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Constance Claire “Connie” <I>Bowen</I> Trask

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Constance Claire “Connie” Bowen Trask

Birth
St. Louis County, Missouri, USA
Death
21 Aug 2011 (aged 69)
Beaufort County, South Carolina, USA
Burial
Beaufort County, South Carolina, USA GPS-Latitude: 32.4346403, Longitude: -80.6745089
Plot
Cremation urn within the void under the ledger
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Constance Claire Bowen Trask, 1942-2011, a tribute
AUGUST 22, 2011

Constance Claire Bowen Trask, a great and beautiful lady of Beaufort SC, Stonington ME, Atlanta, Miami and St. Louis, passed away early Sunday morning, August 21, 2011, at her home, Tabby Manse, overlooking Beaufort bay.

Connie turned all eyes toward her in her resemblance to Ingrid Bergman but Connie was more beautiful. Throughout her life she brought joy to everyone who knew her with her good looks, sweet disposition, generous spirit, artistic creativity and iron will.

Born St. Louis, Missouri, June 21, 1942, Connie grew up with her father, mother and three siblings in Ladue, a beautiful suburb, to become the belle of her beloved day school, Mary Institute (now Mary Institute and St. Louis Country Day School), founded by the grandfather of the poet T.S. Eliot,

Connie attended junior college at Centenary in New Jersey and was graduated 1962 with a bachelor’s degree from the University of Florida at Gainesville. She moved to Cambridge, Massachusetts, to teach at The Buckingham School (now Buckingham Browne & Nichols), a day school for children of Harvard and MIT teachers and other bright students.

The week Connie arrived in Cambridge, a young man entering Harvard Law School moved into a house next door. He was so struck by her beauty that he vowed to meet her. The opportunity arrived months later when he won the Ames Competition, a legal argument in a moot court, and concluded she might be impressed enough to accompany him to a celebratory dinner that night. They were married 18 months later and toasted their 45th wedding anniversary July 2, 2011, in Geneva, Switzerland, while visiting their first-born son and his family, who live there.

Altogether Connie and her husband produced three children, Graham, Christian and Claire, handsome, beautiful and successful in their own right. She had the joy of seeing them grow to maturity, marry three wonderful mates and produce eight wonderful grandchildren, six boys and two girls, all of whom gave her great joy to the end of her life.

After Cambridge and a lengthy trip to Europe, Connie and her husband moved to Atlanta, where he practiced law at King & Spalding and Jones, Bird & Howell (now Alston & Bird) and they began their family. With partners Silvia Heiner and Frank Parker, Connie founded and operated a popular horticultural nursery and became a member of The Junior League of Atlanta and the vestry of St. Luke’s Episcopal Church.

Kicking and screaming at leaving the independence and choice of a city, Connie moved herself and her three children from Atlanta to small-town Beaufort when her husband confronted his South Carolina fate in family businesses there. She enrolled her children in the local day school, missed them terribly when they departed to boarding schools, colleges, graduate schools and foreign countries, and brought them home for grand weddings and reunions.

In Beaufort Connie became surrogate daughter to her husband’s mother, Flora Graham Trask, who had only sons. Connie helped transform Flora’s Best Western Sea Island Motel into Sea Island Inn, producing for Flora an income that made her comfortable and happy throughout her dotage.

Connie served on the vestry of St. Helena’s Episcopal Church, helping set its flock on a trajectory of growth that continues to this day. She became a devoted member of The Clover Club, one of the oldest and most exclusive women’s literary clubs in America, and of The Junior League of Charleston.

Connie became a movie star when in 1985 she played the role of a beautiful Southern lady in the full-length feature movie Charlotte Forten’s Mission, which has become a cult classic. For years Connie played tennis with a group of Beaufort women, startling her husband and children when they won state, regional and national championships in the US Tennis Association/Volvo Tennis League. She excelled at bridge, making friendships with bridge players throughout the community. She was especially happy snipping out of The New York Times the weekly bridge hand and every day collecting newspaper and magazine food recipes too numerous to count.

Connie’s friends remember especially her spontaneity in rearranging furniture in her homes. They could never anticipate what her house would look like because every day she rearranged sofas, tables, chairs, pictures, knick knacks and houseplants. Sometimes she transported entire ensembles one room to another. Her husband never knew one day to the next the room in which they would spend the night.

Her houses were her joy. Tabby Manse, historic remnant of Revolutionary War days, and its garden were her passions. She rearranged shrubs in the garden as if they were furniture. Her summer houses in Stonington, Maine, where she and her husband retreated from Beaufort’s oppressive summer heat, gave her great joy. Fall, winter and spring she loved her weekend home on Distant Island near Beaufort. All these places became meccas for family and friends from all over the world.

Connie’s joy of life was marred by disappointment and tragedy. At the end of her high-school junior year her parents moved to Miami, taking Connie away from St. Louis and Mary Institute and denying her the May Queen crown her classmates wished to give her. Next year her St. Louis boyfriend died in a car crash after his first year at Princeton. Just a few years later when Connie was 28, her mother took her own life. After Connie worked herself to the bone making Flora’s motel a stunning success, she and her husband suffered perfidy and lawsuits by her envious in laws. Her father and her older brother died. Six years ago she was diagnosed with a rare form of carcinoid cancer called neurodendocrine, so rare she went all the way to Uppsala, Sweden, to find treatment.

Connie bore all these undeserved blows and indignities with grace and a strong will. To the end she was beautiful, loving, kind, determined, unforgiving of those who tried but failed to bring her misery, and undaunted.

Constance Claire Bowen Trask leaves her husband, George Graham Trask of Beaufort

Their three children and their spouses:

Graham Bowen Trask and Korin Clark Swanson of Geneva, Switzerland, and Rhinebeck, New York

Christian Whitmire Trask and Marcellene Lea Trask of Beaufort and Atlanta

Claire Everlee Trask Nitze and Samuel Prentiss Nitze of New York City

Eight grandchildren: George Maxfield Trask, Richard Graham Trask, Benjamin Lea Trask, Verane Flore Trask, Henry Hunter Trask, Milo Henry Nitze, Daniel Bowen Trask and Everlee Prentiss Nitze

Connie’s sister, Sally Joan Patricia Bowen Fletcher of Jackson, Mississippi

Connie’s brother, John Henry Bowen of Miami

And Connie’s friends everywhere of all ages and from all walks of life, whose lives she touched and who touched her life for the goodness that life can bring.

Connie is predeceased by:

Her grandmothers, Claire Marie Whitmire Eibel and Georgia Gertrude Ivey Bowen of Atlanta

Her mother, Everlee Claire Eibel Bowen of Atlanta, St. Louis and Miami

Her father, Roy Leon Bowen of Atlanta, St. Louis and Miami

Her brother, Roy Eibel Bowen of St. Louis and Miami

A memorial service will be held 2:00 p.m., Wednesday, August 24, 2011, St. Helena’s Episcopal Church, Beaufort, South Carolina, in appreciation and celebration of Connie’s life. She leaves a final request that family and friends make tax-deductible donations in her memory to The Carcinoid Cancer Foundation, 333 Mamaroneck Avenue #492, White Plains, NY 10605.

Written by her husband George Graham Trask spontaneously two hours after her death.
Constance Claire Bowen Trask, 1942-2011, a tribute
AUGUST 22, 2011

Constance Claire Bowen Trask, a great and beautiful lady of Beaufort SC, Stonington ME, Atlanta, Miami and St. Louis, passed away early Sunday morning, August 21, 2011, at her home, Tabby Manse, overlooking Beaufort bay.

Connie turned all eyes toward her in her resemblance to Ingrid Bergman but Connie was more beautiful. Throughout her life she brought joy to everyone who knew her with her good looks, sweet disposition, generous spirit, artistic creativity and iron will.

Born St. Louis, Missouri, June 21, 1942, Connie grew up with her father, mother and three siblings in Ladue, a beautiful suburb, to become the belle of her beloved day school, Mary Institute (now Mary Institute and St. Louis Country Day School), founded by the grandfather of the poet T.S. Eliot,

Connie attended junior college at Centenary in New Jersey and was graduated 1962 with a bachelor’s degree from the University of Florida at Gainesville. She moved to Cambridge, Massachusetts, to teach at The Buckingham School (now Buckingham Browne & Nichols), a day school for children of Harvard and MIT teachers and other bright students.

The week Connie arrived in Cambridge, a young man entering Harvard Law School moved into a house next door. He was so struck by her beauty that he vowed to meet her. The opportunity arrived months later when he won the Ames Competition, a legal argument in a moot court, and concluded she might be impressed enough to accompany him to a celebratory dinner that night. They were married 18 months later and toasted their 45th wedding anniversary July 2, 2011, in Geneva, Switzerland, while visiting their first-born son and his family, who live there.

Altogether Connie and her husband produced three children, Graham, Christian and Claire, handsome, beautiful and successful in their own right. She had the joy of seeing them grow to maturity, marry three wonderful mates and produce eight wonderful grandchildren, six boys and two girls, all of whom gave her great joy to the end of her life.

After Cambridge and a lengthy trip to Europe, Connie and her husband moved to Atlanta, where he practiced law at King & Spalding and Jones, Bird & Howell (now Alston & Bird) and they began their family. With partners Silvia Heiner and Frank Parker, Connie founded and operated a popular horticultural nursery and became a member of The Junior League of Atlanta and the vestry of St. Luke’s Episcopal Church.

Kicking and screaming at leaving the independence and choice of a city, Connie moved herself and her three children from Atlanta to small-town Beaufort when her husband confronted his South Carolina fate in family businesses there. She enrolled her children in the local day school, missed them terribly when they departed to boarding schools, colleges, graduate schools and foreign countries, and brought them home for grand weddings and reunions.

In Beaufort Connie became surrogate daughter to her husband’s mother, Flora Graham Trask, who had only sons. Connie helped transform Flora’s Best Western Sea Island Motel into Sea Island Inn, producing for Flora an income that made her comfortable and happy throughout her dotage.

Connie served on the vestry of St. Helena’s Episcopal Church, helping set its flock on a trajectory of growth that continues to this day. She became a devoted member of The Clover Club, one of the oldest and most exclusive women’s literary clubs in America, and of The Junior League of Charleston.

Connie became a movie star when in 1985 she played the role of a beautiful Southern lady in the full-length feature movie Charlotte Forten’s Mission, which has become a cult classic. For years Connie played tennis with a group of Beaufort women, startling her husband and children when they won state, regional and national championships in the US Tennis Association/Volvo Tennis League. She excelled at bridge, making friendships with bridge players throughout the community. She was especially happy snipping out of The New York Times the weekly bridge hand and every day collecting newspaper and magazine food recipes too numerous to count.

Connie’s friends remember especially her spontaneity in rearranging furniture in her homes. They could never anticipate what her house would look like because every day she rearranged sofas, tables, chairs, pictures, knick knacks and houseplants. Sometimes she transported entire ensembles one room to another. Her husband never knew one day to the next the room in which they would spend the night.

Her houses were her joy. Tabby Manse, historic remnant of Revolutionary War days, and its garden were her passions. She rearranged shrubs in the garden as if they were furniture. Her summer houses in Stonington, Maine, where she and her husband retreated from Beaufort’s oppressive summer heat, gave her great joy. Fall, winter and spring she loved her weekend home on Distant Island near Beaufort. All these places became meccas for family and friends from all over the world.

Connie’s joy of life was marred by disappointment and tragedy. At the end of her high-school junior year her parents moved to Miami, taking Connie away from St. Louis and Mary Institute and denying her the May Queen crown her classmates wished to give her. Next year her St. Louis boyfriend died in a car crash after his first year at Princeton. Just a few years later when Connie was 28, her mother took her own life. After Connie worked herself to the bone making Flora’s motel a stunning success, she and her husband suffered perfidy and lawsuits by her envious in laws. Her father and her older brother died. Six years ago she was diagnosed with a rare form of carcinoid cancer called neurodendocrine, so rare she went all the way to Uppsala, Sweden, to find treatment.

Connie bore all these undeserved blows and indignities with grace and a strong will. To the end she was beautiful, loving, kind, determined, unforgiving of those who tried but failed to bring her misery, and undaunted.

Constance Claire Bowen Trask leaves her husband, George Graham Trask of Beaufort

Their three children and their spouses:

Graham Bowen Trask and Korin Clark Swanson of Geneva, Switzerland, and Rhinebeck, New York

Christian Whitmire Trask and Marcellene Lea Trask of Beaufort and Atlanta

Claire Everlee Trask Nitze and Samuel Prentiss Nitze of New York City

Eight grandchildren: George Maxfield Trask, Richard Graham Trask, Benjamin Lea Trask, Verane Flore Trask, Henry Hunter Trask, Milo Henry Nitze, Daniel Bowen Trask and Everlee Prentiss Nitze

Connie’s sister, Sally Joan Patricia Bowen Fletcher of Jackson, Mississippi

Connie’s brother, John Henry Bowen of Miami

And Connie’s friends everywhere of all ages and from all walks of life, whose lives she touched and who touched her life for the goodness that life can bring.

Connie is predeceased by:

Her grandmothers, Claire Marie Whitmire Eibel and Georgia Gertrude Ivey Bowen of Atlanta

Her mother, Everlee Claire Eibel Bowen of Atlanta, St. Louis and Miami

Her father, Roy Leon Bowen of Atlanta, St. Louis and Miami

Her brother, Roy Eibel Bowen of St. Louis and Miami

A memorial service will be held 2:00 p.m., Wednesday, August 24, 2011, St. Helena’s Episcopal Church, Beaufort, South Carolina, in appreciation and celebration of Connie’s life. She leaves a final request that family and friends make tax-deductible donations in her memory to The Carcinoid Cancer Foundation, 333 Mamaroneck Avenue #492, White Plains, NY 10605.

Written by her husband George Graham Trask spontaneously two hours after her death.

Inscription

In loving memory, Constance Claire Bowen, George Graham Trask, and their family, Beaufort, South Carolina. My heart with pleasure fills and dances with the daffodils. (Daffodils are engraved on the stone. The Trask family had been in the commercial daffodil farming business for 50 years.)

Gravesite Details

Excellent condition. This is a traditional raised ledger in slate on a brick foundation engraved by hand by Nicholas Benson of The John Stevens Shop, Newport, Rhode Island, USA. Benson was awarded a MacArthur Genius Award in 2010 as a stonecutter.



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