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BonnieGober12 (#47204700)
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Bio Photo Retired legal secretary. Retirement was not my cup of tea, so I went to work part-time at my local library and ended up staying with them 5 years. Have been working on my family tree since the mid1980s. Find A Grave was recommended to me by an archivist in Lauderdale County, Alabama and I find it an added bonus in my geneaology tracking.

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We are the chosen. In each family there is one who seems called to find the ancestors. To put flesh on their bones and make them live again. To tell the family story and to feel that somehow they know and approve. Doing genealogy is not a cold gathering of facts but, instead, breathing life into all who have gone before. We are the story tellers of the tribe. All tribes have one. We have been called, as it were, by our genes. Those who have gone before cry out to us: Tell our story. So, we do. In finding them, we somehow find ourselves. How many graves have I stood before now and cried? I have lost count. How many times have I told the ancestors, "You have a wonderful family; you would be proud of us.". How many times have I walked up to a grave and felt somehow there was love there for me? I cannot say. It goes beyond just documenting facts. It goes to who I am, and why I do the things I do. It goes to seeing a cemetery about to be lost forever to weeds and indifference and saying - I can't let this happen. The bones here are bones of my bone and flesh of my flesh. It goes to doing something about it. It goes to pride in what our ancestors were able to accomplish. How they contributed to what we are today. It goes to respecting their hardships and losses, their never giving in or giving up, their resoluteness to go on and build a life for their family. It goes to deep pride that the fathers fought and some died to make and keep us a nation. It goes to a deep and immense understanding that they were doing it for us. It is of equal pride and love that our mothers struggled to give us birth, without them we could not exist, and so we love each one, as far back as we can reach. That we might be born who we are. That we might remember them. So we do. With love and caring and scribing each fact of their existence, because we are they and they are the sum of who we are. So, as a scribe called, I tell the story of my family. It is up to that one called in the next generation to answer the call and take my place in the long line of family storytellers. That is why I do my family genealogy, and that is what calls those young and old to step up and restore the memory or greet those who we had never known before."

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Gober Family Cemetery
Do you happen to know the physical address of said cemetery in Commerce, Georgia.?
Added by Jessica on Aug 31, 2017 8:21 PM
David Stumpf
RE: Elizabeth W Avett
Elizabeth was married three times:

1) to Watters; first name not identified yet
2) James Arrendal Gober 7 Aug 1845; Fayette Co., TN
3) Isaac Ellis Clark 1864; Fayette Co., TN

She appears in neighboring Tipton Co with her third husband in the 1870 ( 1880 census (

Isaac Clark had three (maybe 5) wives, Elizabeth being the second. Issac died in 1901 and is buried at Leigh's Chapel in Tipton Co. as is Elizabeth's brother William H Avitts. But I did not find Elizabeth's grave there. Isaac's third marriage was in 1875, which suggests Elizabeth died between 1864 and 1875.

See Find A Grave Memorial# 137870702
Added by David Stumpf on Aug 29, 2017 12:07 AM
David Stumpf
RE: Elizabeth Avett Watters Gober
I have a copy of Thomas Avitt's will, copied at the Fayette Co., TN Court House. It's in a PDF document now. I am happy to email it. It clearly establishes him as father of William H Avitt, Elizabeth Gober and Nancy M Simmons. The slaves are also named. One of them, Colemen Avett acquired significant land holdings in Tipton Co., TN after emancipation.

William is buried at Leigh's Chapel in Tipton Co: Find A Grave Memorial# 159994786. Thomas Avitt and his son in law, Rev William P Simmons, previously lived in Anson Co., NC.

David A Stumpf, MD, PhD
Added by David Stumpf on Aug 28, 2017 11:49 PM
David Stumpf
Elizabeth W Avett

Elizabeth married James A Gober 7 Aug 1845. She is the brother of my ancestor William H Avett and daughter of Thomas Avett, Jr.

I am trying to locate her date and place of death.


David A Stumpf, MD, PhD
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Added by David Stumpf on Aug 25, 2017 11:26 PM
Christine Belleci
Mary Bertie Gober Russell
Hi Bonnie,
I'm starting the research for my family and noticed that you entered information for Fay Gober which I'm assuming you are related. My maternal great grandmother was Mary Bertie Gober Russell. I've seen information on Ancestry about Fay Gober. Some say that Mary is his sister and some his mother. I was wondering if you had any information about the Gober family you could pass a long. Thanks so much...Christine
Added by Christine Belleci on May 09, 2017 10:11 PM
RE: Nora Viola aka lola Clemmons Tinker
Re: Mintie Clay's mother. I show her mather as Sarah Jane Canard whose father was David Allen Canard & Lyddia Bundy & that she married James M. Clay before she married William H. Forhand. I do not know where the name Sarah J. Pennington comes in. I am curious about that. Please send me any information you have on that. Thanks.
Added by barbara on Apr 13, 2017 4:51 PM
Buddy Ingram
RE: Memorial# 36798939
Thanks for confirming that for me. They were my Great Grand Parents on my Grandfather Ingram's side. I'm having trouble determining who Thomas's mother and father were. I think his mother was Julie but I can't find anything definite on either or. Do you have any info on that?
Buddy Ingram
Added by Buddy Ingram on Jan 17, 2017 9:58 PM
Buddy Ingram
Memorial# 36798939
Anne Ingram, Memorial# 36798939 was my Great-Grandmother. I see where you left flowers on her memorial quite a while back. do you have any info on her?
Added by Buddy Ingram on Jan 15, 2017 8:59 PM
Sharon Williams
John Floyd Jr
First of all, is your email address still what you have listed on your Find A Grave profile? I sent you a couple of emails yesterday.
I am asking now if Margaret Richardson Mayo is the same person as Mourning Mayo. I have, in my tree, that John Floyd married Mourning Mayo in 1782 VA.
Also, is it possible that William is the son of John Christopher Harbin who is the father of Nathaniel?
Added by Sharon Williams on Jan 12, 2017 11:22 AM
Sharon Williams
RE: John Mayo, son of James 1711
Thank you. I didn't know Elizabeth's mother's name and I showed that John had died in Virginia. That was leading me astray. Here are the children that I have for them. Please correct me if Im wrong. I have some children listed who aren't in his will (Hannah and Elizabeth). If you dont have an explanation for that, I will delete them.
Richardson Mayo * 17611844
John Mayo * 1762
Thompson Mayo * 17621843
Sarah Mayo * 1764
Mourning Mayo * 17661850
Elizabeth Mayo 17701825
Hannah Mayo 17721825
Nancy Scott Mayo * 17871855
Have I asked you if you know of a Nancy Mayo born about 1770? I have her married to John S Harbin b. 1782. They also lived in Fairfield, SC until they moved to Georgia after 1816.
Added by Sharon Williams on Jan 09, 2017 6:24 PM
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