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Calmly Searching (#47240541)
 member for 7 years, 3 months, 14 days
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Bio Photo "When you remember me, it means that you have carried something of who I am with you, that I have left some mark of who I am in who you are. It means that even after I die, you can still see my face and hear my voice and speak to me in your heart." Fredrick Beekner


TRANSFERS: I do not go by strict family guidelines, so tell me how you are related, or whatever the situation may be, and I may transfer... if that person is NOT my relative. I will no longer transfer MY relatives.



Thank you in advance for the many updates and links that I receive almost daily for my memorials. I strive to keep up with them.

Before accepting information in edits now, there is a great effort made to confirm the information you send. One edit sent to me, may take 4 to 6 hours of my time searching on ancestry and other genealogy sites to complete. I gather the records for said edit, gain knowledge of the family, contact other contributors to link family members that I am able to find, so that the entire family can be linked on any given memorial.

Please make sure your information is accurate, so that I can accept it. There are a lot of people being linked to those they do not belong to due to so many "same names". It is an easy mistake, I know, as it has happened to me in the past. When possible, follow your loved one from birth to death, check your dates and locations lived to make sure it is the correct memorial.

Know that I appreciate your time and effort. Please, be respectful of my time and effort. If I have made an error, sign in to Find A Grave, and send me an edit. If you have documentation of your information, include that as well.

Find a Grave is kept up by a United community of genealogists, historians, (beginners and experts) all of which of course, are VOLUNTEERS. We do not get paid for what we do here.

Creating memorials and fulfilling photo requests is a labor of love for me. If you appreciate something I've added, please pay it forward! If you receive "freely", give "freely"

Please click the "Edit" tab on the individual memorial, then the "Suggest A Correction" link on the specific memorial you would like me to update or transfer. ***PLEASE DO NOT SEND CORRECTIONS AS PUBLIC MESSAGES***
Transfer requests should be requested on the "edit" tab. Include your relationship, and your contributor name and number.

Keep in mind, those of us who list the memorials are only human, sometimes we make mistakes, let us know,and Never forget: We Are Volunteers. VOLUNTEERS. Our time and work are given freely.

The quote of Fredrick Beekner is borrowed from my cousin Mike Perkins memorial.

I am of the belief that "no one is truly gone, until they are forgotten." Phyllis Behrendt 2008

So with all this said, I will continue to visit cemeteries and take photos of graves, and hope someday to find more of my family,and maybe some of yours. Until then I will remain.... Calmly Searching..........

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John Joseph, Carine & Baby Mcleod
Thank you very much for the photos of their grave,

Added by N.E. on May 25, 2017 5:16 AM
Re: Robert L. Maynes
Thank you for creating the memorial for our friend, Bob Maynes. He was a very good man and a very good friend.

Your kindness and hard work are deeply appreciated.
Added by myfamilyseeker on May 14, 2017 12:59 AM
Louise (Bruman) Dice
RE: Hauck Photo
Thank you for the heads up. I will check back, never know what I will find. Thanks!!!
Added by Louise (Bruman) Dice on May 13, 2017 2:59 PM
Georgia Z
Meyer Graves
Thanks so much for taking the grave photos and also for adding the 2 children's memorials.
Added by Georgia Z on May 08, 2017 12:06 PM
Judy Grove
Meyers Headstone
Thank you so much for taking the time to take the photo of my 6th cousin's headstone. Your efforts are very much appreciated.
Kind Regards
Judy Grove (nee Coward)
Queensland, Australia
Added by Judy Grove on May 07, 2017 3:14 PM
Jenny family marker photos
Thank you for the marker photos. It confirms someone made a link error which needs correcting. Very much appreciate your work!
Added by mjshistory on May 06, 2017 5:59 PM
Debbie Ayala
Melvin Forest and his wives
Dear Phyllis,

Melvin Forest #55693030 married 2 women both with the nicknames of Lucy. Melvin shares a double stone with his 2nd wife,the recently deceased Mary Luisa #178764678 born in 1928.

You accidentally placed photos of that stone onto the memorial of his 1st wife Lucille Martin Forest # 89769989 born in 1924.Just a slight oops.

Added by Debbie Ayala on May 06, 2017 2:07 PM
Louise (Bruman) Dice
Hauck Photo
Thank you so much for the photo. I really appreciate your VOLUNTEER time!! Louise
Added by Louise (Bruman) Dice on May 05, 2017 8:31 PM
Debbie Ayala
Elmer Dunton #77610563
Dear Phyllis,

Thank you so much for taking the picture of Elmer's stone. You've solved a great mystery for me. As I'm sure you noticed, the current birth/death dates would have made Elmer over 200 years old. Haha. I so badly wanted it corrected but couldn't suggest one without knowing the dates. I see you've already sent an edit request. The dates are so legible too.

Once again, Thank you.

Added by Debbie Ayala on May 02, 2017 5:19 AM
Jim Davenport
Phyllis, Good to hear from you again, I have transferred her memorial to your care. I have Parkinson's Disease and can no longer wander through the cemeteries taking photos.

Added by Jim Davenport on Apr 28, 2017 7:58 AM
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