John Westley Broome Jr.

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John Westley Broome Jr.

Birth
Abbeville, Abbeville County, South Carolina, USA
Death
9 Mar 2018 (aged 61)
Wilmington, New Hanover County, North Carolina, USA
Burial
Stedman, Cumberland County, North Carolina, USA Add to Map
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Published Obituary:
John Westley Broome Jr., 61 ,life partner of Jeff Lee Hubbard, went to be with the Lord on Friday, March 9, 2018.
Mr. Broome was born in Abbeville, South Carolina to Elizabeth C. Broome and the late John Westley Broome, Sr. He attended East Carolina University. Mr. Broome was multi- faceted in his work experience. He held many important positions and brought his love of life into everything he did. He was a loving son, brother, uncle, and partner. He was treasured by all who knew him.
Surviving, in addition to his partner, are his mother, Elizabeth Broome, and brother, William Broome (wife Mary Curtis) and two nieces, Ashley and Hannah Broome. He is also survived by a very special aunt, Juanita Broadwell and cousin, Debra Calhoun along with many other important family members.
A Celebration of Life Service will be held Saturday March 17, 2018 at twelve noon at the Vogler's Funeral and Cremation Service Chapel, 2951 Reynolda Road, Winston-Salem, NC. Friends are cordially invited to a reception with the family following the service at the funeral home.

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Eulogy delivered by Jeff Hubbard
John Broome , Jr. Memorial Service
Winston-Salem, NC
March 17, 2018

I met John in the Summer of 1982 at The Power Company Gay Bar. I had just moved back home to Winston - Salem from New York City. Unlike Winston-Salem of today, there were no gay organizations , gay churches or social groups; only the gay bar.

My eyes caught his from across the room. I thought he was the best looking man I had ever seen. I asked him to dance - he agreed -" It's Raining Men" by the Weathergirls was playing. We always considered it, "Our Song" . We chatted until closing time & I asked if he we could meet me there again the next night.
He agreed. I could hardly wait until the next day.

I was there when the doors opened - One Hour Passed , Two Hours Passed - I was pretty sure I had been stood up - finally at about 11:30PM - he walked in the door - my eyes caught his - he smiled & I think we both knew at that moment. In a matter of weeks we were a couple. We both were living with our parents, so in September we moved into our first home.

That Thanksgiving John invited both of our parents over to meet each other. I remember it as a pleasant day.
I liked John's parents they were really good people. I was fortunate to have them for in-laws. Mrs. Broome seems like my own mother, esp. since the death of mine.

On December 19th of that year,1982, John & I were married. As an Episcopalian, I wanted a full communion service. I asked the Rev. Dr. Dudley Calhoun, my minister at St. Paul's for advice. At that time he could not marry us, however with his & Rev. Clark Thompson's from Salem College's help we found a Unitarian minister who would marry us. Several of you here were present that day. Many of our older friends from then have already passed. We spent our honeymoon in New York City & John met a few of my friends from my 2 years there - all of who are now gone - many in the AIDS crisis.

I went to work for my Uncle Lewis Hubbard selling real estate & John managed several mall stores & eventually went to work for Wachovia. These were good productive years. We would buy a house, fix it up, sell it & buy another.
Until,
Jeff caught "Victorian Madness" & bought the 1894 Hadley Mansion in Mt. Airy. It could have been a good investment - but Jeff of course, had to live in it. So we joined the social whirl of Mt. Airy. That Christmas the house was on the Preservation Society's home tour & John arranged a grand cocktail party for a couple hundred friends & business associates. I was so proud of him. If you ever seen the movie "The Money Pit", - it could have been written about us. We moved back to Winston -Salem much poorer. The best thing we found in Mt. Airy, was our housekeeper, Sybil - she became like a mother to John. Until her death a few years ago, they talked on the phone weekly, sometimes more. Her family are still good friends today, as are several others from our Mt. Airy days.

There were several more productive years.

Until
Jeff caught "Bar Madness" . I bought a bar downtown & we went into the bar business. John worked the bar from 5pm - 8pm weekdays. Me at nights. We moved to a loft apartment across the street. They were great years. We were a hit and starting to make some money and we met a lot of people, who became lifelong friends, many who are here today. John was a great bartender with his stories & laughter. Everyone called him "Miss Broome".
Some of his favorite expressions:
Well - You just think you can piss on velvet don't you
Miss Otis regrets"" which meant it weren't gonna happen.
Well - You can take your little happy ass right on down the road
JEFF - Would you please quit being such a drama queen

One awful night a drunk driver left the bar & killed 3 teenagers in a car wreck.
There was not nearly enough insurance & we lost the bar & all it's corporate assets.
I vowed I would never serve alcohol again. As to their deaths, seldom is the day that I don't think of it.

Living across the street from the now vacant and For Sale Bar was not going to work. So I talked John into moving to Myrtle Beach. I found a job 1st & then got them to hire John soon after. They were mostly productive years - I was able to take my mother to Europe twice & in 2002 we went to New York City and Venice for our 20th anniversary. It was wonderful - It was the dead of winter - not a tourist to be found anywhere - we had a suite facing the Grand Canal & We were the only guests in the hotel for 2 of our 3 nights. My best memory of that 2nd honeymoon is having a wonderful dinner & several bottles of wine. We walked arm and arm for what seemed like hours.

In July of 2007, my mother who was suffering with increasing dementia came to live with us. Our home was a walkup in Myrtle Beach & so my brother let me have his one level beach house in Shallotte to care for her. I still live there today. That November my brother died with aggressive cancer & he & my nieces left me the house for caring for mama. In 2008, mother had a stroke & became bedridden. I worked as an auditor & John quit his job to help me care for her. His strength is all that kept me sane - in What was downward spiral of depression. There were several times I broke down & cried in his arms. Mom died in 2009.

After moms death,

John took the housekeeping manager's job at the same hotel I was auditor at.
About 5 years ago I went to work as a Supervisor I still hold that position today. When a job opening came up several years ago I hired John to be my right hand guy - like he had been our whole life - This past year we won first place in the state & John had a lot to do with that.- I like my job - & I think John liked his also - these last years for the most part were good. - but how do you replace your right arm? I could always count on him.

Shortly after the Supreme Court ruled,
On November 6, 2014. I had the honor of legally marrying the love of my life.

John never judged people by what they had or didn't have, he didn't care what color you were, what religion you were - or weren't. John was a Christian that believed in the Lord Jesus Christ, but had little use for organized religion and it's often damnation sermons about gay people. He was raised as a Presbyterian by Christian Parents and I know he had a personal relationship with God. Spouses talk about these things - among them death and I can tell you he is in that New dimension of Light with his daddy & Grandma Calhoun, "Miss Mary". I plan to join him in that light - someday & I invite you today to join us. God created John & I just as we were and sent his son, Jesus to save our souls. We are all part of his divine plan. God I know this must be all part of your plan and please show me the right way now.
Published Obituary:
John Westley Broome Jr., 61 ,life partner of Jeff Lee Hubbard, went to be with the Lord on Friday, March 9, 2018.
Mr. Broome was born in Abbeville, South Carolina to Elizabeth C. Broome and the late John Westley Broome, Sr. He attended East Carolina University. Mr. Broome was multi- faceted in his work experience. He held many important positions and brought his love of life into everything he did. He was a loving son, brother, uncle, and partner. He was treasured by all who knew him.
Surviving, in addition to his partner, are his mother, Elizabeth Broome, and brother, William Broome (wife Mary Curtis) and two nieces, Ashley and Hannah Broome. He is also survived by a very special aunt, Juanita Broadwell and cousin, Debra Calhoun along with many other important family members.
A Celebration of Life Service will be held Saturday March 17, 2018 at twelve noon at the Vogler's Funeral and Cremation Service Chapel, 2951 Reynolda Road, Winston-Salem, NC. Friends are cordially invited to a reception with the family following the service at the funeral home.

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Eulogy delivered by Jeff Hubbard
John Broome , Jr. Memorial Service
Winston-Salem, NC
March 17, 2018

I met John in the Summer of 1982 at The Power Company Gay Bar. I had just moved back home to Winston - Salem from New York City. Unlike Winston-Salem of today, there were no gay organizations , gay churches or social groups; only the gay bar.

My eyes caught his from across the room. I thought he was the best looking man I had ever seen. I asked him to dance - he agreed -" It's Raining Men" by the Weathergirls was playing. We always considered it, "Our Song" . We chatted until closing time & I asked if he we could meet me there again the next night.
He agreed. I could hardly wait until the next day.

I was there when the doors opened - One Hour Passed , Two Hours Passed - I was pretty sure I had been stood up - finally at about 11:30PM - he walked in the door - my eyes caught his - he smiled & I think we both knew at that moment. In a matter of weeks we were a couple. We both were living with our parents, so in September we moved into our first home.

That Thanksgiving John invited both of our parents over to meet each other. I remember it as a pleasant day.
I liked John's parents they were really good people. I was fortunate to have them for in-laws. Mrs. Broome seems like my own mother, esp. since the death of mine.

On December 19th of that year,1982, John & I were married. As an Episcopalian, I wanted a full communion service. I asked the Rev. Dr. Dudley Calhoun, my minister at St. Paul's for advice. At that time he could not marry us, however with his & Rev. Clark Thompson's from Salem College's help we found a Unitarian minister who would marry us. Several of you here were present that day. Many of our older friends from then have already passed. We spent our honeymoon in New York City & John met a few of my friends from my 2 years there - all of who are now gone - many in the AIDS crisis.

I went to work for my Uncle Lewis Hubbard selling real estate & John managed several mall stores & eventually went to work for Wachovia. These were good productive years. We would buy a house, fix it up, sell it & buy another.
Until,
Jeff caught "Victorian Madness" & bought the 1894 Hadley Mansion in Mt. Airy. It could have been a good investment - but Jeff of course, had to live in it. So we joined the social whirl of Mt. Airy. That Christmas the house was on the Preservation Society's home tour & John arranged a grand cocktail party for a couple hundred friends & business associates. I was so proud of him. If you ever seen the movie "The Money Pit", - it could have been written about us. We moved back to Winston -Salem much poorer. The best thing we found in Mt. Airy, was our housekeeper, Sybil - she became like a mother to John. Until her death a few years ago, they talked on the phone weekly, sometimes more. Her family are still good friends today, as are several others from our Mt. Airy days.

There were several more productive years.

Until
Jeff caught "Bar Madness" . I bought a bar downtown & we went into the bar business. John worked the bar from 5pm - 8pm weekdays. Me at nights. We moved to a loft apartment across the street. They were great years. We were a hit and starting to make some money and we met a lot of people, who became lifelong friends, many who are here today. John was a great bartender with his stories & laughter. Everyone called him "Miss Broome".
Some of his favorite expressions:
Well - You just think you can piss on velvet don't you
Miss Otis regrets"" which meant it weren't gonna happen.
Well - You can take your little happy ass right on down the road
JEFF - Would you please quit being such a drama queen

One awful night a drunk driver left the bar & killed 3 teenagers in a car wreck.
There was not nearly enough insurance & we lost the bar & all it's corporate assets.
I vowed I would never serve alcohol again. As to their deaths, seldom is the day that I don't think of it.

Living across the street from the now vacant and For Sale Bar was not going to work. So I talked John into moving to Myrtle Beach. I found a job 1st & then got them to hire John soon after. They were mostly productive years - I was able to take my mother to Europe twice & in 2002 we went to New York City and Venice for our 20th anniversary. It was wonderful - It was the dead of winter - not a tourist to be found anywhere - we had a suite facing the Grand Canal & We were the only guests in the hotel for 2 of our 3 nights. My best memory of that 2nd honeymoon is having a wonderful dinner & several bottles of wine. We walked arm and arm for what seemed like hours.

In July of 2007, my mother who was suffering with increasing dementia came to live with us. Our home was a walkup in Myrtle Beach & so my brother let me have his one level beach house in Shallotte to care for her. I still live there today. That November my brother died with aggressive cancer & he & my nieces left me the house for caring for mama. In 2008, mother had a stroke & became bedridden. I worked as an auditor & John quit his job to help me care for her. His strength is all that kept me sane - in What was downward spiral of depression. There were several times I broke down & cried in his arms. Mom died in 2009.

After moms death,

John took the housekeeping manager's job at the same hotel I was auditor at.
About 5 years ago I went to work as a Supervisor I still hold that position today. When a job opening came up several years ago I hired John to be my right hand guy - like he had been our whole life - This past year we won first place in the state & John had a lot to do with that.- I like my job - & I think John liked his also - these last years for the most part were good. - but how do you replace your right arm? I could always count on him.

Shortly after the Supreme Court ruled,
On November 6, 2014. I had the honor of legally marrying the love of my life.

John never judged people by what they had or didn't have, he didn't care what color you were, what religion you were - or weren't. John was a Christian that believed in the Lord Jesus Christ, but had little use for organized religion and it's often damnation sermons about gay people. He was raised as a Presbyterian by Christian Parents and I know he had a personal relationship with God. Spouses talk about these things - among them death and I can tell you he is in that New dimension of Light with his daddy & Grandma Calhoun, "Miss Mary". I plan to join him in that light - someday & I invite you today to join us. God created John & I just as we were and sent his son, Jesus to save our souls. We are all part of his divine plan. God I know this must be all part of your plan and please show me the right way now.