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D. D. Thompson (#47000548)
 member for 9 years, 5 months, 2 days
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Bio Photo Hello!

Why I joined Find-a-Grave
I joined this site as a way to honor people who have passed away and to share the family history information that can be found on grave markers. With only one exception, I am related to every person represented by the memorials I currently manage.

Why I scaled back on Find-a-Grave
Find-A-Grave is a great resource and I appreciate it and the many wonderful volunteers who have put so much time into helping others. But, a fundamental flaw, in my view, is the "contributor controls all" approach to the memorials. Some of my relatives memorials are "held hostage" by contributors who refuse to allow edits by actively declining all requests. A better model would be to eliminate "autocratic control" of memorials and make the site more collaborative. I contributed more than 10,000 memorials but I have given up control of most of them as I simply do not believe that control of their content should be my decision.

SSN Death Index: what it doesn't mean
The SSN Death Index provides information based on a person's social security account. But it does not provide "place of death." Instead, it provides the location of a person's last known residence. Death location can be obtained from a death certificate or possibly an obituary. So please do not provide a "place of death" based on the "location" reported by the SSN Death Index.

Photo Tips
Often it is impossible to take a gravestone photo that shows both the entire stone and also results in readable information. I recommend deciding what you're trying to do: if you want the grave marker to be readable, zoom in close so that the text is as large as possible. If you want the whole marker to be visible, zoom out, but don't waste a lot of vertical or horizontal space showing bare dirt or grass (one patch of soil or grass looks like another). A great approach is to take two photos: one showing the whole marker and another that provides a close-up of the text. I recommend setting your camera to the maximum resolution available and then using photo editing software to crop away unneeded parts of the photo and resizing the remaining image so that it does not exceed Find-a-Grave's standards. Oh, and unless you're taking photos at night, or the marker is in part shade, part sun, you should avoid using a flash. All the flash does is wash out your photo and, often, create an unpleasant bounce-back of light in one spot.

And about those digital date/time stamps...imagine Ansel Adams's "Moon and Half Dome" - but with the orange digits "3/13/1960 1:28 P.M." plastered across the front! Those digital dates are ugly and unnecessary "features" considering the date/time is already encoded into the "meta tags" found in the photo properties.

My photographs
Sorry to get into legalese, but at one time, a find-a-grave member duplicated a memorial I created, then stole my photo and posted it on their duplicate and on some other memorials.

Per US Copyright law, as the original photographer of the grave marker photos I've added to Find-a-Grave, I am the copyright holder and the sole arbiter of the allowable uses of my photos.

My photos are licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 United States License

What the license means is that I am granting you permission to use my photos for any purpose you wish but if you want to re-publish a photo on another website or in a book or periodical, you may do so only if you give credit to me as the original source and copyright holder. A good way to do that is to say: "Photo Courtesy of D.D. Thompson, Find-a-Grave Volunteer." You could also include a hyperlink to the Find-a-Grave memorial where you found the photo, but that's optional.

Since I spent my own time and money to drive to graveyards and take these photos, some form of acknowledgment of where the photo came from is only fair. Thanks!
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Messages left for D. D. Thompson (312)[Leave Message]
Susan Ming
RE: Duplicate
Thanks for the tip. I'll try that.
Added by Susan Ming on Jul 12, 2017 6:54 PM
Susan Ming
RE: Duplicate
It's my pleasure. I'm running into problems with contributors not responding to my edit requests. Do you have any ideas?
Added by Susan Ming on Jul 12, 2017 5:23 PM
Susan Ming
Thank you for adding your photo to my memorial but after more thought, I'd like to delete my memorial and continue with yours. You originated it which I greatly appreciate. I can ask Patty to update or transfer management.

Do you mind?
Added by Susan Ming on Jul 12, 2017 2:27 PM
Susan Ming
Duplicate Record
Carolyn Taylor was my auntie. I didn't find your memorial until after I had created a duplicate. Most likely I didn't find it due to the spelling error of her first name.
I asked Patty C for assistance and this was her reply:

"Normally the original is the first to stay, but I am usually more generous than that.

This memorial was transferred to me for maintenance from another contributor who did not want to continue as much. I emailed him to move his gravestone photo so it won't be lost and he will retain credit for his photo. When he does that, I will delete my memorial so the duplicate will be gone."

I have no preference whether I delete mine or you delete the original. I'd appreciate your assistance in correcting this.

Thank you!
Added by Susan Ming on Jul 12, 2017 12:32 PM
Leon & Jan Dwerlkotte
Edna Leona Kelling Wallen
Hi, My husband and I recently became members to Find A Grave. In doing so, I found my grandmother, Edna Leona Kelling Wallen. You had contributed her death certificate. My question is, where did you come about this? My mom was 13 days old when her mother (Edna) passed away. Both my mom, Beulah (Wallen) Cargill (82 years old) and her only living sister, Ruby (Wallen) Meyers (89 years old) have never seen this death certificate before. The death certificate is not correct, according to my mom and my aunt, she was never called 'Mary'. That was my great grandmothers name. Mary Wallen is also buried in the Hartley Cemetery, Cedar County, MO; next to her husband H.H. (Henry Hall) Wallen and 2nd wife, Lee Ora Wallen. I'm sure we will never know why the incorrect name was placed on her death certificate. My mom contacted Mo. Vital Statistics in Jefferson City; to see what it would take to correct her death certificate. They informed her, that she would have to have a court order, due to the doctor who signed the certificate is also deceased and the funeral home no longer exists. Thank you for adding it to her page. Any information about my grandma is very valuable. It means a lot to my mom, since she never knew her. I have added a photo of Edna and my grandpa, Walter to the page. You can contact us at: Thank you for all you have done. Jan
Added by Leon & Jan Dwerlkotte on Feb 12, 2017 5:52 AM
Rebecca Sheehan-Plotkin
Hazel Budden #55710737
I enjoy reading the old newspapers at the Library of Congress website. Today, I ran across a lovely wedding announcement for Hazel Reaney and W. H. Budden in the Gazette-Times (Heppner, OR) of 11/30/1916. It sounds like it was a very lovely affair. There are a couple of relatives mentioned in the article. I have attached a link, if you would like to see it.
Added by Rebecca Sheehan-Plotkin on Nov 30, 2016 2:15 PM
The Dark Poet
RE: Thank you!
You are very welcome. :)
Added by The Dark Poet on Oct 31, 2016 11:26 AM
Monta Maley
Hello, I am the great great grand daughter of Monta Maley, thank you for finding her grave and sharing her grave. My father still keeps her Medal of Honor awarded to her by President Lincoln himself.
Added by Kim on Jun 30, 2016 8:05 PM
doug wesson

Could I please get the parent status changed on the memorial above?

Added by doug wesson on May 16, 2016 4:24 PM
Laura Martinez
Nancy Shaw Ford
Your Find a Grave profile for Nancy Shaw Ford includes an initial C (Nancy C Shaw Ford). Have you seen an initial C with this name? I believe on her grave marker it says Nancy S Ford (S for Shaw?) Just curious if you have a middle name for her. Thank you!
Added by Laura Martinez on Apr 13, 2016 4:43 PM
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