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Carole Elizabeth Nurmi Cummings # 47178231 (#47178231)
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I started this journey trying to find my roots and discover my lines. I was involved in an accident that caused me to be paralyzed. I went in for a hysterectomy and the epidural needle used for anesthesia cut the nerves to my right leg! I went from traveling a week every month running nonstop seeing new sights to staying home traversing with a walker! I had to find a hobby since I no longer could drive long distances and adventure as I once did. For two years I cried wondering, "Why Me?". Of all the people I knew, I was the one person who could not sit still for two seconds...always on the go was I. One day as I was lamenting my lot, I looked up at a photo of my great grandmother Elizabeth Barrow Wylde on my wall. It looked a little dusty. I grabbed the walker, found a dust cloth, and started dusting. On the back was a very old penned family tree. It piqued my interest. It started my new found love of genealogy.

Once I started, several family members have jumped in to help with this discovery. We have family members well into their 90s joining this search, relating their stories and encouraging the college aged children to help the quest. This is a family account.

There is much excitement in trying to put the pieces together to form this wonderful puzzle called FAMILY. Thanks to all of you for helping me in my efforts. I truly DO appreciate each and every one of you! This genealogical community is a family as well...

Recently I have learned how to do links... I decided to add links to my parents and brother who died. I was blessed with a wonderful mother and father who taught us to serve others. They instilled in each of us that desire to be helpful. They taught us to be kind to others. They wanted each of us to care for our fellow man. Elizabeth Barrow Haring was my wonderful Mother, and my father was John Albert Nurmi. My dear brother who died OH so early was Lawrence Albert Nurmi ...

My second great grandfather died under unusal circumstances. Quite an interesting read. Here is the article about Colonel J. Smith Haring.

We have all been touched by a neighbor. Many do leave an imprint on our lives. I was particularly blessed with an older couple who helped me grow up. They were Albert and Inez Balme. I am not sure how they managed to stay sane with a inquisitive little girl like me living next door! This memorial tells a bit of a story about me.

Here is a Dear Dear friend of mine who died when she was 11 years old. Virginia Lee McLeod. She went away for a 4th of July weekend on the West Coast of Florida only to contract encephalitis.

HUGS Of appreciation sent your way for remembering them!

If you want a transfer of any family member I would be happy to transfer that memorial your way. I do not go by the four generation rule! Family is matter if it is 50 years or 500 years old! A direct line does not matter. Cousins and Uncles and Aunts have always played a large role in any family.

I will transfer memorials to you if you are helping someone else with their family tree...many are not computer wizards and need our help. I often will link together family members and help those related set up findagrave accounts. The entire reason we are here is to help others. I am a true believer in service.

If I can help anyone with your family tree, I am more than happy to help you do the search! I am a member of and have honed a skill when searching for relatives. There are stories to be told, experiences to be shared, and family roots to be discovered! I would be thrilled to search for documents pertaining to your family!

There is GREAT joy and satisfaction when serving others. Many times we find ourselves when we are in the midst of serving others! My mother always was a proponent of the concept that idle hands get into I work work work...wink!

Though life is evanescent and soon passes, our thoughts and memories are locked in our mind forever. Remember those who have gone before us.

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Wow! You're fast! Thanks again for all your help.

As far as the Berdan's - I have no idea how they are connected.

RE: Catherine - Lafayette Cemetery was closed and remains were supposed to be properly moved. Unfortunately, many years later over 30 trenches, with several hundred coffins per trench, were discovered.

I submitted her maiden name, and added John Wm. as her husband and their son.
Added by dlh on Oct 18, 2017 10:14 PM
Heaney, Francis Wm.
"Frank" died in PA. I tried cutting and pasting the death cert & it won't let me. It won't let me "attach" a document either. If you want me to forward something, send me an e-mail address.

Gertrude - when searching I found an Anna Gertrude Heaney who married Thos. Ed. Leavner. I also found either Anna or Gertrude (I forget which) that married into the Heaney name. I didn't keep notes on her.

Added by dlh on Oct 18, 2017 7:46 PM
RE: Cherry hello.
Hi, again. I wasn't sure if this was a family tree you were working on, or just something you transcribed, so I didn't know how much info you might want. Here's what I know. I'm going from memory, trying to get this out quickly - hopefully I'll keep it straight.

My cousin contacted the cemetery for information. They required a written request to release information. After they received her request, they looked up info & told her that John buried with those noted in your information.

Now, here's where things get shady. I haven't seen all the documentation yet, but according to my cousin, John W. was living with his wife, Ruth Vanderbeck, and her parents Cornelius & Margaret Jones Venderbeck. Also living there were their children Ruth, Gertrude (Mom's sister's name was also Gertrude), and son Francis (Frank) William Heaney OB 11/2/1954). Now comes the unsavory part. Again, this is very strongly suspected, but unconfirmed. It appears John Wm. Heaney had TWO families - one in Brooklyn and one in another boro (of course, Brooklyn (Kings), Queens, Staten Island & the Bronx were not considered NYC until 1898). Anyway, born about the same time as Ruth was Harry Heaney, whose mother was Catherine Calhoun. Later they had another son, John W.

Now, Census records show kids living with grandparents & no mention of Dad, John Wm.. Then we see John Wm, Catherine Calhoun (allegedly Heaney), Frank, Harry & John living in the Phila area. When Catherine dies, she is buried at a Philly cemetery a few blocks from their home. Later, when her "husband", John Wm., dies, he is buried, not a few blocks away with his wife, but a few hours away at a cemetery in Hackensack (this per death cert which did NOT mention cemetery. My cousin called all cemeteries she could find in Hackensack & got negative replies from all except Maple . As noted, when they replied to her written request, they said John Wm. Heaney was there), so it seems very likely it is the same John Wm. Right now, were working on confirming everything and checking to be sure birth dates for all the children are correct - maybe they don't ovelap as much as it seems). John Wm. died in Darby, PA. Death cert (and census) are on, but if you can't find them, I can get them to you (I'm not on Ancestry, but my sister is).

John William Heaney, father, husband of Ruth, son of Michael (mother unknown). Buried in Hackensack, NJ
DOB 2/26/1826 DOD 1/4/1906

Francis William Heaney - Hackensack cemetery.
DOB 11/2/54 DOD 12/4/30 father: John, mother: unknown

Maybe some of this will help you.

Added by dlh on Oct 18, 2017 2:54 PM
Find A Grave Memorial# 177973040
From his will Peter H. Hopper had only one wife Jane (Demarest) who d.

#1151 On 22 Dec 1831, "Pete Hopper of Small Lots m. Jane Demarest of Saddle River [Twp.]." at Hack.Tr.RCh.(per FHL Zabriskie film). She was the dau. of Samuel C. Demarest and Martha Van Voorhees, b. 16 Nov 1810, and bap. at Schr.RDCh. 25 Dec 1810, as "Jannetje, dau. of Samuel C. Demarest and Neetje or Meetje Voorhesen." (Schr.RDCh. II - bap. #150) "Jane Demarest, wife of Peter H. Hopper," d. 28 Jun 1883,* aged 72y-8m* or 27 Jun 1883, aged 74y in Ridgewood of nervous prostration (NJVR 1882-83. 5 - H-80); bur. in the Demarest plot in Hackensack Hackensack, (Plot 108A).

Don't know who Rachel d. June 1883 wife of Peter was, but since Jane also d. June 1883 may be the same? No record of a Rachel Hopper death 1882-1884 NJ. Ree
Added by ReeT on Oct 18, 2017 1:55 PM
RE: Hi there
Seeing the page helps me understand. I originally thought it was saying Ruth H. Heaney was the child of Richard & Hannah E. Berdan-Corona. Looking at you picture, it appears that was just the entry from the next line.

Thank you again for your help.

Added by dlh on Oct 18, 2017 8:05 AM
RE: Hi there
Thank you very much. I appreciate your help.
Added by dlh on Oct 18, 2017 7:34 AM
RE: Cheery Hello
Yes, please. I'm looking for Heaneys. Possibly other females buried nearby with other surnames are Heaneys. I understand John Wm. Heaney, husband of Ruth Vanderbeck, is nearby. They also have children, Ruth, Gertrude & Frances Wm. Hopefully I can find some hints from your paperwork.

Are you able to post through here, or do you need/prefer an e-mail address, or fax number?

Thanks for you help.

Added by dlh on Oct 17, 2017 5:08 PM
Evelen Sneden

You said you could provide a copy of the obituary of my Great Grandmother Evelen Sneden? That would be fantastic.
She and Albert were of the old Rockland families that ran the Ferry prior to the Tappan Zee Bridge.

Thank you in advance.


Ed Fredrick
Added by Fredrick on Oct 16, 2017 3:52 PM
RE: Have added Hessie
That is amazing... good work!!
Added by Elizablack on Oct 16, 2017 2:37 PM
Question about memorial you created
Hi. I found two memorials you created for Ruth H. Heaney & Gertrude Heaney, who are buried in Maple Grove Park Cemetery in Hackensack, NJ. I realize this may not be a relative, simply a memorial you created, but I thought I'd write anyway.

I have been doing some genealogy work along with other family members. My cousin believes Ruth & Gertrude are related to us & I thought I'd see if you had any information about them. I do see a note on Ruth's page "Note: Burial Ackerman Transcriptions Page 41 (child of Richard & Hannah E. Berdan) (Corona)," but I'm not sure if this means Ruth married a Heaney and her maiden name was Berdan, or what this (or the Ackerman Transcripts) refers to.

My cousin said John W. Heaney (who is NOT on Maple Grove's Findagrave page) is their father. He is buried right next to (within a few plots of) Ruth & Gertrude, so this seems possible, but your notes confuse me. Also, "our" Gertrude has a different date of birth. If this is a relative of yours, can you provide any info about proof of the DOB? Thank you.
Added by dlh on Oct 16, 2017 2:37 PM
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