Koch
Added by Ann Koch on Oct 04, 2017 9:29 PM
Martin Burrell
Ellsworth John Davis - FiAG# 99330328

I have added a bio for him. I sent you apart of his Washington State Death Certificate for insert. Sent EDIT's concerning his Birth & Death place-dates.
I hope to see them included.

Thank you for your work, Martin Burrell
Added by Martin Burrell on Oct 04, 2017 12:25 PM
Joan Pagel Holzschuh
I have recently submitted edits on some of the graves that you maintain. Thanks
Added by Joan Pagel Holzschuh on Sep 25, 2017 7:25 PM
Joan Pagel Holzschuh
I have recently submitted edits on some of the graves that you maintain. Thanks
Added by Joan Pagel Holzschuh on Sep 25, 2017 7:25 PM
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