I never knew my grandmother Antoinette's 2nd husband, but I did know they weren't together for too long a period of time ... only 5 years of marriage, that his birthday was May 8th but not sure of the year (between 1880's-1890's).
He was grandpa Anthony's cousin, and after a respectable mourning period for my grandpa, grandma was properly approached by Antonio expressing his interest in grandma. As my grandma thought Antonio was cousins with her deceased husband, she assumed he was also like him in character and personality, therefore accepted the courtship in faith of these ideas. After a proper length of courtship, and acceptance from her 2 adult daughters, grandma and Antonio married.
All were happy and things had gone well for a while, but somewhere things began to change. During this period, my mother's sister had married, moved into her own place with her husband, and had a son, but mom being a single lady lived at home with grandma and Antonio. From the stories I was told, although he was not a terrible man, he started exhibiting aggressive behavior with in the home, especially towards my mom. Not in a seductive manner, more a dominating and controlling manner, and grandma was none to pleased at his bulling ways towards her daughter.
The proverbial straw would eventually brake the proverbial camels back however, and did ... BIG time!
Mom was a woman who worked and brought home her meager wages. She contributed to the household and put the rest in her saving account, after all, she was more than entitled to those little dividends. Antonio wanted to know how much was in her savings account, demanded to view her pass book, and wouldn't take 'no' for an answer. He barged into her bedroom, opened her "personals" draw (keep in mind, in those times a man would never dare disrespect a lady's privacy in such a manner, especially a father or father figure), and dug into all her feminine items for her book. He read she had saved roughly $1,200 (quite a bit of money for those days following the depression). He demanded half her savings from mom's account (keep in mind she was already willingly contributing generously to the household on a weekly basis). Grandma tried talking with him rationally telling him how mom had always contributed to the household and that she earned what she had saved by working hard, but he insisted that if he didn't get it he told my grandma that she had to put mom out of the house.
Well ... Grandma was fit to be tied, that was the final straw! Grandma told him no daughter of hers would ever be thrown out of her home and he better pack his things and go himself. Which is what he did.
They teetered back and forth threw the court system for a short while, and realizing exactly what he wanted, mom relayed this to grandma explaining that all he wanted was the hard earned money that grandpa made together with grandma through their grocery store business. Grandma made the decision to get rid of this headache once and for all. Although this was a very difficult decision and extremely upsetting for her, she resolved to settle the matter once and for all by giving him half of my grandpa's earnings with 3 stipulations: that he could never ask her for any more money, that he stay out of their lives, and that there would never be a divorce (she didn't believe in divorce), just a legal separation. He agreed to everything, they became legally separated, and they never heard anything more from or of him again until grandma was informed of his death in 1957 by one of his family members.
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He was grandpa Anthony's cousin, and after a respectable mourning period for my grandpa, grandma was properly approached by Antonio expressing his interest in grandma. As my grandma thought Antonio was cousins with her deceased husband, she assumed he was also like him in character and personality, therefore accepted the courtship in faith of these ideas. After a proper length of courtship, and acceptance from her 2 adult daughters, grandma and Antonio married.
All were happy and things had gone well for a while, but somewhere things began to change. During this period, my mother's sister had married, moved into her own place with her husband, and had a son, but mom being a single lady lived at home with grandma and Antonio. From the stories I was told, although he was not a terrible man, he started exhibiting aggressive behavior with in the home, especially towards my mom. Not in a seductive manner, more a dominating and controlling manner, and grandma was none to pleased at his bulling ways towards her daughter.
The proverbial straw would eventually brake the proverbial camels back however, and did ... BIG time!
Mom was a woman who worked and brought home her meager wages. She contributed to the household and put the rest in her saving account, after all, she was more than entitled to those little dividends. Antonio wanted to know how much was in her savings account, demanded to view her pass book, and wouldn't take 'no' for an answer. He barged into her bedroom, opened her "personals" draw (keep in mind, in those times a man would never dare disrespect a lady's privacy in such a manner, especially a father or father figure), and dug into all her feminine items for her book. He read she had saved roughly $1,200 (quite a bit of money for those days following the depression). He demanded half her savings from mom's account (keep in mind she was already willingly contributing generously to the household on a weekly basis). Grandma tried talking with him rationally telling him how mom had always contributed to the household and that she earned what she had saved by working hard, but he insisted that if he didn't get it he told my grandma that she had to put mom out of the house.
Well ... Grandma was fit to be tied, that was the final straw! Grandma told him no daughter of hers would ever be thrown out of her home and he better pack his things and go himself. Which is what he did.
They teetered back and forth threw the court system for a short while, and realizing exactly what he wanted, mom relayed this to grandma explaining that all he wanted was the hard earned money that grandpa made together with grandma through their grocery store business. Grandma made the decision to get rid of this headache once and for all. Although this was a very difficult decision and extremely upsetting for her, she resolved to settle the matter once and for all by giving him half of my grandpa's earnings with 3 stipulations: that he could never ask her for any more money, that he stay out of their lives, and that there would never be a divorce (she didn't believe in divorce), just a legal separation. He agreed to everything, they became legally separated, and they never heard anything more from or of him again until grandma was informed of his death in 1957 by one of his family members.
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I never knew my grandmother Antoinette's 2nd husband, but I did know they weren't together for too long a period of time ... only 5 years of marriage, that his birthday was May 8th but not sure of the year (between 1880's-1890's).
He was grandpa Anthony's cousin, and after a respectable mourning period for my grandpa, grandma was properly approached by Antonio expressing his interest in grandma. As my grandma thought Antonio was cousins with her deceased husband, she assumed he was also like him in character and personality, therefore accepted the courtship in faith of these ideas. After a proper length of courtship, and acceptance from her 2 adult daughters, grandma and Antonio married.
All were happy and things had gone well for a while, but somewhere things began to change. During this period, my mother's sister had married, moved into her own place with her husband, and had a son, but mom being a single lady lived at home with grandma and Antonio. From the stories I was told, although he was not a terrible man, he started exhibiting aggressive behavior with in the home, especially towards my mom. Not in a seductive manner, more a dominating and controlling manner, and grandma was none to pleased at his bulling ways towards her daughter.
The proverbial straw would eventually brake the proverbial camels back however, and did ... BIG time!
Mom was a woman who worked and brought home her meager wages. She contributed to the household and put the rest in her saving account, after all, she was more than entitled to those little dividends. Antonio wanted to know how much was in her savings account, demanded to view her pass book, and wouldn't take 'no' for an answer. He barged into her bedroom, opened her "personals" draw (keep in mind, in those times a man would never dare disrespect a lady's privacy in such a manner, especially a father or father figure), and dug into all her feminine items for her book. He read she had saved roughly $1,200 (quite a bit of money for those days following the depression). He demanded half her savings from mom's account (keep in mind she was already willingly contributing generously to the household on a weekly basis). Grandma tried talking with him rationally telling him how mom had always contributed to the household and that she earned what she had saved by working hard, but he insisted that if he didn't get it he told my grandma that she had to put mom out of the house.
Well ... Grandma was fit to be tied, that was the final straw! Grandma told him no daughter of hers would ever be thrown out of her home and he better pack his things and go himself. Which is what he did.
They teetered back and forth threw the court system for a short while, and realizing exactly what he wanted, mom relayed this to grandma explaining that all he wanted was the hard earned money that grandpa made together with grandma through their grocery store business. Grandma made the decision to get rid of this headache once and for all. Although this was a very difficult decision and extremely upsetting for her, she resolved to settle the matter once and for all by giving him half of my grandpa's earnings with 3 stipulations: that he could never ask her for any more money, that he stay out of their lives, and that there would never be a divorce (she didn't believe in divorce), just a legal separation. He agreed to everything, they became legally separated, and they never heard anything more from or of him again until grandma was informed of his death in 1957 by one of his family members.
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He was grandpa Anthony's cousin, and after a respectable mourning period for my grandpa, grandma was properly approached by Antonio expressing his interest in grandma. As my grandma thought Antonio was cousins with her deceased husband, she assumed he was also like him in character and personality, therefore accepted the courtship in faith of these ideas. After a proper length of courtship, and acceptance from her 2 adult daughters, grandma and Antonio married.
All were happy and things had gone well for a while, but somewhere things began to change. During this period, my mother's sister had married, moved into her own place with her husband, and had a son, but mom being a single lady lived at home with grandma and Antonio. From the stories I was told, although he was not a terrible man, he started exhibiting aggressive behavior with in the home, especially towards my mom. Not in a seductive manner, more a dominating and controlling manner, and grandma was none to pleased at his bulling ways towards her daughter.
The proverbial straw would eventually brake the proverbial camels back however, and did ... BIG time!
Mom was a woman who worked and brought home her meager wages. She contributed to the household and put the rest in her saving account, after all, she was more than entitled to those little dividends. Antonio wanted to know how much was in her savings account, demanded to view her pass book, and wouldn't take 'no' for an answer. He barged into her bedroom, opened her "personals" draw (keep in mind, in those times a man would never dare disrespect a lady's privacy in such a manner, especially a father or father figure), and dug into all her feminine items for her book. He read she had saved roughly $1,200 (quite a bit of money for those days following the depression). He demanded half her savings from mom's account (keep in mind she was already willingly contributing generously to the household on a weekly basis). Grandma tried talking with him rationally telling him how mom had always contributed to the household and that she earned what she had saved by working hard, but he insisted that if he didn't get it he told my grandma that she had to put mom out of the house.
Well ... Grandma was fit to be tied, that was the final straw! Grandma told him no daughter of hers would ever be thrown out of her home and he better pack his things and go himself. Which is what he did.
They teetered back and forth threw the court system for a short while, and realizing exactly what he wanted, mom relayed this to grandma explaining that all he wanted was the hard earned money that grandpa made together with grandma through their grocery store business. Grandma made the decision to get rid of this headache once and for all. Although this was a very difficult decision and extremely upsetting for her, she resolved to settle the matter once and for all by giving him half of my grandpa's earnings with 3 stipulations: that he could never ask her for any more money, that he stay out of their lives, and that there would never be a divorce (she didn't believe in divorce), just a legal separation. He agreed to everything, they became legally separated, and they never heard anything more from or of him again until grandma was informed of his death in 1957 by one of his family members.
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